I often write long posts, so I thought I would start a short post series created to make us all pause for a moment. Of course, what could be a better teaching moment for my daughter, so I named it after her…
Rules of Life for Alyssa #1 – Perfection
You don’t have to be perfect.
Perfect people do not exist and no matter how hard you may try, you are not going to attain perfection.
I’ve always felt that I had to be perfect in order to be loved. Why would I feel such a crazy thing? Because when I fell short of other people’s expectations, I was shamed, told that I had caused disappointment and sometimes I was even shunned. Eventually I was carrying enough guilt and shame for all the disappointment I caused, that I felt I was unlovable. Do you see how this could create a really vicious cycle?
Save yourself a whole lot of heartbreak and don’t ever, ever, ever expect perfection from yourself or anyone else.