Single Digits To The Wedding With This Man

by Sherry Riter in Brent,Family

Today began the real countdown to the wedding…9 days. I kept reminding everyone at work that it was 9 days 7 hours. Then it was 9 days 5 hours. By the end of the day it became 8 days 23 hours and 59 minutes!

Yes, I’m excited.

People were laughing. Some said, “Just give it a few years.” Others “hope” that it will always bring me this much happiness.


I thought I would tell you why I believe this marriage is different for me and Brent.

Have you ever broken a bone? You try to perform a normal task and it is either not possible or is extremely painful. OF course, broken bones take time to heal, so you are without the full use of that part of your body for quite some time. Eventually, the bone heals. If all goes well, it heals “correctly,” but sometimes it heals a little askew. Nonetheless, it is healed and you can once again use that body part.

It has been so long since you had full use of your body that it feels strange, but you are so appreciative that the bone has healed.

Let’s say, like the Dallas Cowboys quarterback, Tony Romo, you break the same bone again. This time the break and healing is familiar, but it still takes time to heal and maybe it takes even more time because you already broke that bone once. Second breaks are not easier. I think second breaks are harder to heal and more painful.

I’ve broken my right pinkie toe four times or maybe five times. I’ve lost count. Anyway, I know what I’m talking about when it comes to broken bone pain and the appreciation I feel to finally get to use the healed part of my body again.

Do I treat my pinkie toe special? I sure do! I never put it in a pair of shoes that causes it pain! I appreciate my pinkie toe more than you can imagine!!!

Brent and I have broken marriages in our past. We see the part we played in the marriages and we also have made conscious changes in ourselves over the years. We changed not only because of the experiences in those marriages, but we have gotten older, discarded a lot of our self-defeating behaviors, and said goodbye to some baggage. We both are at the point where we feel an abundance of gratitude to be loved by someone who notices the little things and doesn’t take them for granted.

While Brent appreciates that I “get him,” I appreciate that he makes me laugh everyday. We both find peace with one another. As you well know, “peace” has not been something I’ve felt a whole lot of for quite some time.

Love and gratitude are emotions we not only feel, but we also express daily. Why? Because like the experience of having a broken bone and the appreciation of the healed bone, we both feel a great amount of gratitude for being loved back. Telling each other how we feel is a privilege.

I know that’s a whole lot of gushy love stuff, but it really is the truth. There isn’t anything more wonderful than love. I am about to add another person who loves me to my family. I’m feeling very thankful and blessed.

Since inquiring minds want to know and SEE, here is one of my favorite pictures of the wonderful man who has captured my heart…

brent 2015-11

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Annie November 17, 2015 at 10:26 am

So very happy for both of you! Have a wonderful wedding and decades of happiness together!


2 Joan November 18, 2015 at 12:54 pm

Okay, so Brent can make you laugh, but it was those baby blues that got you. You took one look at them and swooned. 🙂


3 Joan November 18, 2015 at 12:56 pm

Of course the mustache is not bad either. That’s a lip warmer! 🙂


4 Joan November 18, 2015 at 1:00 pm

He has really great skin. Have you been giving him facials? 🙂


5 Joan November 18, 2015 at 1:02 pm

Okay, I see no flaws from the face up. When are you going to reveal the rest of him — or is he for your eyes only? 🙂


6 Joan November 18, 2015 at 1:14 pm

Am I being silly? Tell me I’m being silly, Sherry. I’m not so shallow that I judge Brent by his looks. I judge him by how nice and devoted he has been to you and how good he has treated you — and if that is the case BRENT HAS BEEN VERY NICE AND DEVOTED TO YOU and HE HAS TREATED YOU VERY GOOD! He’s a keeper, no doubt about that! 🙂


7 1010ParkPlace November 18, 2015 at 9:16 pm

I’m excited for both of you! Congratulations! You sound like a great fit. Brenda


8 Krista November 19, 2015 at 9:05 am

I clicked on your link because the title and picture made me curious. I am glad I did. You expressed healing, hope and renewed loved in a well thought out post. I hope many people with past wounds (and brokenness) read it and mediate on your words. I am happy for you both.


9 Sherry Riter November 23, 2015 at 8:43 am

🙂 Thank you so much Krista!


10 Teresa Custor November 19, 2015 at 3:41 pm

Hope you will be ever so happy. Mom loves you and God help him if he breaks your heart. I told you do Joan, lol


11 Sherry Riter January 18, 2016 at 11:32 pm

Thanks Mom!


12 Bev November 23, 2015 at 10:46 pm

Do you have chocolate packed for the honeymoon? :). I am so glad you are happy and at peace. Your fiancé is a handsome one! And Joan, is still so funny!


13 Sherry Riter January 18, 2016 at 11:30 pm

LOL The chocolate man!!!!! LOL


14 Jim July 22, 2016 at 2:53 pm

So very glad to hear a happy ending. I’m very glad things have got so much better for you. Good luck always!!


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