126 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Sad And Blue To Help Restore Happiness In Your Life

by Sherry Riter in Depression,Happiness,Self-Development  

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So you’re feeling sad and blue which is totally depressing you. Well, there are so many things you can do to get out of the funk.

I know what it feels like to be unhappy. The first thing that pops into my mind when I’m feeling unhappy is that I’m never going to be happy again.

Oh hog wash!

The only way that you won’t ever be happy again is if you choose to remain unhappy. You can change your circumstances, condition and/or attitude now, in five minutes, in a month or in a year. The control is completely in your hands.

Don’t say, “No.”

It REALLY is completely in your hands. No matter how horrible the circumstance is right now, you can either give into it or fight your way out of it. The choice and change is predicated upon your action. There will be some factors that are out of your control, but your reaction to them is most definitely within your control.

So if you want to be happier today and you want to restore the happiness in your life, you can. It might mean that you have to make the hard choice or a big change which causes discomfort for a short time, but eventually the choice to change will bring about your success and happiness.

I’m able to say all those flowery words that sound good with conviction because I know that they are true. I don’t have to rely on someone else’s word because I’ve experienced the depths of Hell and the only way I got out it was because I did something.

It was a minute-by-minute conscious effort to change and fight for the change in the beginning. I can say that after a seven year struggle while suffering major heartache and mental anguish, life has gotten better because I worked to change my circumstances. Yes, there was more than one thing that I had to change.

Was it easy to change my circumstances in order to have a happier life?

Hell no!

Let me repeat that again.

Hell no!

I lost so much during the battle. I almost lost my soul and my sanity, but “almost” only counts when playing horseshoes. The important thing is that my soul has been released and my mind is in the final stages of healing.

At first it was strictly survival. Then I had to plan and work towards accomplishing the end goal. There were many setbacks which shook my hope and made me feel trapped, but I redoubled my efforts and accepted that my full success was going to be later instead of sooner. The important thing is that I WILL not stop until I am completely successful.

Determination and persistence has been key in restoring happiness in my life. I have whined, complained and cried, but I haven’t given up. I’ve come TOO FAR and lost TOO MUCH to stop now.

😀 Happiness: a state of well-being brought about by enjoying, showing, or marked by contentment, pleasure, satisfaction or joy. 😀

126 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Sad And Blue To Help Restore Happiness In Your Life

With my background of pain and suffering while being trapped in several terrible situations, I want to give you some things to do that will restore happiness in your life. Some of the things can completely transform your future, while others will bring you momentary happiness and peace.

So here I go with the long list of 126 things to do when you’re feeling sad and blue in order to restore happiness in your life.

  1. Watch the sunrise
  2. Learn something new
  3. Browse the book store/library and read excerpts from lots of different books
  4. Garden, mow the lawn, pull weeds
  5. Write a long letter to an old friend or someone you love
  6. Make wild, hot, slow, uninhibited, passionate love
  7. Have a picnic
  8. Smoosh your face on a clean window and admire the imprint of your face – Loosen up! Don’t be an old fuddy duddy! You can ALWAYS clean the window. 😀
  9. Look at beautiful pictures
  10. Buy a new outfit that makes you feel happy
  11. Sing really loud even if it sounds like you’re a dying cow
  12. Pick/buy flowers for yourself
  13. Talk to yourself in the mirror and say positive things about yourself
  14. Sit in a shopping mall or park and watch people
  15. Visit a new place like a museum
  16. Read a book
  17. Take pictures of beautiful and/or intriguing things
  18. Get a manicure/pedicure
  19. Take a long walk
  20. Cry because it is therapeutic to release the sadness through tears
  21. Force yourself to smile
  22. Fantasize about anything that lifts your mood
  23. Get a massage
  24. Spend time with people that help you to become more invigorated about life
  25. Believe that this time of sadness will eventually end
  26. Visit a candy/toy store even if you don’t buy anything
  27. Give a massage
  28. Blow bubbles
  29. Put on perfume or cologne
  30. Talk about your feelings with an empathetic friend or therapist
  31. Text lots of people at the same time and carry on totally different conversations with them all
  32. Play a game with a friend or online
  33. Clean the car, truck, house, attic or garage
  34. Go fishing
  35. Dress to the nines or in other words, get all dressed up and look spiffy
  36. Lift weights
  37. Make/give someone a gift
  38. Enjoy an hour long facial at a spa
  39. Make plans/set goals for the future
  40. Bake cookies for someone you love
  41. Color a picture in a coloring book
  42. Fall in love or reignite the love you already enjoy 😀
  43. Go to a sporting event and cheer loudly
  44. Buy Silly Putty/Play Dough and spend time smooshing and pulling it
  45. Rearrange the furniture in your home
  46. Arrange all your bookmarks on the computer in an organized way
  47. Fly a kite
  48. Take a nap without setting the alarm to wake up
  49. Turn off all noise and listen to the sounds of nature
  50. Get a hair cut
  51. Chew bubble gum and blow bubbles
  52. Investigate something new and sit in on the class for free – karate, college class, sewing, ballroom dancing, art, etc.
  53. Make a list of 100 things you appreciate – have gratitude
  54. Sit by a lake, river or ocean
  55. Scream loudly outside, in the car or in a pillow until you’re exhausted
  56. Make a list of things you want to change in your life
  57. Play with children
  58. Take a long hot, shower or bath, alone or together 😉
  59. Change the sheets on your bed, fluff the pillows and wash the blankets
  60. Get rid of the clutter in your home
  61. Light candles/lower the lights
  62. Deep breathe
  63. Indulge in a guilty pleasure food like ice cream or chocolate
  64. Go for a long drive/bike ride
  65. Swing
  66. Come up with a plan to end a bad habit
  67. Give yourself a hair treatment
  68. Change the oil in the car/Have the oil changed
  69. Wear sexy underwear/bra 😛
  70. Dance
  71. Clean all the windows inside and outside in your home
  72. Work on a home improvement project
  73. Listen to good music
  74. Deep breathe and meditate
  75. Primp – pay attention to your body and provide it with extra attention – shaving, doing nails, applying lotions, using oils, buying new clothes or shoes
  76. Walk around the park
  77. End relationships that bring negativity and unhappiness to your life
  78. Wear your favorite color
  79. Forgive someone. No, forgive everyone! Stop carrying the burden of a grudge or revenge.
  80. Cuddle with your pet or a friend’s pet
  81. Clean your home and declutter it
  82. Visit the botanical garden
  83. Overcome a fear or begin the steps toward overcoming a fear
  84. Plan a vacation
  85. Enjoy the moon especially if reflected of water like the ocean
  86. Make a video
  87. Travel virtually or in real life
  88. Eat some healthy, satisfying food
  89. Daydream
  90. Lay down and watch the clouds in the sky
  91. Pop bubble wrap
  92. Read jokes and laugh out loud
  93. Walk barefoot in the grass or in the sand at the beach
  94. Eat dark chocolate
  95. Drink water
  96. Phone a friend
  97. Drink homemade hot chocolate
  98. Visit a farm
  99. Do something spontaneous like enroll for ballroom dancing lessons, play tennis or go swimming
  100. Eat your meals off your best dishes
  101. Wear raggedy, comfy pajamas or sweat pants
  102. Enjoy being in the sunshine
  103. Drink green tea because it has a chemical (theanine) that increases relation and serotonin/dopamine levels (happiness chemicals)
  104. Plan a move, then move to a location that is closer to work or more peaceful
  105. Grow something in an unconventional way
  106. Exercise
  107. Do something for someone else
  108. Make love/have sex 😛
  109. Sit up straight and lower your shoulders, then breathe out
  110. Do a little maintenance and clean up on your computer
  111. Watch a fun movie that will make you laugh – “White Chicks” does it for me
  112. Write down the things you are grateful for and count your blessings
  113. Make potpourri for aromatherapy to reduce anxiety – lavender, orange and vanilla
  114. Do something that will improve your life such as can vegetables, make soap, etc.
  115. Visit the zoo. There’s nothing like escaping with peaceful animals.
  116. Release all the guilt and regret you feel
  117. Take a cold shower because it increase blood circulation and stimulate the release of endorphins which will elevate your mood.
  118. Pray
  119. In a journal, record some of the funny, crazy things that have happened to you
  120. Write a poem
  121. Change jobs
  122. Yoga
  123. Hug someone
  124. Hold hands – enjoy the feel of your fingers entwined and enjoy looking at your lover’s hand
  125. Wear sexy lingerie 😛
  126. Watch the sunset

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 Philip Bond August 11, 2013 at 3:23 am

Sherry, why is number 63 at 63? Would not eat chocolate rate number two if not one?


2 Sherry Riter August 11, 2013 at 4:51 pm

LOL You’re funny Philip!!!

I do loooooooooove chocolate! I could eat it until it ran outta my ears. 😀

Thankfully, I didn’t have to put the list in order because there would be a whole bunch of things that tied for the first spot. 😉


3 Joan August 11, 2013 at 4:41 pm

I can’t believe it! Out of “126 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Sad And Blue To Help Restore Happiness In Your Life” you left out my favorite thing to do. (Well, it used to be my favorite thing to do when I was married and feeling blue.) I would make an egg salad sandwich piled high with mayonnaise, wash a dozen scallions stalks, and eat the egg salad sandwich and scallions with a bag of potato chips. Yum, yum, yum! Sometimes when I was feeling REALLY BLUE, I would eat two egg salad sandwiches piled high with mayonnaise. I’m telling you it worked like a charm, except for all the weight I gained. I definitely was having an affair, but it was an affair with my refrigerator. You can read all about it in My Mad, Passionate, Wildly Sex-Craved Nights With My Refrigerator.

Today I no longer binge, and I don’t eat egg salad sandwiches anymore because I am now a vegetarian. And I don’t eat potato chips anymore because they are not healthy. But I still love scallions! (Yes, I know, there is nothing like a reformed food addict! :))

So, what do I do now when I feel blue?
I put on my running shoes and I run 10 miles. (Not!)
I swim 50 laps at my gym. (Well, sometimes!)
I get a message. (Don’t I wish!)
I call the plumber. (Wink!)
I write comments on your blog. (All the time! :))
I write way too long comments on your blog. (All the time! :))
I write irrelevant comments on your blog. (A lot of the time! :))

Darn, I really have to stop writing these long comments. Another hour I spent writing a comment when I could have been doing #60 and #81 of your 126 tips. I’m beginning to think that your blog has become an addiction for me. Hey, that can be your next post. You can call it, “126 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Addicted To The Redhead Riter’s Blog To Help Restore Happiness In Your Life.” :)


4 Sherry Riter August 11, 2013 at 4:50 pm


I love the comments you make on my blog! They crack me up all the time!

By the way, I think you SHOULD call the plumber! 😀 😉


5 Joan August 11, 2013 at 4:52 pm

I was just about to and I’m not even feeling blue! :)


6 Sherry Riter August 11, 2013 at 4:53 pm

Yay! Progress! If you call the plumber, I’m sure you will have no problem writing a new post on your blog because you will feel a new surge of inspiration. 😉 :)


7 Joan August 11, 2013 at 4:59 pm

You think so? I wouldn’t count on that. Now, if Mel Brooks called me THAT WOULD BE INSPIRING! You know, I wrote a post called Anne Bancroft, Mel Brooks And Me – Manifesting A Dream. :)


8 Sherry Riter August 11, 2013 at 5:01 pm

(rolling eyes)

You and your Mel Brooks obsession.

(rolling eyes)


9 Peter Spenser August 11, 2013 at 10:32 pm

Why is “learn something new” on there twice? Do I have to learn it twice? Does that mean that I’m so dumb that I have to learn something twice to learn it? That would make me even sadder and bluer! Boy, Sherry, now you’ve really depressed me! I’m going to go eat a bunch of scallions until I feel better.


10 Sherry Riter August 12, 2013 at 12:44 am

On there twice? Hmmm…I don’t see it on there twice. 😉 So don’t be blue. You only have to learn something new once. 😀


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