Rules of Life for Alyssa #2 – Timing
It’s never too late to learn,
But sometimes we learn the lesson too late.
So often I hear people say, “Oh, it’s never too late,” however, sometimes it is too late.
Life is truly a learning experience and we will continue to learn. That is super great. The lessons we learn never go to waste, however, some lessons learned late mean that you can’t ever use what you learn.
Let me give you a simple example.
If I want to be a translator for an airlines, but I don’t learn a foreign language until I’m 85 years old, chances are I won’t get hired for the job. I will have spent my whole life wishing for a dream, but not doing anything about it until it was too late to make the dream come true.
Alright, that is probably a silly example, but it does convey the point. I’ll give you a more applicable example that you can relate to your own life.
You want to grow old with someone that you enjoy long conversations with, share many of the same interests, and who will respect and love you. So if you are in a relationship with an abusive partner, one that cheats on you with other people, or is emotionally unavailable to you and shows it by ignoring you, then the dream you have of happily growing old with someone isn’t likely to come to fruition.
Yes, people can change. Yes, you should stick with the one you married. However, if you start off the marriage hoping to change someone who already has those negative traits, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Yes, you can wait and hope that the person changes, but you could wait all your life for something that might not happen. Why not up your odds by starting off with a better chance at happiness?
Think about your dreams.
Set your goals.
Choose wisely in order to have a better chance that your dreams will come true.
There are no guarantees in life especially when it relates to love. Try to have the odds in your favor from the beginning. Don’t think that you have “all the time in the world” because time does run out on some dreams. Clocks don’t swirl into infinity. There are a set number of minutes in everyday. If you don’t believe me about the fact that you can run out of time for your dreams, just ask my dad. Oh wait, you can’t ask my dad because he has already passed away.