My Love Messages In The Glass Like Penrhyn Castle’s Window Pane By Alice Douglas

by Sherry Riter in Love,Marriage,Marriage series

You’re probably really going to think about this one by the time you get to the ending. Since this is the month of luuuuuuuv (love), I thought that I would throw in an usual love story along with a personal story.

Penrhyn Castle Love Message Alice Douglas

100 Year Old Message Etched In Penrhyn Castle’s Window Pane By Alice Douglas

Let me first tell you the story of Alice Douglas.

Lady Alice Douglas Pennant was born in 1863 as the second daughter of wealthy industrialist, Lord Penrhyn, George Douglas-Pennant. In the late 1800’s they lived in Penrhyn Castle located in North Wales and is in the form of a Norman castle.

The father and daughter had a falling out around 1880 when she was a teenager. It is thought that perhaps the reason was because Lady Alice fell in love with a gardener who was one of the castle staff. Since she was a royal Lady and he a simple commoner, it would not be an approved union by Lord Penrhyn. That is why Lady Alice was forced to stay away from her love and thus spent her time in the nursery.

Sounds like Rapunzel, doesn’t it?

Anyway, Lady Alice scratched “essere amato amando” in the window pane at Penrhyn Castle. The scratched message if translated means, “to be loved, whilst loving.”

Penrhyn Castle Alice Douglas Love Message

I don’t think that this story has a very happy ending. Lady Alice became an artist and upon her death at age 76, she was still unmarried.

Someone please pass me a tissue. Make that a Puff’s tissue with lotion and I will just suffer with the smeared lotion glasses.

(wiping tears)

The Housekeeping Improvement

I belong to a family full of clean freaks. I love clean, but I’m not a clean freak which I think is a generational improvement. You know, it is one of those things that you said as a child that you would never do when you grew up. I promised myself that I would not be a clean freak. I vowed that I would think of a better way to keep things clean than spending all day Saturday with a vacuum, dust cloth or paper towels in my hands. I did think of a better way to keep my home clean and I call it carefree timelessness. I’ve practiced this style of living ever since I moved out of my mother’s home and it works soooooo well.

One of the clean freak rules is that at no time was I supposed to touch mirrors or glass. Fingerprints were never allowed. It was impossible for me not to touch glass especially in the car. With the weather cold outside against the window glass and my breath hot on the inside of the glass, a fog of condensation appeared which beckoned me to “touch it.” I usually obliged.

Sometimes I would only let my fingertip make a small circle on the glass, but at other times I went hog wild and wrote words like crazy. I never outgrew the desire to write on mirrors and glass windows, so as an adult, when I feel so inclined, I write until my heart’s contented.

As I see it, the mess I create on the glass is easy to clean and brings so much happiness that it would be a shame to waste the opportunity.

My Love Message In The Glass

When Brittany and Alyssa were growing up, I encouraged them to write, color, paint and draw all the time. Alyssa loved the blue Crayola crayon best. Ahhhh, such fond memories.

I also found many different ways to convey my messages especially with emotions that were most tender in my heart. So it won’t be a surprise when I tell you that I often would write a message of love on the foggy bathroom mirror after I was finished with my shower. Then the next time that my husband would take a shower and fog the mirror, he would find my love note to him.

Seize the moment. Yes, cast aside any preconceived notions you may have about the “rules.” Those rules could be robbing you of some of the happiest, most memorable and carefree moments in life. So write on the bathroom mirror and leave a note to the people you love and hold dear to your heart. A simple expression of those emotions can brighten their day and make your relationship even stronger to ensure that you will continue “to be loved, whilst loving.”

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 Young Werther February 6, 2013 at 12:48 am

Ahhhh nice…. sniffle.. sniff… pass the tissue please


2 Sherry Riter February 6, 2013 at 12:49 am

Here’s a couple tissues. We can cry together. Do you want some hot chocolate too? 😉


3 Skip_D February 6, 2013 at 1:28 pm

yes, this is a very romantic story, both about Lady Alice Douglas Pennant & about you, Ms Riter 🙂 …I googled Lady Alice to find out more about her, & guess what? the 3rd listing was this post by Sherry Riter!!! 😀

…btw, I love tracing messages in steamy glass – & I get to do it a lot, because I seem to be a master car window fogger! LOL


4 Sherry Riter February 6, 2013 at 8:08 pm

Wow! The 3rd listing?! That’s cool!

“master car window fogger” LOL LOL


5 teresa vett February 6, 2013 at 2:00 pm

BOY, WHAT A MOM CAN LEARN FROM HER CHILD’S BLOG!!!!! I do not consider myself a FREAK of any kind. Having a clean home can benefit all who live there. If you live alone you can wallow in your own mess but when a family is in one home fairness plays a part in the whole scheme of things. Like you hated to have your sisters mess around? I would not change a thing about my house keeping !! I did it and still had time to do as I wished! In your mothers opinion to be untidy, unclean is being lazy and if one wants to make excuses for doing other wise to make it right so be it. Do not judge one who loves clean tidy welcoming home when she opens the door to come in and live by saying they are a FreaK!!!!! What is wrong with a sticky note that says I love you?


6 Sherry Riter February 6, 2013 at 8:15 pm

LOL Of course, you aren’t going to agree with me, but you are a CLEAN FREAK. Seriously, think of all the time we wasted by spending every Saturday just cleaning. We could have done it in bits and pieces like I did with Alyssa. In contrast, we spent all our time cleaning on Saturday when I was a child, but Alyssa and I have had fun on Saturday going places and experiencing new things.

Just because someone doesn’t spend all day Saturday cleaning their house doesn’t mean that they do not have a clean house. Actually, some people have housekeepers and they never clean their house. LOL

You went beyond just loving a clean and tidy home to welcome you when you open the door. You still do, but that’s your business because I don’t have to clean all day Saturday anymore. LMBO

A sticky note? Really? Mom, you missed the whole point which only proves that you are totally enmeshed in the OCD Clean Freak mentality. No, a sticky note would not have served the same purpose nor was it as romantic. When my husband got into the shower, the mirror was not foggy and looked totally clean. When he stepped out of the shower and looked at the foggy mirror, there was my love note. It was magical and I can say that because he did the same thing for me. So Mom, you are missing out. I love you anyway, but you know, change can happen at any age. 😀


7 Caroline Sansome February 23, 2013 at 5:35 am

Your story about Lady Alice Douglas Pennant links with my ghost story about her bedroom at Penrhyn Castle where a lady claimed to have seen a young girl who had been locked in the room by her overbearing father because she was in love with a gardener. She did not know about the etching on the window and this was a long time before it was translated. See:


8 Sherry Riter February 23, 2013 at 7:28 am

Ghost?!!! Yikes! LOL


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