Sleep, REM, Insomnia – 11 Ways To Improve & Get More Sleep

by Sherry Riter in Health,Self-Development  

I think we should have a little pillow talk. The curtains have been drawn and the lights have been cut down low.

(Patting the fluffy pillow next to me with my hand while speaking)

pillow talk blanket quilt sleeping

Do you have a hard time falling asleep?

Maybe you can fall asleep, but you wake up all night long and then you feel exhausted in the morning. Is that you?

No, I can’t lay down on the pillow next to you because…I’ll tell you why in a minute.

First, let me help you understand something about sleeping.

What Is The Circadian Rhythm?

The word “circadian” always makes me think of Cicadas. Yeah, that ugly bug! However, circadian rhythm does not refer to a bug. A circadian rhythm is our 24 hour body clock cycle and it controls our biological processes. Things like when we are sleeping, feel awake, our hormones and even our digestion. The circadian rhythm is triggered by the changing from day to night (light to darkness) and vice versa. Circadian rhythms are broken down into three stages: wakefulness, REM and Non-REM sleep.

What Is REM Sleep?

REM sleep, which is an abbreviation for Rapid Eye Movement Sleep, is the cycle of sleep when the eyes move from side to side very quickly. So many things happen during REM and NREM (Non-REM Sleep).

While we sleep, we drift through REM and NREM sleep every 90-110 minutes which means we experience 4-6 cycles per night. REM sleep takes place about 25 percent of the night while 75 percent is NREM sleep.

One thing that happens during REM sleep is intense dreaming. Another activity that occurs during REM sleep is that our brain acts like a computer going through all the experiences of the day, saving some, discarding others and processing the rest. That’s why if you go to sleep thinking about a problem, you will often wake up with the solution. While you were in REM sleep, your brain worked on the problem for you.

As a side note about REM sleep – Heart rate increases during REM sleep, so people who have cardiopulmonary disease are more likely to die during this time than other time of the day. Isn’t that surprising?!

The rest of the sleep is dedicated to NREM sleep. During this time, the body repairs and regenerates tissues, bones, muscles and the immune system.

What Is Insomnia?

Insomnia is being awake when you desperately want to be asleep. Your mind races with a billion thoughts and it becomes impossible to sleep. As people age, not only are their sleep cycles shorter, but they also suffer with insomnia. Excessive worry, physical health, age and gender play a part in insomnia. Most people with insomnia have a history of depression or are women who worry. Isn’t that interesting? Also, insomnia if not due to depression or worry is often associated with a undiagnosed disease or underlying health condition. So just don’t assume your inability to sleep is due to worry and stress. Schedule an appointment with the doctor to make sure there isn’t something you are missing.

11 Ways To Improve & Get More Sleep

So we are all aging and maybe waking up several times a night is really starting to aggravate you. Let me give you some suggestions of how you can increase the number of hours you sleep and get more quality sleep.

  1. Turn off all those electronic devices that have lights or flash lights. Melatonin makes you sleepy and light suppresses the production of melatonin! For instance, my old cell phone used to flash all night and it drove me crazy! I started turning it upside down and covering it with a t-shirt. Problem solved!
  2. Blue light exposure for thirty minutes during the day has been shown to help cognitive performance for elderly people. However, blue light at night like the numbers on my alarm clock, are the worst color for encouraging sleep because it suppresses melatonin the most! That’s why my alarm clock is hidden from sight while I sleep.
  3. Take the television out of the bedroom. Not only does it emit blue light, but it is terrible for your sex life.
  4. That brings me to the next tip which is only use the bed for sleeping and sex. If you work, pay bills, write lists or a million other tasks while in bed, the brain is apt to start relating “the bed” with stress and stress causes insomnia. By the way, when I said to only use the bed for sleeping and sex, I didn’t mean that you should only have sex in the bed. You know what I mean? Okay, I won’t go there. Just use your imagination.
  5. Eliminate everything that isn’t necessary in the bedroom. Clutter all over the place is distracting and hampers sleep.
  6. Have a regular bedtime and get up the same time each day. Up to this point, I was doing fantastic, but I fail at this one miserably. A regular schedule helps your body to run more smoothly because it gets in a great cycle of wakefulness and rest.
  7. The temperature is important. Most people sleep best when the temperature is between 62-70 degrees Fahrenheit.
  8. If you are anxious, upset or feeling out of control, sleep under heavy blankets. The weight of the blanket provides pressure like a hug which helps us to feel relaxed, safe and secure.
  9. Ensure that your mattress is comfortable – not too hard, not too soft, but just right.
  10. Exercise is fantastic for helping to have a great night of restful sleep. If you have insomnia, however, make sure you exercise at least five hours before bedtime.
  11. Talking about exercise…although it hasn’t been proven, sex is believed to aid in obtaining a night of sound sleep. Some people fall asleep immediately after a wild romp. 😉 Since the last hour before waking is usually REM sleep, having “half awake sex” is a great way to wake up. Okay, I’ll hush about sex now because half of you are probably blushing.

Remember that I suggested you lay down on the pillow next to me, but I wouldn’t lay down? There is a very good reason. When I go to bed at night or on Sunday afternoon for a nap, I know that I will sleep like a log. Half the time, I fall asleep before I feel the pillow touch my cheek and the rest of the time I am completely asleep in ten seconds. I sleep through any and everything – hurricanes, tornadoes, the phone ringing and the alarms going off. Crazy, huh? So if I had put my head on the pillow next to you, I wouldn’t have been able to write this post! Does anyone else sleep as soundly as me?



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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

1 mom October 3, 2012 at 2:51 am

I will write first since I am up at 2:49 am. I am old and all the things that cause insomnia. I am tired and have awful dreams when I do sleep. I thank you much for your blog, No one sleeps like you,LOL. I hear the click the clock makes before the alarm goes off. . Mom loves you , have a good day. I bet Joan is up writing to you at this hour too.LOL


2 Sherry Riter October 4, 2012 at 8:31 pm

I haven’t met anyone who sleeps like me either. It’s crazy!


3 Joan October 3, 2012 at 8:11 am

No, I don’t think anyone else sleeps as soundly as you do! And it might interest you to know that it is 5:10 A.M. and I just awoke from a sound sleep, but I decided to get up and read your latest post and leave a comment. So don’t be surprised if I am talking in my sleep! 🙂


4 Sherry Riter October 4, 2012 at 8:32 pm

LOL Nope, no one sleeps like me. I love how I can fall asleep, but hate that I can’t wake up!


5 Stéfan October 3, 2012 at 10:27 am

I don’t sleep as soundly as you. I am more like your mother… I hear the alarm clock click before the alarm goes off – and that is with my earplugs in. LOL.


6 Sherry Riter October 4, 2012 at 8:33 pm

OH MY GOODNESS! You barely sleep! That would drive me crazy, but there’s one good thing…YOU can wake up and I can’t!!! LOL


7 Andrew Barber October 15, 2012 at 5:48 am

I will definately try many of the things you have suggested in your excellent blog, thank you 🙂


8 Sherry Riter October 15, 2012 at 7:10 am

Thank you, Andrew. I hope that one of the suggestions in the list helps with your insomnia! 😀


9 Anne April 21, 2013 at 4:57 pm

I am also a very sound sleeper like you and always have been. It’s waking up in the morning that’s my issue…I do it but, until I’m in the shower, I am not happy about it. The worst of storms would not cause me to even stir. Once many years ago while camping with a group of friends, I woke up in the morning to find out we had been kicked out of the campground. Apparently, some of my friends had been so loud during the night, they woke up the whole campground! But, not me!
Then what about your post caught my eye, you might ask? Well, I do have a couple of friends for whom sleep is a challenge. And so I am alerting them to your post, in hopes it might help them.
And who knows, maybe some day I’ll meet a good man and I’ll know what to do to ensure he gets a good nights sleep! *blush* LOL
Thanks for posting I really enjoy reading your blog posts…I found you from twitter
-That’s what she said 😉 aka Anne


10 Sherry Riter April 22, 2013 at 7:25 am

LOL Anne, I’m glad you enjoy my blog and especially this post! It is nice to meet another sound sleeper who has a hard time waking up. Let me know when you find that man. 😉


11 Brad November 21, 2014 at 2:47 am

Aloha Sherry
I sleep exactly like you except i wake up. I am grateful for this sleep habit. I excercise and eat healthy which helps.
Nobody wants to hear how well i sleep so I am glad to hear you have the same good fortune.


12 Sherry Riter November 25, 2014 at 12:43 am

🙂 Thanks for sharing Brad!!!!


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