It was a Monday.
I don’t like any Monday because it is the day after two days of freedom. Even though it was Monday, I decided to have a positive attitude and put forth the extra effort to counteract the Monday blues. All day in the back of my mind, I knew that at 6:00 p.m. I had a therapy appointment. I was looking forward to it and dreading it at the same time.
Since I had to leave directly from work to get to my appointment, I decided to take the straight shot instead of going all the way home and then backtracking. I am directionally challenged, so I was a bit apprehensive at trying the new route. Because it would shave thirty minutes off my trip and it was almost a straight shot, I had to do it. Besides, the day had gone pretty good.
I went over the bridge and knew that I was really close according to the map, but within minutes I was lost. That’s when I started to panic which caused me to get even more lost. Anger and frustration set in while I seemed to continue on the wrong road.
I didn’t want to miss my appointment and was bordering on PTSD terror and hysteria when I called my sweet, calm daughter. For the next twenty-five minutes, Alyssa told me to turn left, turn right and eventually directed me to my therapist’s office.
I hoped that my therapist was still there. After waiting for twenty minutes without any sign of her, I concluded that I was definitely too late and my therapist had left the building.
Sitting calmly for so long in the foyer outside her office had a calming affect on me. It was pointless to remain upset. What had happened was over. I couldn’t do it over again. I also can’t help that I get lost so easily. Buying some kind of navigation device is definitely on my list of things to give myself. Not only will it help me get to where I’m going, but having a navigation system will eliminate mishaps like today.
With some self-talk that pointed out my long, long list of good traits (wink), I turned the car in the direction of home and pushed the pedal to the metal. I didn’t really speed, but it sure felt good imagining that soaring sensation for just a second as I wrote those words!
8 Reasons Negatives Are Good
Negative experiences and emotions can actually have a positive impact on your life. It does, however, require the “glass half full” attitude in order to process the information in a beneficial manner.
Sounds good, doesn’t it? Listen. If I was able to see my negative experience on Monday in a positive light, then anyone can do it.
Here are 8 positives of going through negative experiences:
- Motivates - If we separate ourselves from all the emotions bubbling inside and subjectively analyze a negative experience, it can motivate us toward improvement. We will become careful not to repeat whatever actions brought us the negative.
- Strengthens - How does that saying go? “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” Oh yeah. That’s the saying. The negatives and challenges can strengthen our resolve to succeed and thrive in the face of adversity.
- More Opportunities - Without opposition, our learning would be stunted and it would limit our happiness. Knowledge brings about greater opportunities for failure and achievement. Learning brought about by the negative experiences helps to improve our future choices.
- Know Yourself – Being at the bottom allows you to see yourself stripped down to the real you – the private you. It is the you that can’t be escaped. Negative experiences help to hone your positive self and redefine your self-perception.
- Smarter - “I’ll never do THAT again!” We’ve all said that phrase after going through a negative experience. Why? Well, because we learned something positive from the negative experience and in so doing, we have become smarter.
- New Perspective – “Walk a mile in his shoes,” is a saying I have incorporated in my life. It keeps me humble and non-judgmental of other people. I don’t know what that person has gone through or is going through, so I have no right to judge them. After going through a negative experience, you can see things with a new perspective.
- Humility - Negative experiences can teach you to be humble if you shun bitterness. It is EASY to be bitter, but the rewards of humility are boundless.
- Appreciate More – “You don’t know what you’ve got until it is taken away.” Isn’t that the truth?! After suffering through the pain of a negative experience, it is much easier to appreciate the simpler things in life thanks to a new perspective.
I learned a lot during the challenging drive today. Top on the list is that no matter how long it takes, I’m going to win the battle against PTSD. Not only am I going to win, I will thrive with the new me that emerges from the rubble.
Life is filled with experiences and we learn just like we did in school. When we excel and pass one subject, it is time to move to the next one. The speed at which we pass the “class” is irrelevant. As long as we keep learning, our opportunities for growth will continue to expand, providing more happiness than we have ever dreamed.
Schools out until tomorrow, so let’s go to recess! Anyone want a cream puff? LOL