Yesterday, I inadvertently limited your choices by not allowing comments on my post called Attitude Of Being Alone – Aging Alone. When I saw that not one person left me a message, I thought that maybe my writing ticked you all off. Thankfully, I now realize that wasn’t the case. I just fixed the comment thingy on that post, so if you haven’t read it yet, you won’t have a problem if you want to comment too.
Get Your Mind Around It
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “I have to get my mind around it.” That means that the person needs a little time to process the information in order to accept it. Several times in life it becomes necessary to get your mind around it with “it” being a situation, information or concept.
While talking to my mom tonight, she said, “I live day-to-day and don’t plan the future anymore.” To which I responded, “You must set goals or you won’t every accomplish anything.” She had a million excuses why she couldn’t succeed at this and that and that and that. It made me feel rather sad. My mother is limiting her life choices.
Let me give you an example. If the Dallas Cowboy football team wants to go to the Superbowl this year, they have to practice. The constant practice will help them become a cohesive team. If they work super hard as a team as well as exercise for optimal physical health, the Superbowl could become a reality. However, if they go to practice every day and say, “We won’t ever make it to the Superbowl,” their reality will be that they don’t make it to the Superbowl.
Attitude will limit our life choices.
Suppose there was a young man who wanted to be a brain surgeon, but he refused to go to college. Obviously, he wouldn’t become a brain surgeon. The young man’s goals were intact, but his actions didn’t match them.
In this case, actions limit life choices.
Mom told me that she needed to be realistic because she is 68 years old. Okay, realistically speaking, my mother will not become a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader nor will she be the lead ballerina in The Nutcracker performed by the New York City Ballet. I understand that aspect of being realistic, but the other stuff…No, Mom is limiting her life choices because of her attitude.
The first steps at becoming successful at anything are:
- Set a goal.
- Believe that you can successfully reach the goal.
- See yourself reaching the goal.
- Remind yourself of the goal each day.
- Expect road bumps and detours along the way.
- Never give up working towards the goal.
Goals, hopes and dreams are not just for the young. People who are older should also plan for the future. Success is still possible. Just because you are older doesn’t mean that your life is going to end any faster than a baby that was born yesterday. No one knows how much time they have left to live on this planet, so we all could live to be one hundred years old. You can disagree with me, but the reality is that no one knows how much time they have left to live on this planet.
The last time I had to take Alyssa to the Norfolk airport was the last time I had to go through the Hampton Roads-Bridge Tunnel. To say that I don’t like the bridge or the tunnel is truly an understatement. The tunnel is UNDER water and I had to drive through it.
While driving in the Hampton Roads-Bridge Tunnel, you have to just believe that it won’t flood and that the car will safely arrive on the other side. You also have to believe that when you get to the other side of the tunnel, the bridge will be connected and you will eventually safely arrive on land again. I don’t know if you caught it, but that’s a whole lot of believing going on.
Life is like the Hampton Roads-Bridge Tunnel. Sometimes we are cruising through life like we are on a bridge. We can see the road and as long as we don’t veer off, we will be safe. Then there are times that we are in the tunnel. We can see a short distance ahead of us, but because of hills, walls and the ceiling, we can’t see very far. People, our bodies, experiences and our choices all limit what can happen in our future. Even when we start to approach the end of the tunnel, there is just blackness – a huge gaping black hole.
That’s what I want to tell you about…the huge gaping black hole. We can set goals and have a positive attitude, but when you get right down to it, life is a huge gaping black hole of unknown stuff. We have to just believe and have faith that the darkness will brighten up once we get closer.
Did you catch that? Believe and have faith.
Get your mind around believing that you CAN still accomplish many things with your life regardless of your age. Success does not have an age limit. Let me say that one more time…Success does not have an age limit. The mind is a powerful thing and it can help you succeed, stagnate or fail. It is all up to you.
Are you going to believe and have faith or have you already decided to limit your life choices?