Grow Where You Are Planted

by Sherry Riter in Dad,Family,Flower,Mom

At one point of my life, I was extremely poor, but I was too young and broken-hearted to realize it. My dad had just divorced my mother and moved into a very posh, adult only apartment complex. He paid very little child support and only had visitation on Saturday. Dad had tons of girlfriends, fancy jewelry and clothes, ate whatever he wanted – whenever he wanted it, and eventually being a father got in the way of his fun.

My sister and I lived with my mother in a non-posh apartment complex. Actually, we did not leave at night because it was too dangerous. Mom worked three jobs to support us and sewed all of our clothes. We were on a tight budget…a very tight budget. At the ripe old age of ten, I was the accountant and balanced the checkbook. Although we did not have everything we needed and definitely not what we wanted, my sister and I had the most important thing of all – a mother who loved, sacrificed and taught us how to be good people.

I love my parents; both of them. I also totally understand the human aspect of why they made the decisions and choices that led their paths in different directions. Even as a young child, I recognized the dramatic difference between the lifestyles, beliefs and values of my parents.

One was selfish and the other was not.

One told lies and the other did not.

One loved us when it was convenient and the other loved us with every action, unconditionally.

Some portions of my life have been happier than other times which is normal. The life experience can not be 100 percent euphoric no matter how hard we wish.

Time, life experience, good teachers, a loving mother, therapy and prayer finally helped me to have a forgiving heart. It also allowed me to reach out and enjoy a relationship with my dad without expectations.

Driving from Williamsburg to Richmond, I passed a beautiful bunch of flowers. To my amazement, they were surrounded by nothing except rocks. Dry, hard, lifeless rocks.

These beautiful flowers were growing where they had been planted and not half-heartedly. The flowers were vibrant, large, healthy and absolutely gorgeous.

This plant probably had to fight the rocks to grow which was not a small task. However, regardless of the hardships, this plant has hundreds of gorgeous blossoms.

I have “thrived” in life even though there have been many “rocks” in my path. From my humble beginning where there was so much love that the walls could hardly contain it, but not enough food and money, to the very busy day I had today, the main lesson I needed to learn was…Grow Where You Are Planted.

There will be rocks and sometimes boulders, but just keep growing.

Bloom with all your might and strength.

Bask in the sunshine and drink in the rain.

Reach upward to new heights and experiences with a fiery passion.

No matter where you are, who you share your life with, what your age is or how you do it, just do it…

Grow, bloom and flourish where you are planted.


The Redhead Riter

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

1 A Quiet Corner July 8, 2011 at 9:59 am

How similar our lives have been/are, Red. Thanks for the continued inspiration…:)JP


2 By Word of Mouth Musings July 8, 2011 at 11:14 am

You gave me goosebumps, such beautiful writing and all so very true … lovely, lovely words to begin my day and be thankful for everything!

I just put an awesome little music video on my blog today btw ….


3 Kindred Adventures July 8, 2011 at 11:45 am

What a story! It is so tough and so challenging to heal from our pasts, accept them for what they were and move forward. I love when life gives writers inspiration and those flowers were just that for you. To hear your story, your beautiful story, it explains so much what I am learning about you. Lastly, I could agree more about blooming where your planted (I've always loved that quote). You can be stuck or you can take what you have, gather it up, us it for it's positives and then become what you want!! Again, truely beautiful piece. Loved it! Have a great day!!! -Laverne


4 ArtMuseDog and Carol July 8, 2011 at 1:19 pm

Wonderful post and so relevant to all of us ~ Way to go! hugs and namaste, Carol ^_^


5 Debbie July 8, 2011 at 1:33 pm

beautiful post!


6 Samantha B July 8, 2011 at 2:13 pm

This is such a beautiful blog! 🙂


7 Paula July 8, 2011 at 3:39 pm

These flowers are simply gorgeous. Exactly as each and every one of us!


8 KathyMorelli July 8, 2011 at 8:08 pm

Wonderful posting, simple & unpretentious! The more I read your blog I love your blog, the more I love it and love YOU. You are insightful & thoughtful, and inspiring without being pretentious and preachy… thanks for your honest voice.
take care, Kathy


9 Jack July 8, 2011 at 8:20 pm

Your pictures are great. Just beautiful.


10 TJ July 8, 2011 at 9:42 pm

Thank you Sherry but loving you and your sister took no effort, so easy to do for you were like sunshine in my life.
Dolly Parton says you are only poor if you choose to be. Family is were our wealth is. I love you and Aud, and my beautiful Alyssa and Brittany. I am rich with my four jewels.



11 GB Girl July 9, 2011 at 10:17 pm

How beautiful! Sometimes we all get bogged down with anger and resentment over what we don't have and what we think we've been deprived of. It's nice to be reminded to focus on what you do have and to make the most of it.
Thank you for that reminder.


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