Manly Communication Epiphany

by Sherry Riter in Communication,Relationship,Self-Development  


I had an epiphany last night while I was tweeting. For those of you that do not have Twitter (a fantastic social media tool), tweets are 140 character messages that you send to a specific person or to anyone reading the stream of chatting.

I wasn’t just sending out random sentences – I had actual conversations with other people, but some of my tweets went like this…

    Once I get home, my motor is running and I’m happy as a June bug in the hot sunshine

1 down and 4 to go!!! Wednesday is going to be 90 degrees! I can’t believe it!

I want to do so many things that are really great ideas, but I run out of time every day. I need employees…chef, housekeeper, secretary..

How Bout Them #Cowboys!!!! GIDDDDDYUP!

I ? snow and can’t ski. Probably a good thing since I’m so prone to accidents.

Redheads are awesome ~ especially women! … Just in case you didn’t already know that very important fact 🙂

My screen keeps doing a funky flash thing! It is irritating me 🙁

Stop dreaming every second of the day of a different life and enjoy the one you have before it is gone.

That’s when the world stopped spinning and everyone on the planet stood still. Do you recall when that happened? My next tweet could be the catalyst that ends all arguing between men and women. This is the tweet verbatim…

    Advantage of Twitter: 140 characters is the length of speaking women should use when talking to men They like the facts without fluff. 🙂

Think about it for just a minute.

Women talk so much that there is a common knowledge joke of “Yes, Dear.” Surely you’ve heard that one or maybe you use it.

Imagine if all women talked to men in segments of 140 characters or less, the problem of losing a man’s attention would be non-existent! No arguments either because not one woman would have to say, “Are you listening to me?” since the length of the woman’s conversation would not go over the amount of time men have the ability to be alert and listening.

No cut to men.

Actually, no cut to women either.

We all have value and our differences make us interesting, so no offense meant to anyone. Just my fact filled opinion which must be right since I’m a redhead (wink). If you don’t understand that sentence, befriend a redhead and it won’t take you long to be in-the-know.

If it would make the men feel better and improve communications, I think women should adhere to the 140 character limit during conversations with the handsome gender. I know you are probably thinking that I surely can’t be a woman, but let me assure you that I am! I’m just a tad bit different than many women. As a matter of fact, the guys at lunch think I have so many “manly attitudes” that they nicknamed me Steve. I told them if I was going to have a man’s name, I wanted to have some input, so I renamed myself with a first and middle name – Steve Emerson. Anyway, my point is that I can feel the dilemma men often find themselves in during conversations with women that they communicate with on a daily basis! Sometimes even I want to say, “Shhh woman!” because the chatter is never ending about the most MUNDANE things – at least to me and many men.

Can I get a High Five men?

I mean really, I can only listen to conversations about shopping deals, haircuts and makeup for a limited amount of time. It remains interesting to me in smaller bites and I think men are somewhat the same way. That is why 140 character conversations between men and women would work so great!

Let’s try it.


    Honey, I need you to do something for me?

Man:(silence, but you can hear the roar of a football game in the background)

STOP LADIES! You just made a huge mistake. Choose the time you talk to your man with care and consideration for his ability to concentrate on the thoughts and words you are trying to convey. Take my word for it…During a football game is NOT the time.

Let’s try it again.

Three hours later when the football game is over and the man is flipping from channel to channel on the television without any interest in any of them…yet…so don’t take too long to start up the conversation.

Woman: Honey, I need you to do something for me?

Man: Yeah?

Woman: Would you take out the trash?

Man: Sure. (He makes no movement and is still sitting on the couch.)

Woman: When?

Man: When do you want me to take it out?

Woman: Now! I have a whole group of ladies from the school coming over and I’ve been cooking a ton of stuff for the luncheon and there are all kinds of cans, peels, and paper that I had to throw in the trash and it smells so stinky because I used an onion when I was baking the chicken and then I had to make those little sandwiches for the children because they won’t like the…Honey? Do you hear me?

Man: Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz along with loud snoring sounds.

Now who do you blame for the trash not being taken out?

No, no, no! You can’t blame the man! He doesn’t care about anything the woman said after the word “now!” If she had stopped after the first word, his attention wouldn’t have disappeared. He couldn’t help it. She was being bor-ing!

Let’s try the end of that conversation again.


    When do you want me to take it out?

Woman: Now! (Hold you tongue! Don’t say anything else! Nothing!)

Man: I’ll do it in ten minutes.

Okay, I said the communication would be better, but I didn’t say that men would do everything you wanted them to do, when you wanted them to do it and how you wanted it done.

It was an epiphany, not a miracle!

Embracing my masculine side,

The Redhead Riter

a.k.a. Steve Emerson at lunch

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

1 The Zany Housewife October 26, 2010 at 11:26 pm

I love it!

It definitely works. I find that if I am rambling on about something I've lost him five seconds in. Great post!


2 Holly October 27, 2010 at 10:14 am



3 Jen @ After The Alter October 27, 2010 at 1:12 pm

I think it definitely could work and makes perfect sense…just stinks that we have to cater to men just to get them to do tasks that they are supposed to do in the first place! lol but I guess we have to do what we have to do right??


4 Kristi October 27, 2010 at 1:14 pm

you are an extremely smart and insightful woman. I'm going to start tweeting to my man 🙂 Great post!


5 Heather October 27, 2010 at 5:27 pm

You're absolutely right! Men don't care about anything but the necessary info.


6 Le'Ann Ruggles October 27, 2010 at 5:31 pm



7 Mama Bennie October 30, 2010 at 3:52 am

I have always gotten straight to the point with the husband. I also hate when people ramble on to me. Just give me the facts and shut your face is my theory. I don't need to hear everything that person did in their day up until the time they bought the purse, which was the subject of the conversation to begin with. Really annoying.


8 Tim King October 30, 2010 at 10:24 pm

Actually, the equivalent conversation in my house usually starts with the red-highlighted part. And I love my Beloved, and I listen to her, most of the sound going in one ear and out the other. And sometimes, I become increasingly annoyed, because she's pulling me away from my favorite football team. And so she gets to the part about the "little sandwiches for the children," then I say something like, "Do you want me to do anything? Or are you just venting?" (because sometimes she just likes to vent, and she doesn't really want me to do anything about it, but if I don't ask, I'll never know).

And she says, "Can you take the garbage out before they get here?"

"Sure." You could have just started with that part, you know, and I wouldn't have had to miss the touchdown that just occurred. "Just as soon as this replay is over." Pointing to the TV.



9 The Redhead Riter October 31, 2010 at 3:31 pm

I LOVE your comment Tim and it just proves to all the ladies that I actually know what I'm talking about…I've been validated!!!! LOL ? for Tim!


10 Gin E December 31, 2010 at 2:34 am

LOL! Guilty here. Guess I should tweet more to practice. =)


11 Tommy November 1, 2012 at 2:46 pm

I wanted to say that you do get it. My wife and I have been together over 20 years. Just the other day she was trying to tell me something. I say trying because she had to elaborate on everything; who, why, what, how it made her think and feel, and blah blah blah!!! In 10 minutes she still hadn’t gotten to the point. When she finally got there, it was because I’d started cutting her off and telling her move it along, ( I work from home and was working at the time) to get to the point. In the end, she could have told me in five words what took 10 minutes or more. She got upset becasue I didn’t want to know how she felt about it, or how it effected her and made her day worse. She wanted my sympathy. You’re right, but I’m not sure how you get around that.


12 Sherry Riter November 2, 2012 at 12:49 am

LOL That’s funny, but I totally understand! I think the ONLY way for this to change is for women to understand how their conversation affects men. I think it would completely solve the problem!!! LOL Women are probably going to banish me from the gender, but I really believe if women would learn to communicate like I described, men wouldn’t mind listening. 😀


13 pj54 August 5, 2013 at 12:07 pm

Hey Gal! My Hubby still wouldn’t do it if I said “NOW”. I have to be surgary sweet and say, “I would really appreciate it if you could do it now as I have to get this other stuff done before my guests arrive. Thank you so much. Yes, that seems a bit wordy but that is the ONLY TIME I get by with a lengthy explanation. If we are just talking,he does get aggravated with me because I tend to go and and on, sort of like I’m doing now, because I want to make sure he understands what I am trying to say. I don’t know why I do that, because I know people understand English, I guess it is because I don’t feel I express myself in a way that gets my point across without ALL the details. LOL! Needless to say, that is why I am unable to tweet very well.


14 Sherry Riter August 6, 2013 at 8:35 pm

LOL You crack me up girl! 😛


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