I Just Want A Penny

by Sherry Riter in Death

When turmoil hits your life, people who care rally around you offering support, a listening ear and assistance with the every day responsibilities. Of course, you tell yourself…

“This too shall pass.”

“Things always work out for the best.”

“It is God’s will.”

“I should just be thankful for my blessings.”

If you’re Christian, you might wonder how to pray for God’s will when all you might want is your own desire regardless of His will? I’m like that too and sometimes I feel like Johnny Smith…

    Johnny Smith climbs to the top of Mt. Sinai to get close enough to talk to God. Looking up, he asks the Lord… “God, what does a million years mean to you?”

    The Lord replies, “A minute.”

    Johnny Smith asks, “And what does a million dollars mean to you?”

    The Lord replies, “A penny.”

    Johnny Smith asks, “Can I have a penny?”

    The Lord replies, “In a minute.”

Obviously I have a little more growing in order to not whine during rough times, but that’s part of the reason I’m on this planet, right?

Maybe you have more faith than I do, but even so, there are still a few basic things people can do when going through a tragedy or rough spot in life.

  1. Stop all the extras activities in life and concentrate on just yourself. Declutter your activities and avoid having unrealistic expectations of yourself.
  2. Eat healthy foods and drink plenty of water.
  3. Get plenty of sleep, rest and relaxation. Grief and trauma are exhausting and often triggers the “flight or fight” response.
  4. Seek and find your inner strength through peaceful activities such as reading, meditation and praying.
  5. Accept your mood swings.
  6. Ask for help with anything no matter how trivial the task.
  7. Do not make any major decisions such as moving, buying a car, etc.
  8. Seek help with a therapist if you need someone unbiased to listen. This will allow you to walk through the pain and obtain coping skills.
  9. Allow yourself time to grieve and comfort yourself in your own way. Ignoring the pain will be detrimental to your long term mental health and trying to cope someone else’s way is pointless.
  10. Remember that it takes time to recover from tragedy and the effects it has in living day to day.
  11. Eventually you will get to the point where you feel empowered in your life again. Recognize the tragedy and healing so that you can make plans for the future.

That list a little bit to munch on, but I did leave out one thing.

Try to reconnect with humor.

Laughing produces endorphins in the brain and that will naturally cause you to feel happier. Another endorphin producing activity is exercising, but that is a dirty word on this blog.

So here is my attempt to give you a smile today…

  • There’s always a lot to be thankful for if you take time to look for it. For example, I am sitting here thinking how nice it is that wrinkles don’t hurt.

  • Eat a live toad first thing in the morning, and nothing worse can happen to you the rest of the day.

  • The best way to forget all your troubles is to wear tight shoes

  • If you can smile when things go wrong, you have someone in mind to blame.

smiling frog


National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Toll-Free: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
TTY: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889)
Web Site: www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Workplace Helpline
Toll-Free: 1-800-WORKPLACE (967-5752)
Web Site: http://www.helpline-group.com/home.asp

Office for Victims of Crime
Toll-Free: 1-800-851-3420
TTY: 1-877-712-9279
Web Site: www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/ovcres/welcome.html

Helpful Resources

National Mental Health Information Center
Toll-Free: 1-800-789-2647 (English and Español)
TDD: 1-866-889-2647
Web Site: www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov

Mental Health Services Locator
Toll-Free: 1-800-789-2647 (English and Español)
TDD: 1-866-889-2647
Web Site: www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/databases

Substance Abuse Treatment Facility Locator
Toll-Free: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (24/7 English and Español)
TDD: 1-800-487-4889
Web Site: www.findtreatment.samhsa.gov

National Clearinghouse for Alcohol and Drug Information
Toll-Free: 1-800-729-6686 (English and Español)
TDD: 1-800-487-4889
Web Site: www.ncadi.samhsa.gov

Smiling while wearing cute shoes,

The Redhead Riter


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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Summer Ross August 27, 2010 at 1:13 am

The penny thing was cute!


2 Mama Penguin August 27, 2010 at 1:32 am

That is a very good story, I have never heard of it before, laughter is a very good healing tool.


3 Marlene August 27, 2010 at 1:49 am

Great post. Good reminder. I especially like the list of things to do during the rough times. Thinking of you. <3


4 Melissa August 27, 2010 at 2:49 am

That's a good list you provided and I think it's great that you added those resources at the end. Lots of people are grieving and not everyone has a good support system already, so it's good to point them in the right direction.

I really like the Johnny/God conversation. Thanks for sharing.


5 Sisterlisa August 27, 2010 at 5:44 am

I'm a counselor and I confirm that all your tips are what I say to people as well. I've seen people tell others who are in trauma to get busy doing more stuff especially church related..although I'm a woman of faith, I disagree with them. What you said is right on. People need time to process what they are going through. Many people don't make wise choices will under anxiety or depression.


6 Holly August 27, 2010 at 6:27 am

Thanks for this post… I'll have to bookmark it for those low times as a good reminder.

Hang in there! You remain in my prayers!! Lots of LOVE and ((HUGS))!


7 Sometimes Life August 27, 2010 at 1:06 pm

Loved the penny story/joke. Also very much liked your thoughtful words and advise list



8 mary August 27, 2010 at 1:35 pm

How cute was the answer Elohim gave..Funny!
Enjoying the blog. Have a blessed day


9 The Creative EduMom August 27, 2010 at 10:23 pm

Great post. Thank you!


10 The Creative EduMom August 27, 2010 at 10:24 pm

Great post. Thank you!


11 Tina August 27, 2010 at 10:43 pm

Hope you are doing well, or as good as can be expected under the circumstances. Thinking of you.

Little Tots Big Ideas


12 Bossy Betty August 27, 2010 at 11:49 pm

Cute story and great advice too!


13 eof777 August 28, 2010 at 2:29 am

A well told story and I love the photos… Happy Friday!


14 Karyn Climans August 29, 2010 at 12:54 pm

I'm going to re-tweet your line, "I am sitting here thinking how nice it is that wrinkles don't hurt." It brought a smile to my face. I hope today brings you lots of reasons to laugh and smile. As you said, humour is a huge healer!


15 Alyssa September 12, 2010 at 7:50 am

That is a wonderful list! It made me think of 2 friends who recently miscarried just weeks before delivering. I think I might just have to share that with them.


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