The question this week is :
- What is one of the most important lessons you’ve learned?
There is a prevailing theme in my life with one lesson that seems to repeat itself over and over again. I’m not sure if it is because I’m not getting it right or if it is just a fact of life for me and everyone else on this planet.
I shared a story about Alyssa not too long ago that I’m sure she doesn’t like remembering, however, it explains the process and lessons she needed to learn in hopes that her life choices would be better.
I also wrote a post using one of my favorite movie pictures of two people in love on the same topic that I will share with you now.
If you do not have any struggles, hardships or trials in your life, then you are not growing and learning. That is just a simple fact. In order to progress in this life, one must go through a refiner’s fire. That simply means that we have to be stripped of all our impurities and imperfections before we can become like a cut and polished diamond.
One of my greatest flaws is trying to circumvent that entire process. I try to go from totally rough to perfect in one step. It doesn’t work that way! To try and trick the laws of nature, I sometimes think that I can change another person. When two people are married, it is often called nagging and I promise you, it just doesn’t work.
When I pull onto the highway, I have to make one directional choice after the next in order to get to my desired final destination. All around me there are other drivers doing the same thing, but since they are going somewhere else, they are choosing different streets and turns. The same can be said for free agency. Everyone has it to use as they choose not as we choose for them.
I finally conceded a few years ago that I can only change me.
No one else except for me.
Because I can only change me, I have suffered pain and heartache since other people do not always make the best decisions. I don’t always choose right either and that means that I also cause other people pain and heartache. It’s just a vicious circle!
However vicious that circle might be, I know that I can not change anyone except me. That, my dear Riters and Readers was a very hard lesson to learn and one that I must constantly remind myself almost on a daily basis. Old habits and beliefs die hard and I think I will have to fight the aching desire to control everything forever.
Gracious me, I think that makes me a control freak!
Well, go back up to the red underlined words in this post and read the posts that pop up. I know you’ll enjoy them. If you have written a post to answer the Tell The Truth Thursday question, enter the post URL that answers the question in the Linky below.
That’s all done? Great. Good job! Way to go! Thank you!
Now will you please bring me some ice cream with chocolate syrup, whipped cream and a cherry on top?
That’s too much? Well, I said please!!!