Men’s Meme – Negative In Marriage

by Sherry Riter in Men's Meme,Relationship

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Tom did not want to disrupt the peacefulness of today with a controversial Men’s meme question, so the one he answered is below and his comments will be in BLUE:

What is the biggest negative in being married?

Hmmmm…That’s a loaded question! Sure hope he’s not sleeping in the dog house tonight.

(checking the temperature to see if he will freeze to death tonight outside)

Marriage is a wonderful opportunity for companionship and affection. These objectives are often postponed or paused by conflicts arising from fear, anger, pride and selfishness. Learning how to negotiate and make compromises can be difficult, even impossible for some, but success can bring you and your mate back into the sunlight, onto solid ground and happiness.

Coming up on my fifth anniversary with my wife (who thought it was the fourth) I would say we have a better than even chance at improving these negotiating and compromising skills to the extent of an increasingly happier lifetime together.

At the end of the day, I would have to say, that accepting her proposal the smartest choice and decision of my life. She is indeed witty, intelligent, addictive and a lovely wife and mother.

Thank you Tom! Those were the sweetest words you have had me type for you yet! Maybe I should stop typing and give him a kiss.

I’ll be right back—Just give me a second.

? ? music used on Jeopardy when the contestants are thinking of an answer to write ? ?

Okay, so it was a longer kiss than I expected. I guess his love bucket fell and he felt smooshy, gushy with me today. I like that aspect of marriage! I won’t say anything else about THAT until a later posting.

So, what do I think is the biggest negative about marriage?

(tapping fingers lightly on chair arm)

Hmmm…that’s tough. I like being a wife.

I like belonging to someone and all that entails.

I like giving and taking care of a husband and a family.

But if I have to choose an aspect that I do not like, it would be “the clean factor”. I will explain what I mean…I like everything clean and in order. You know, a place for everything and everything in it’s place concept. Tom is not that concerned with how things look or their cleanliness, but likes me to clean up after him. See the disparity? I think we disagree and argue about this one issue more than any other.

Silly, don’t you think?

My goal over the next two months is to clean out all my stored items, some of which have not seen the light of day for ten years.


I can’t believe it has been tucked away in boxes that long.

Let’s see if Tom’s assistance in this massive undertaking will increase his feelings of love. I’ll have to let you know because the number of boxes we have to sort through would be overwhelming to the most patient man.

Did I just imply that Tom wasn’t patient?

(quietly laughing)

MwahTom ?!

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1 Teresa Wilkinson 1984 April 5, 2010 at 3:32 am

LOL You had me in stitches. We won't discuss pack rat issues in my house. Lets just say to really know me is to know there exists more stuff in storage in the attic than I care to admit too. Sincerely, Teresa aka (thepackrat)


2 Vivobello April 5, 2010 at 3:38 am

Great post. I always tell my husband how hot it is when men sweep, or how turned on I get watching him carry laundry baskets. Works like a charm!!


3 Oh Sew Good April 5, 2010 at 11:32 am

Assuming you're talking about a good marriage, I would have to say the most negative thing in a marriage is the misunderstandings that arise from time to time. Of course, that's AFTER you've overcome and accepted that your mate has shortcomings. 🙂 LOL!


4 Teresha@Marlie and Me April 7, 2010 at 12:41 am

Tom is a keeper for sure!
I hope you are planning an anniversary post and will post wedding pics!


5 The Redhead Riter April 7, 2010 at 12:52 am

For whatever reason, I have been unable to remember the exact day we got married until last year. Apparently there was a trade-off involved since I now can't remember the number of years! It is so frustrating because he never lets me forget that I forget. Usually in relationships, it is the other way around.

Our anniversary is in November, so you will have a while to wait for pics.


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