My Blog Has Upset My Mother

by Sherry Riter in Award

It was never my intention to upset my mother. She has cried all day much to my dismay. My mother does not know Sophia. Knowing her at this point is irrelevant. The unhappiness that I started to speak of with yesterday’s posting brought back too many hurtful memories for Mom. I think she relived them all today. I’m sorry I didn’t forewarn you Mom. You are and have always been a wonderful woman…worthy of being loved and adored.

My plan was to spread Sophia’s story over several weeks so that you could digest and contemplate it. I was going to intersperse “happy” postings between the more serious posts. That is no longer the plan. I will continue her story tomorrow and keep posting until it is completed. I hope you will follow along. You may not suffer from an abusive spouse, but as evidenced in the comments on yesterday’s post, there are people that touch our lives when we least expect it who have lived this terrible unhappiness.

I pray that our children are wiser than us all and never stay in a home filled with abuse.

Tonight I will continue with the “happy” posting I had planned. I will meet you all back here tomorrow with Sophia.

They picked me?

Before I get into the specifics, let me say that I am often uplifted, taught, informed, or amused by not only your replies on my blog, but on the postings of your blogs. I read the blogs of women all over the world with talents that amaze me daily. So I am humbled and excited that you choose to read my blog and furthermore, continuously bestow lovely awards and compliments my way.

We are friends
and I do like to pass the day with you
in serious and inconsequential chatter.
I wouldn’t mind washing up beside you,
dusting beside you,
reading the back half of the paper
while you read the front.
We are friends and I would miss you,
do miss you and think of you very often.

~Jeanette Winterson~

Robert FrostMamahood, Among Other Things at and And then there was me… at each gave me the Superior Scribbler award which basically means that they enjoy my writing a.k.a. scribbles. I’m so glad that they do!

Superior Scribbler Award

These are the rules of the award:

  • Each Superior Scribbler I name today must in turn pass The Award on to 5 most-deserving bloggy friends.
  • Each Superior Scribbler must link to the author & the name of the blog from whom he/she has received The Award.
  • Each Superior Scribbler must display The Award on his/her blog.
  • Each Superior Scribbler must post these rules on his/her blog.

In the spirit of this award I am sending it over to:

  1. Bombshell Bliss
  2. Life With Special K’s
  3. INfertile Myrtyle
  4. Harriet
  5. The Love Shack
  6. Happily Ever After
  7. Suecae Sounds
  8. The Good Man Blog
  9. Oh Sew Good

Marlie and Me at gave me the Honest Scrap award which comes with the stipulation that I reveal 10 facts you don’t know about me:

Honest Scrap award

  1. I wanted to be a nurse, but I faint at the sight of blood.
  2. I wanted 12 children.
  3. flannel sheets on bed

  4. I want a cow.
  5. I love school and could be a professional student if I was rich.
  6. I hate car payments and will drive my car until it completely falls apart which it has no sign of doing and we are sliding into year eleven.
  7. I sing like a dying cow.
  8. My high school biology teacher made the crudest redhead remark I had or have ever experienced and completely humiliated me in front of the entire class.
  9. I used to hate putting the flatware in the drawer until I removed the plastic separator and let all the flatware party together “undivided” completely stressing out my entire family and extended family because it “just isn’t the way the drawer is supposed to be arranged.” That’s the point, it isn’t arranged any more!
  10. I love flannel sheets, freshly laundered and wrinkle-free on the bed.

Now I’m sending it over to:

  1. My Messy Paradise
  2. Momedy
  3. Thoughtfully Blended Hearts
  4. That Girl Blogs
  5. The Lilac Grove
  6. Red Writing
  7. Life With Kaishon
  8. Her Southern Heart
  9. A Forest Frolic
  10. Unknown Mami
  11. All That and a Box of Rocks
  12. Just Me, My Soldier, and Our 2 Little Chicks
  13. it ain’t easy being cheesy
  14. The Mother Load

Blue Cotton Memory at gave me a very sweet Friendship award that touched my heart.


“This award is bestowed on to blogs that are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers. Deliver this award to six bloggers who must choose six more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award.” I’m going to give this award to:

  1. Sixty Is Just The Beginning
  2. (Mis)Adventures in Theatre
  3. MelRoXx
  4. Marlie and Me
  5. Decisionally Challenged
  6. Yaya Stuff
  7. Diviacity
  8. Too Many Heartbeats
  9. Kamp KK
  10. Gamma Sharon’s Life
  11. Keep In Touch With Mommakin
  12. Scrappy Girl

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 24 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Life with Kaishon November 10, 2009 at 3:31 am

How kind of you Rita! I must go read the Sophia post now!


2 aforestfrolic November 10, 2009 at 3:44 am

Why thanks for the award! I want a cow too (so I don't have to pay $6/gallon of milk, tee hee 😉

Jamie 🙂


3 Bombshell BLISS November 10, 2009 at 4:09 am

How fun! Why thank you my friend!!!! I will pass it on with the spirit intended. You are a gem!


4 Erin M. November 10, 2009 at 4:16 am

Thank you so much for my award—I am honored and so humbled! You've made my day!


5 Gamma Sharon November 10, 2009 at 5:20 am

Woohoo!! Thanks so much for the award! And what a wonderful award it is…
I own a share in a cow… it is great, I get 2 gallons of raw milk a week. It is so much better for you! My grandson drinks only raw milk. His Mom just got over the not-so-famous Swine flu (just another strain of flu) and he got through it with nothing. Our kids need to have those bacteria to build their immune system.
Didn't mean to get on the soap box and start rambling.


6 Pineapple Princess November 10, 2009 at 5:39 am

Congrats! You really deserve these awards!

Thank you so much for passing the scribbler award to me. It means a lot to me- specially coming from you 'cause you are such a great writer!! 🙂


7 Alicia November 10, 2009 at 7:26 am

well congrats on your downpour of awards!! and thanks SO SO SO much!!! i'm honored 🙂


8 Teresha@Marlie and Me November 10, 2009 at 8:44 am

congrats on your awards! …and thanks for the pick-me-up!!!


9 Mesina November 10, 2009 at 9:32 am

First of all, congrats on all the awards my Dear! You deserve every one…your blog is honest, well written and a joy to visit.

I just went and read Sophia's post too, may I say that abuse of such kind is not something I have experienced myself, but rather relived through a very dear friend of mine who has suffered not once, but a few times at the hand of an abusive partner. Her ex husband nearly took her life 2 years after they had split and she suffered over 3 hours of constant attack. I cannot tell you what this does to a woman, I cannot tell you how it feels as friend to hear, but I can say that the strength she has shown since amazes me every day. She's grateful to have a life to continue living and she's a wonderful friend.
I'm glad you will still tell Sophia's story, no one should suffer at the hands of an abuser. x


10 Oh Sew Good November 10, 2009 at 12:39 pm

I'm looking forward to hearing Sophia's story. I believe the more women and abused men are free to talk about it the less it will happen.


11 Tammy Howard November 10, 2009 at 1:50 pm

Congrats on the well deserved awards and thinks for passing one along!


12 Scrappy Girl November 10, 2009 at 2:42 pm

Thank you so much…how sweet of you to think of me!


13 PictureGirl November 10, 2009 at 3:45 pm

Congrats on your awards, you deserve them.

I will read Sophia's story. I too will be upset by it. Not for myself, but for a beautiful friend I have.

Thank you for writing about this type of abuse. More needs to be written and talked about in the hopes it will help at least one woman.


14 thatgirlblogs November 10, 2009 at 3:45 pm

well. my blog upset my sister and I didn't hear from her for 2 years so… might want to password protect those posts?

thanks for the award/honored.


15 Amy November 10, 2009 at 4:03 pm

Congrats on your awards. I hope your Mom understands why you want to write your story…


16 Miss Dot November 10, 2009 at 7:39 pm

Congratulations on your awards and I'm sorry for your poor mother 🙁 Though it doesn't quite seem right to say, I look forward to your future posts on Sophia…

**Dropping by from SITS!**

?Miss Dot 🙂


17 Ashley Ladd November 11, 2009 at 1:34 am

Thanks for the award! You're so sweet. I'll probably post it tomorrow. I'm dead tired tonight. I don't know what's wrong with me this week.

Here's 10 things you don't know about me (I don't think):

1. I wish I had my own horse. In fact I wish I had an entire horse farm with lots of horses and could ride all day.

2. I want to trot the globe and visit as many countries as possible.

3. I want to move back to Ohio and have it be my main home.

4. I'd love to teach a college class or even be a full time instructor.

5. I want to travel in space with Star Trek and discover new galaxies and civilations.

6. I want to ride a motorcyle (but never have).

7. I don't like airplanes.

8. I hate reptiles.

9. I really wish I had a brother and or sister. I hate being a lonely only.

10. I love Superman.


18 KK November 11, 2009 at 6:48 am

Aw, thanks! You are the best!


19 Tater Tot Mom November 11, 2009 at 2:24 pm

Congrats on your awards!

I'm so sorry that your mom has expereinces that she can relate to Sophia's. 🙁

I am looking forward to continuing the story though, it's so important to get that type of information out there to help others.


20 MelRoXx November 11, 2009 at 2:52 pm



21 Bombshell BLISS November 11, 2009 at 8:02 pm
22 blueviolet November 12, 2009 at 4:57 pm

I will read the story in its entirety now. I'm sorry that it hurt your mom.


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