Immodesty: Right or Wrong?

by Sherry Riter in Other  

Is being immodest a big deal? Depending on where you were raised, the standards of your family,and your own personal beliefs, the question could be answered yes or no.

Is there a definite 100% right answer?

While taping a show at South Beach Wine and Food Festival, Paula Deen’s pants fall down…I mean way down to her thigh before she was able to stop the action.

Luckily, I have never had anything that humiliating happen to me! I think I would just die because there are some places on my body that have never see the light of day…LOL! However, in society today, her little mishap is not “that big of a deal” because people are naked everywhere you turn.

people partially unclothed

thongs on beachModesty in clothing is said to show respect for the body. The extent of the exposure of private parts is usually the greatest part of the disagreement.

Not too long ago I told you about Body Painting. I found the diversity of the comments to be very interesting. So I thought I would explore the topic a little bit further and ask you, how much do you feel is too much skin to show in public?

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1 KK November 25, 2009 at 5:29 am

We were raised to dress pretty conservatively. I am pretty sure no one wants to see too much of my skin anyway!


2 bluecottonmemory November 25, 2009 at 5:59 am

LOL! Beat Ya!

My Lamaz teacher told the women in my class that our modesty would fly out the window when it came time to deliver. She apparently didn't understand the strength of a good Kentucky southern born again Catholic girl modesty! Never lost it – even 5 deliveries later!


3 Eyeglasses & Endzones November 25, 2009 at 6:14 am

When accidents happen I have no problem with immodesty however, if you are running in LESS than a speedo…**ALERT** that is just RONG!!! 😉

Nice to meet you! Thanks for stopping by on my blog and leaving a comment!


4 thatgirlblogs November 25, 2009 at 6:43 am

can't relate — I'm a "never nude!"


5 M November 25, 2009 at 8:07 am

Being LDS(Mormon) we were raised to dress modestly and to respect our bodies. We have sleeves on all our outfits, our wedding and prom gowns, and knee length everything. I do have a few tops that have(as my hubby refers to as) church cleavage. But other than that, I think you can be sexy without exposing EVERYTHING.

How ever there is something to be said for being modest AND stylish.

Great post!


6 Oh Sew Good November 25, 2009 at 10:29 am

The way women/young girls dress today, we would have called them "slutty" when we were teenagers. I still say it looks "slutty".


7 Yaya' s Changing World November 25, 2009 at 10:36 am

I don't think its necessary to 'Show' body parts in order to be appealing. I also feel strongly that clothing is important to protect the body.

Showing off body parts is something that, to me, indicates a lack of confidence. Rather, I think that someone who feels confident tends to look good because of how they carry themselves, not because they are willing to flaunt flesh.

~ Yaya
Yaya's Changing World


8 Tammy Howard November 25, 2009 at 10:54 am

My current body needs to be as covered as possible. My rule when I had a nice body (and my rule for my girls) is: You can wear something low cut, short, or midriff exposing – but only one of those things at a time. If the neckline is low, the skirt or pants need to be long. If the midriff is exposed, the shirt can't be low cut and the pants or skirt must be long. If the skirt is short, the belly and cleavage must be covered. I'm sure that makes me modest by the standards of some and outrageous by the standards of others, but those are my standards.


9 Mesina November 25, 2009 at 11:19 am

I just wrote an entire response and watched it go bye bye upon an accidental click. oh how frustrating!

But here's the shorter version of what I just wrote. It's all about time and place with modesty. I'm not body shy, I mean while on holiday in Greece I will go topless on the beaches where it's normal to do so. I will also not be shy during a medical exam, where modesty just goes out the window anyway. However I respect my body and while out and about shopping you won't catch my butt cheeks swinging out under a belt for a skirt, not only do I not have the body for such a thing anyway, I feel my age and my being a mother commands a little more respect.
Besides, my partner is the only one that gets to see this body in all its glory….something I'd rather like to keep a special thing. x


10 Christine November 25, 2009 at 1:53 pm

What's too much skin? I think any region that burns easily from sun exposure should be covered, for modesty's sake.
We call those parts "tender meat" and it should be kept under wraps. Like excess cleavage and way upper thighs..etc.
That's just my personal choice, though. I don't judge anyone else, for real. I just worry about my own family.


11 The girl with the flour in her hair November 25, 2009 at 5:36 pm

You have George Clooney in your header, so of course I have to follow.

Modesty vs. immodesty all depends on the person. George Clooney nude is fine. Ruch Limbaugh is not.

Just my theory.


12 Yaya November 26, 2009 at 1:14 am

I think I told you this, but when I was in San Francisco for the Bay to Breakers Parade there was a guy whose "costume" was a ziploc bag over his penis. yeah, literally.


13 Tracy November 26, 2009 at 2:03 am

I've never been able to come up with hard, fast rules about modesty. It depends on the person and the occasion.

But I have 3 sons ages 21, 17 & 15 and I'm fascinated to hear how they and their friends talk about girls and how girls dress. I've noticed that they tend to think less of girls who show off much of their flesh; they make assumptions about the girls' self confidence and morals.


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