We are all so different. Really, think about it. There are not two people living on this planet that are exactly alike…and yet, we are also very much the same. As you are driving or being driven, have you looked at all the people in the cars and thought this…
None of them know each other. They are all going home and they know a whole different circle of friends and family. They have a job. They will eat dinner, go to bed…just like me. We all do similar activities: laugh, cry, sleep, eat, cook, watch TV, go to the movies, shop for groceries, clean our homes, raise children, interact with friends, love family, play with our pets, anticipate holidays, have flat tires, get computer viruses, people we love pass away, have automobile wrecks, lose too much weight or gain too much weight, we are afflicted with diseases, worry about our future, have our heart broken, have someone betray our trust…and the list could go on and on.
As different as we may be than one another, we are very much alike and share common hopes, dreams and disappointments. Most people want the same things…love and happiness.
The definition of hope is:
A belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one’s life. Hope is the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.
The definition of abyss is:
An immeasurably deep gulf or great space; intellectual or moral depths; dark place of despair.
What happens when we lose hope and fall into an abyss? At one point or another, each of us suffer a terrible and devastating pain that we must face. Did you ever see “The Never Ending Story”?
This excerpt applies to all of us and we should prepare ahead of time so that we can successfully cope with tragedy.
There are several very powerful thoughts in the clip…
“…because people have begun to lose their hopes and forget their dreams so the nothing grows stronger.”
“The nothing is an emptiness that’s left, it is like a despair destroying this world.”
“People who have no hopes are easy to control.”
“Whoever has the control, has the power.”
Who has the control and thus the power in your life? When we fall into an abyss, how do we get out? A few self-helps…
- Exercise 30 minutes per day
- Sleep 7-9 hours per night
- Eat a healthy diet high in fiber and low in fats, choose slow-burning complex carbohydrates, eat omega-3 fatty acids (like salmon and herring), increase B vitamins and chromium, and don’t skip meals
- Socialize more with family and friends
- Reduce your stress
- Listen to your self-talk and dwell on the positives instead of the negatives
- If you are light sensitive, ensure you get plenty of light each day
- Read self-help books
- Start or work on a hobby
- Volunteer your time and energy to help others
- Seek medical attention and/or counseling
Someone a while back read my blog and hit upon a posting that wasn’t “uplifting” and said,”I’m so glad you wrote this because I’ve been thinking you lived a perfect life and never had any struggles.” I stared at his comment for a while and wondered if I did sound “out of touch with reality” as he put it. So that you don’t think I live in la-la land, life has not and is not always “golden” for me. I have fallen into the abyss several times. I guess that is why I can relate so well with the character in “The Never Ending Story.” I know that attitude is half the battle. If you can’t convince yourself that “it is going to get better” then there is no way that anyone else can make you believe it.
of the worst blows that life delivers.
And once you find laughter,
no matter how painful
your situation might be,
you can survive it.”
I’m not a laughy, laughy, smiley, smiley person. I’m reserved and most of the time keep to myself which means I’m not a party girl. I find my home to be a haven where I can be me without fear of ridicule because when I am among “others” I tend to be self-conscious and self-deprecating. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to other people, but I just can’t help it. My thoughts go something like…”Oh my, she is so beautiful. I wish I had her tan. I’m so freakin’ pale…He is so smart. No wonder everyone finds him interesting. I wish I had gone to college longer….She speaks three languages. I barely can write one….” You see what I mean? However, I find freedom in writing and the person deep within me becomes uninhibited and comes out. The writer is who I want to be all the time “without” having to fake it in public. One-on-one I am fantastic…LOL…but throw me in with a bunch of people and I put on the fake confidence and smile until I can relax and talk myself into being okay. It gets me through the situation and honestly, no one can tell that I’m faking it. Sounds silly. I think part of this “everyone is looking at me because I am so stupid and ugly” attitude is that I have low self-esteem and the other part is that when I had orange hair, everyone was looking at me! It kind of set the pattern for my behavior. Click here and you will see…
Strange that no matter what the facts are in your head, the self-talk can ruin it for you because it is so powerful and that is why I wrote in an earlier post to talk to yourself in the mirror. You have to convince yourself first of your value and worth before you can progress. Not bragging, but I am not a stupid person, however, I have to tell myself all the time that “I am not stupid.” Really, how stupid is that? I’m sure that I’m not the only one with this problem because as much as we sometimes hate to admit it, women as a whole have this problem. We can talk ourselves completely into the ground without anyone else’s help. It is the same with The Nothing. We need to be vigilant at seeing the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. Our hopes and dreams depend on us. Dream big with high hopes. MAKE yourself believe it. You are in control of YOU and therefore, you are in control of your future.
are often blessings in disguise”
~ Oscar Wilde~