do you believe you are going to enjoy talking
with this woman up into your old age?
Everything else in marriage is transitory,
but most of the time you are together
will be devoted to conversation.”
If a flower isn’t watered,
it will wither…
If a vase isn’t handled with care,
it will break…
If a marriage isn’t nurtured,
love will die.
is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect,
nothing that appears to be good will last very long.
“Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand.
Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand
and squeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled.
A relationship is like that.
Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person,
it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively,
and the relationship slips away
and is lost.”