Marriage: Is There Love?

by Sherry Riter in Lessons of Life

“When entering into a marriage one ought to ask oneself;
do you believe you are going to enjoy talking
with this woman up into your old age?
Everything else in marriage is transitory,
but most of the time you are together
will be devoted to conversation.”
~Friedrich Nietzsche~

If a flower isn’t watered,

healthy flower

it will wither…

dead flower

If a vase isn’t handled with care,


it will break…

broken vase

If a marriage isn’t nurtured,

happy couple

love will die.

“Every good relationship, especially marriage,
is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect,
nothing that appears to be good will last very long.
~Amy Grant~

unhappy couple

“Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand.
Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand
and squeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled.
A relationship is like that.
Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person,
it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively,
and the relationship slips away
and is lost.”

man walking away and woman alone watching him


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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Tammy Howard August 24, 2009 at 10:36 am

What a lovely reminder.

The hubs and I definitely like each other as much as we love each other. That's a good place to be.


2 Lee August 24, 2009 at 11:30 am

What a great post. This is something that I have been trying to remind hubby about lately.


3 Scrappy Girl August 24, 2009 at 2:21 pm

I think alot of parents of small children make the mistake of not nurturing their marriage and taking time to be husband/wife instead of dad/mom from time to time. We try to have a date night once a month at least. The kids all having a regular bedtime also allows snuggle time on the couch each night!


4 ? Teresa ? August 25, 2009 at 12:37 am

I love this post. I have a huge passion for married people, especially *young* married couples. So many people go into marriage nowadays with the idea that they can 'try it out' and if they don't like it, they can 'just get a divorce'. What a sad, sad way to enter into a covenant with the one you love. The commitment just doesn't mean as much to a lot of people anymore.

Thanks for writing about the importance of our relationships. Most of us could probably give a little, if not a lot, more dedication and energy to our relationships. I've heard it said that many of us treat strangers on the street better than we treat our own family members. It is sad but it is often very true.

I hope you are having a really great Monday and I pray that the rest of your week is filled with nothing but joy and sunshine!


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5 Kristin August 25, 2009 at 1:15 am

What a beautiful post! Definitely something to chew on.


6 {Diamond} August 25, 2009 at 3:31 pm

Thanks! I really needed that, as my third anniversary is coming up this Saturday.


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