Relationships are hard because you make them hard. I believe that unselfishness is the secret to fantastic relationships. It doesn’t matter if it is with someone older, younger, male, female, blood related, acquaintance, co-worker, neighbor or friend. If every relationship was unselfish, I believe every relationship would be successful and happy.
Let’s be sure that we understand what unselfishness means:
Definition of unselfish: having or showing more concern for other people than for yourself
Do I believe it is possible for people to have unselfish relationships?
Do I believe that all relationships will be unselfish?
No way, but that doesn’t mean I stop hoping.
“The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.” ~ Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People ~
How To Be Unselfish – 17 Tips To Becoming Unselfish
Let me give you a list of ways that you can become an unselfish person.
- Do things for other people even though they won’t ever know you did them.
- Think about how someone else feels first before you act.
- Take notice and be grateful for everything.
- Forgive and do not bring it up anymore. You won’t forget, but you can refuse to hold it over their head.
- Be available.
- Don’t walk on someone in order to get ahead.
- Give others the benefit of your talents.
- Don’t hurt someone else to make yourself look better or just to have your way.
- Volunteer for good causes and help less fortunate people.
- Be genuinely happy for other people’s accomplishments.
- Banish jealousy.
- Learn to compromise.
- Communicate, communicate, communicate.
- Be on time to your commitments.
- Listen when someone needs you to listen.
- Remember and celebrate other people’s important dates.
- Treat other people the way you want to be treated.
After reading the unselfish list, they all seem to be common sense, kind acts. Don’t you agree?
You Can’t, But You Can
You can’t unsee what you’ve already seen.
You can’t unhit who you’ve already hit.
You can’t uncry tears you’ve already cried.
You can’t unhear what you’ve already heard.
You can’t unscream what you’ve already screamed.
You can’t unfeel what you’ve already felt.
You can’t unhurt who you’ve already hurt.
You can’t unsay what you’ve already said.
You can’t undo what you’ve already done.
You can show respect by honoring your commitments.
You can be loyal and faithful in your everyday choices.
You can show affection with hugs and kisses.
You can support and encourage in words and actions.
You can speak kindness and truth in your conversations.
You can listen with interest and enthusiasm.
You can be open and honest with your emotions.
You can love with depth and passion.
You can mean what you say and say what you mean.