“To know what is right and not do it is the worst cowardice.”
~ Confucius ~
What Is A Lie?
To make sure we are all on the same page, let’s start with the definition of lie:
- to make an untrue statement with intent to deceive
- to create a false or misleading impression
- an assertion of something known or believed by the speaker to be untrue with intent to deceive
- an untrue or inaccurate statement that may or may not be believed true by the speaker
- something that misleads or deceives
A person who lies is called a liar.
When a person tells lies it is called lying.
Other words that are synonymous with lie include:
- prevaricate: implies quibbling or simply confusing the issue
- equivocate: misleading the people you are talking to by using words that have more than one meaning
- palter: unreliable statements of fact or intention or insincere promises
- fib : telling an untruth that is rather trivial
The word lie is a straightforward term that is rather blunt and is another way of implying dishonesty.
Types Of Lies
There are several different types of lies and ways to lie. Each are a little different, but make no mistake about it, they are still lies.
- White Lies: A lie who doesn’t have a victim and is told with the intent of sparing someone’s feelings.
- Pathological Lying: Untruths told by a liar who only thinks of himself. This is a very selfish type of lying because the liar has no regard for the needs, emotions and/or concerns of others.
- Self-Serving Lies: Lies told to get something you want even if it hurts others. It can also be a lie to get out of something you don’t want to do.
- Dissociative Lies: This is a term used in psychology to describe a lie told by a person who has a mental departure from reality which means that the liar believes his own lie.
- Compulsive Lying: Someone who has a habit of lying without any great concern for the way the lie impacts others is said to have problems with compulsive lying.
How To Tell A Lie
Telling a lie requires just a few steps:
- Make sure you don’t care about the person you are going to lie to OR care about your own selfishness so much that even if you care for the other person, you don’t mind all that much if your lie causes them pain.
- Open you mouth.
- Form the lying words.
- Use your vocal chords to make the words come out of your mouth.
Maybe that was just a tad bit sarcastic.
A Few Facts About Lying
Telling a lie is quite easy. Not being caught in the lie is another story altogether.
- Lies have a way of unraveling because one lie usually leads to another and another and another.
- All the lies have to actually make sense and flow together like the truth.
- The liar must have an absolutely fantastic memory. The liar has to remember all the lies told and that is much harder than remembering what actually happened.
- A liar has to be very creative. In order to have the lies believed, the liar must constantly make up new and believable lies.
- Liars get angry often when telling a lie in order to throw the person being lied to off the path that leads to the truth.
- After telling a lie, the liar will remain quiet and not answer questions. Questions about the lie could lead into a need to tell an extravagant lie which would be more to remember. It would also mean that all the previous lies and all other lies going forward would need to mesh with the extravagant lie.
Things To Remember
There’s just a couple points I actually want to make about lying. Well, other than all the other points I just made above.
- Lies hurt the person being lied to and the liar.
- Lies can destroy a relationship.
- Lying is a choice, so you can choose to stop lying at any time.
- Abraham Lincoln said, “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time.”
- The truth is always better than a lie in the long run. The truth may cause pain, but the person lied to can work through any painful truth. A lie, well, it is difficult to overcome the emotions of betrayal and distrust far more than a painful truth.
Being lied to hurts and sometimes it is detrimental.
My suggestion: Don’t lie.
My other suggestion: If you are lied to by someone constantly, avoid them by leaving their circle of influence and get out of a dishonest relationship.
My next to last thought: Karma. A lie may take forty years or more before it is thrust into the spotlight and revealed or proven, but eventually lies do not remain hidden.
My final thought: Come clean. Reveal your lies, right the wrongs and give the person you lied to the opportunity to forgive you.
“In thy foul throat thou liest.”
Obviously, I do not like lies.