As the sun set, I took a leisurely walk through the graveyard thinking about life, death and everything in between…the dash of our life. It was so quiet that I could hear my own heart beat as I became very aware that all these people once walked, talked, laughed, cried, worked and loved just like me.
Most of the epitaphs were simply the family names while others stated things such as:
- Beloved Husband
- We will miss you…
- Mutual love, the crown of all our bliss.
- Sleep on now, and take your rest.
- The world is a far lesser place without you in it.
I thought about what a waste of time and emotion it is to be aggravated because I have to wait in line to pay for my groceries, feeling impatient sitting at a stop light, being angry or holding a grudge. In the whole scheme of life, those things rob me of great opportunities in my “dash” of life.
The Dash Of Your Life
The dash that is located on a gravestone between the date of birth and the date of death is a powerful little line. It can represent a day or one hundred years. Regardless of the length of time it represents, the dash shouts, “I lived here! Don’t forget me!”
If you’re like me, when you start a week long vacation or even a weekend, it seems that you have SO MUCH time ahead. Then as the end of the vacation or weekend draws near, the time just seems to speed by at a phenomenal rate. Of course, I always run out of time to do all the things I wanted to accomplish or enjoy.
The same thing happens with the dash.
While we are young children, days last f.o.r.e.v.e.r.
When we are in our twenties, “old” is fifty and nothing seems impossible.
By the time we get to fifty, time is speeding by rapidly. I often find myself trying to grab a moment for just a little longer. For instance, when Alyssa left to go on a date last night and hugged me goodbye, I held her twice as long as usual. I could smell her clean hair, the soft scent of her perfume, the warmth of her tiny body and I could feel the love she had for me. I did the same thing when I hugged my mother last week. I cherished the moment and stalled the dash in my life.
The moments in life that are most positively memorable and cause me to feel the most happy are those that are filled with an abundance of love and belonging. The secret of life is really no secret at all. Love is the most public secret known to man.
Who you spend your dash with determines a lot of how you live during your life and your level of happiness. Hopefully you have surrounded yourself with people who love you and add value to your existence.
You only get one dash, so be selective with whom you spend it with and what you do with it. Seize every moment as if it were your last and drink in the sweetness of life. Make sure you live your dash so fully that it still be shouting love long after you’ve gone to rest.
It isn’t just a line…It’s your life.