It has become a tradition that on Christmas, Alyssa gives me slippers. This year was no exception.
The older she has become, the better she has been at choosing great slippers.
I remember Alyssa started out getting slippers that were nice, but really weren’t “me” if you know what I mean. I could tell Alyssa had chosen the slippers she liked and not what she knew I would enjoy.
That was okay because it was truly the thought that mattered. It was wonderful knowing that she spent time thinking about me as she walked around the store searching for the perfect gift to express her love.
After she started working, Alyssa wanted to use her own money to buy the gift for me.
Last year she got me a pair of slippers that fit perfectly, covered my calf and have kept my feet warm all year. This year Alyssa still remembered that I like to have more of a boot slipper, but apparently she also wanted to have them be cute.
I think they are really cute, however, they are probably two or three sizes too big for my foot. I don’t really have BIG feet. I’ve only tried them on to take the photo tonight, but I’m thinking that if I wear them with the toes sticking out so far ahead of me, I may end up tripping.
At this point, I either need to keep the slippers and wear them even though they are too big or have her return them for a smaller size. Either way, I have to make a decision and I have to communicate it to Alyssa if I choose to have them exchanged.
but you decide who you let walk out,
who you let stay and
who you refuse to let go.”
That quote is very profound.
People touch our lives every day. As soon as they enter our comfort zone, we make a decision to let them walk out or stay. That initial meeting is the first step in the relationship.
Once a person has been accepted into our life, several things happen…
We get to know their likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams, goals and failures, beliefs and nuances of their personality. Once again, we make a decision to let them walk out or stay.
If they stay in our life, eventually we begin to care about them. When the circumstances are right, it is possible that we might even fall in love with them. Even with all that emotion, we still have to make a decision to let them walk out or stay.
I know this scenario is sounding much simpler than it is in real life, but in a way, it is really just this simple. People are in our lives because we choose for them to share time with us. At any given point, we are continually making the decision to let them walk out or stay.
Most of the time, the subconscious is asking the question and answering it. We aren’t even really totally aware that we are making a decision because we are just enjoying the relationship or are too miserable to do anything about it.
Sometimes the answer to the question can make or break us physically or emotionally. Have you ever begged someone to love you back? No? Well, if not, let me tell you that it isn’t any fun. First of all, every shred of dignity you have is ripped away. Then there is the realization and total acceptance of the fact that the other person simply does not love you regardless of everything you have done in the past to prove your love for them. It doesn’t matter how many years you were together or married, your efforts feel as if they were in vain. At that point, you will feel used. Memories of times spent together and sacrifices you’ve made in their behalf will flood your mind. Your self-esteem will hit an all time low. While you are begging for their love, you are also refusing to let go of the relationship.
During those times of unhappiness and turmoil, you may feel like you just don’t have a choice. You can’t imagine living without them even though you don’t want to live with them. It definitely feels like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. However, it all boils down to the same basic answer..Do you let them walk out or stay?
No one can answer the question for you.
No one can make the decision for you.
The people in your life are there because you have chosen them to be there with you. When someone adds value and happiness to your life, let them know it! Subconsciously you have made the decision to let them stay. However, if sadness is hovering over your head like a black rain cloud because someone is stealing your joy, make them walk out of your life.
It is that simple and that complicated.