As Charles Dickens said in A Tale of Two Cities, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to heaven.”
Yes, Mr. Dickens wrote of a complete contradiction of everything life has to offer especially in marriage. I can’t think of a better discussion for an action and entity that I think people take far too lightly in a series called Marriage – It’s Not All White Lace And Roses.
Journaling, which in many cases now means blogging, is a great platform to discuss the intricacies of marriage successes and
failures unhappy learning experiences. Let me state for the record that I do not know everything about being successful in marriage, however, I don’t believe anyone else does either. The committed union between husband and wife is very individualistic meaning what works for one doesn’t work for another. It is a live and learn process with some basics that are applicable to everyone.
My daughter is dating and I imagine will be contemplating marriage within the next ten years, so I want to have a source to refer over and over if necessary to help her understand how and why I have gotten to this point in my married existence. It will include the lessons learned from the good times and the bad with hopes that she can avoid a lot if not all the unpleasant parts.
In this writing journey, I hope that you will share your marriage experiences, successes, goals, wisdom, happiness and the pain involved in having a relationship we like to think of as the Cinderella Story.
This relationship and union between two people can be likened to a dance called The Tango. This is a partner dance, but led by the man. The couple will at times have a space between their bodies, but also can and will have a close embrace. Leading and following are done in unison and harmony with body, spirit and mind.
This beautiful, often fast paced dance called marriage can be as much of an adventure as The Tango. The type of marriage is entirely up to both people joined in the commitment. A contract, if you will, which in no particular order includes, but is not limited to, honesty, faithfulness, loyalty, compassion, gratitude, honor, love, humor, happiness, celebration, respect, excitement, sacrifice, and unity with every step of the journey…
depends on two things:
(1) finding the right person
(2) being the right person.”