Is it a positive or negative trait.
Obsessiveness can be described as: excessive often to an unreasonable degree and a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an idea or feeling.
I get that way.
With a whole bunch of things.
Lets just take the creation of my other seven blogs as an example. Once I thought of it, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. As you know, I would arise early, go to bed in the wee hours of the morning and sit glued to the computer. On the weekends I would sit in the same chair for twenty-four hours straight with very few breaks. My eyes wouldn’t shut. I didn’t get hungry. I didn’t want to talk, listen to music or watch television. I was determined to finish them all. I wanted them to look good as well as be functional. I wanted to have a means of teaching things like HTML template codes and selling tips. I wanted a side business. Not to get rich, but to cover expenses for fancy things on the sites and to offer expensive giveaways like computers, computer software and diamonds! I don’t see a whole lot of that going on at giveaways. I also wanted them to be a great place for everyone to visit. Some place I can host YOU and your life and businesses. I want other people to know you like I have come to know many of you. I want friends to be there for me when my daughter moves, when she gets married, when I have grandchildren, when my parents pass away…I will need support of people that have come to know me and grown to care for me. So I was determined. I had a goal. I wasn’t going to quit until it was accomplished and I knew if I would just keep typing, it would get finished.
On the flip side, my family was going crazy. I was consumed with the computer and they found out what it was like to not have me just standing and waiting to serve them. I’m like that…I joke about the 1950’s, but in many ways I like some of those things:
At which point I get up and go to her.
“Will you make cookies?”
“Sure,” I answer and I drop what I am doing to make cookies.
Yeah, I spoil them. So they were not being spoiled and they felt the pain. The same conversation above became:
“I’m in here, I can’t hear you,” and she would come into the room to me.
“Will you make cookies?”
“Why don’t you go lay out the butter and measure all the ingredients, ok? I will mix it up while you watch and then you can bake them.”
Do you see the drastic difference? Yeah. They did too. As a side benefit to the whole experience, it was a good teaching lesson to not take me for granted! So officially, I was “obsessed” with completing this project. It was a positive experience in the sense that I had all seven sites completed and published in record time AND I lost fifteen pounds. The negative part of the obsession was that I deprived myself of proper rest and interpersonal relations.
Was it worth it? I guess that depends on your point of view. An unnamed member of my family is judging by how many people are NOT following the new blogs or subscribing to the RSS feed. I am judging by the positive feedback that many of you like the sites, enjoy the informational postings, and the ease at which you can visit one site after another. I guess you can tell it works pretty good since I made over 400 comments in two days. I want to just say to my doubting family members, “Hello! The sites have only been in existence six days…SIX days. It takes time for everyone to check out the new blogs and find their value.” Okay, I’ve said it.
Now why don’t we take a very different example. I’m obsessed with germs. Fear them because when I get sick, I AM REALLY SICK. This means that I don’t drink after people, take sample bites off their food unless I bite first, touch my face or rub my nose and eyes. It also means that I wash my hands often. I want to wash them more, however, I do not want to become obsessed and start washing them fifty times a day. Washing my hands that much would be obsessive and have only negative connotations like raw hands and anxiety about washing my hands. I would have to seek therapy for that quirk!
Obviously, there are positives and negatives to obsessions, but it is best if you practice moderation in all things.
There are some exceptions.
Like George Clooney
Also, maybe George Clooney with chocolate,
or covered with chocolate.
Hmmm, I better stop there or I might get into trouble.