When You Feel Sorry For Yourself

by Sherry Riter in Motivation,Self-Development  

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“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
~ Aristotle ~

Feeling sorry for yourself as a temporary action can be comforting because it soothes the ache of sadness and fear that you are trying to escape. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t work so well.

I have found that it is better not to try to have someone comfort me because it doesn’t end up feeling very comforting and usually people just get aggravated.

You may actually have legitimate reasons to feel self-sorrow, but remaining in that helpless state does not provide a solution nor lead to happiness. Wallow for awhile if you must and then get up, dry your tears and realize that you are NOT helpless. You can always make choices. Maybe all the choices stink right now, but the tides of the ocean will change and it won’t always be the way it is right now.

Believe me…I’m now at the place where I feel like I don’t have very much of a choice. Lots of people are feeling this same way.

We do not have to let our thoughts torment us. The sun is going to shine tomorrow and then it will set again. Don’t let self-pity rob you of life. This day is another day to enjoy and get it right. Self-pity is your enemy. Get rid of self-pity and the things that are causing you unhappiness so that you can enjoy the day.

“Be content with what you have,
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.”
~ Lao Tzu ~

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Liz November 7, 2013 at 2:37 am

I’m trying, to be honest.


2 Sherry Riter November 11, 2013 at 5:50 am

I know and I’ve learned that often people don’t want our honesty. 🙁


3 teresa vett November 7, 2013 at 12:59 pm

I have never found comfort from anyone else. I only find comfort in them loving me. I and I alone can find comfort in myself. I only can work out a problem with prayer and finally use my own good sense to love me. You taught me that my pretty girl. It has been such a blessing


4 Sherry Riter November 11, 2013 at 5:49 am



5 Joan November 7, 2013 at 3:57 pm

This is a very wise, inspirational and beautiful post – and I know it was written at a time when you are facing many challenges, which makes it all the more meaningful. 🙂


6 Sherry Riter November 11, 2013 at 5:49 am

Thank you Joan. {{{hugsss}}}


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