Patience Is A Virtue

by Sherry Riter in Patience,Self-Development  

tree branch new leaves

In order to convey the full impact of my short message, I thought that it would be best to start off with a few definitions:

Definition of PATIENCE
1: the capacity, habit, or fact of being patient

Definition of PATIENT
1: bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint
2: manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain
3: not hasty or impetuous
4: steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity

Definition of VIRTUE
1a: conformity to a standard of right : morality
1b: a particular moral excellence
2: plural : an order of angels — see celestial hierarchy
3: a beneficial quality or power of a thing
4: manly strength or courage : valor
5: a commendable quality or trait : merit
6: a capacity to act : potency
7 : chastity especially in a woman

I was looking at the buds on the trees today and thought about how slowly they grow into leaves and flowers. All winter the new bright green sprouts patiently wait and then burst forth in the spring. I don’t ever recall seeing a tree bloom during winter because it was sick of waiting for warm temperatures.

Our lives are the same as the trees. There are times we must patiently wait for the spring to arrive, but in order to burst forth and bloom, we have to also be prepared.

tree branch new leaves bursting

Some hard times or trials are more difficult than others to overcome. It becomes necessary to push through the pain. I’m sure you can relate with this fact. Anyone who has ever exercised knows that to see results, one must keep on exercising even if it is tiring, boring, hard or painful.

When Alyssa was in high school, we both joined a fitness club. She wanted to workout at the gym rather than take physical education at school. Since she could prove the number of hours she exercised at the gym, it wasn’t necessary for her to take the last physical education class. I was exercising with her two or three hours a night. It was exhausting and I didn’t want to exercise! But like a good mom, I stuck with the exercise until Alyssa had satisfied her high school physical education class requirement.

It wasn’t easy to exercise intently.

It also wasn’t easy to patiently wait for Alyssa to finish the exercise hours that were required .

But we have opportunities for exhibiting patience many times everyday. Having patience helps to keep peace in your life and keep anxiety out of your life. To quote one of my favorite people/characters:

“Rivers know this:
there is no hurry.
We shall get there some day.”
~ A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh ~

I’ve had to exhibit patience thousands of times in my life, but honestly, the hardest trial I’ve ever had to overcome is healing from PTSD. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder has wreaked so much havoc in my life that at times I have been powerless to do anything about it. BUT, and that’s a big but, I KNOW that EVENTUALLY I will completely overcome this trauma caused disorder because I will patiently persevere with the recovery.

“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect
before which difficulties disappear
and obstacles vanish.”
~ John Quincy Adams ~

I have one thing in common with a snail – Slow and steady wins the race. One of the things that I have learned by having PTSD is that “the race” is only against myself. The urge to compare myself with anyone else has disappeared. This is my life. Only I can live my life. Only I can make the decisions in my life that lead me to health and happiness. Only I know what I really want and need. Best of all, I have actually gotten to the point that I really believe the words I just wrote.

I have slowly changed my life and now I patiently keep striving for an even happier life.

“He that can have patience can have what he will.”
~ Benjamin Franklin ~

It’s such a comfort to know that all my hard work and patience won’t be futile.

Patience is a virtue well worth the effort to acquire.

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

1 lisa April 4, 2013 at 4:18 am

Good morning sunshine,
Just reading another good post…You are making progress.. thats good, and I know you will conquer your mission and persevere. Have a wonderful day… my friend 🙂


2 Sherry Riter April 4, 2013 at 7:12 am

Thank you Lisa! I hope you have a great day! 🙂


3 teresa1944 April 4, 2013 at 8:46 am

Gosh you did not use my name for patience, lol. About virtue , it is just as equal for men too. Now you did a great post as usual. You were so pretty yesterday sitting at my computer. Thank you.


4 Sherry Riter April 8, 2013 at 9:55 pm

Thanks Mom. No, you and the act of having patience will never happen. You are soooooooooooooooooooo impatient!


5 Sue April 4, 2013 at 1:10 pm

Hi! Now, I have to go exercise. Thanks for the inspiration.


6 Sherry Riter April 8, 2013 at 9:57 pm

LOL Glad it inspired you!!! 😀


7 Skip_D April 4, 2013 at 4:09 pm

patience is an aloe

in Arabic, the word for patience (as-sabr – ?????) is the same as the name of the aloe (sabr – ???) …this seems very appropriate to me, as the sturdy, tough aloe withstands all hardships & waits patiently for rain – when the rains come, it shoots forth beautiful blossoms…

like the aloe, you are withstanding the vicissitudes of life & preparing to bloom!



8 Sherry Riter April 8, 2013 at 9:57 pm

That was really interesting! Thanks Skip!!!


9 Joan April 4, 2013 at 9:40 pm

You definitely have both patience and virtue! The progress you have made with your PTSD is amazing! I know that you don’t think of yourself in this way, but you are an inspiration to others who are struggling with their own PTSD. Heck, you are an inspiration to those who aren’t struggling with PTSD. I’m inspired at how you keep writing a new post day after day! 🙂


10 Sherry Riter April 9, 2013 at 1:53 pm

THANK YOU JOAN!!!!! I’m glad you think I am inspiring because I know you inspire me! 😀 {{{hugsss}}}}


11 Hannah Kirkhart April 5, 2013 at 6:43 pm

Such a thoughtful and thought-provoking post. Patience is so important and I know I don’t always remember to use it. I can relate to you in a small way: anxiety is something I have to deal with, and I also hope to overcome it. I wish you the best with your journey!


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