To Poke Or Not To Poke, That Is The Question

by Sherry Riter in Facebook,Facebook,Social media

I haven’t been ticklish for many years and believe me when I say, it is a lovely thing not to be ticklish! To add to the enjoyment of not being ticklish is that most everyone else is ticklish. (wicked evil laugh) So with a simple poke here and there on someone’s mid-section, I can reduce them to giggles. Obviously I’m bringing joy to the world.

What Does Poke Mean?

Let’s start with the basics…a definition that I think you will find totally interesting.

The definition of poke:

  1. to jab or prod, as with the elbow, the finger, a stick, etc.
  2. to make (a hole, opening, etc.) by or as by poking
  3. to thrust (at)
  4. Informal to hit with the fist; punch
  5. to protrude or cause to protrude
  6. to stir by poking
  7. to meddle or intrude
  8. to search or pry
  9. to loiter, potter, dawdle, etc.
  10. bite-size pieces of raw fish doused in seasonings
  11. Slang – to have sex with

Poke has many definitions, so all the other words used in the sentence with poke will help you understand which meaning is intended.

What if there aren’t any other words in the sentence? What if poke is the full sentence?

Facebook poke on Facebook account

What Does The Facebook Poke Mean?

There’s a feature on Facebook called Poke. It’s just a super tiny icon of a hand with a finger that looks like it is about to poke you.

According to Facebook, “The poke feature can be used for a variety of things on Facebook. For instance, you can poke your friends to say hello.”

As stated by Mark Zuckerberg during a live Facebook webinar, “When we created the poke, we thought it would be cool to have a feature without any specific purpose. People interpret the poke in many different ways, and we encourage you to come up with your own meanings.”

Apparently the Facebook poke can mean many things. You can poke someone to let them know it has been awhile since you’ve chatted or the poke could mean, “I think you are hot!” It sure leaves the door wide open for interpretation. Is that a good thing or bad thing?

How Do I Poke On Facebook?

I’m going to assume that since we all “LIKE” pages on Facebook, none of us are opposed to poking either. It sounds like we haven’t graduated from high school yet! However, many grown adults get into what is called poking wars and it is all in good fun. I guess the youthful spirit is still quite alive and kicking in the aging generation.

There are a couple ways to poke someone on Facebook.

  • Go to the home page of your friend.
  • On the far right side below the timeline photo, click the drop down next to the word “Message”
  • A dropdown menu will appear.
  • On the dropdown menu, click “Poke

Facebook poke on friends page

  • After clicking poke, a box will pop up that states, “You have poked (insert your friend’s name here)”

Facebook verification message of poke

The next way to poke is even easier than the first method.

  • Go to your own main Facebook page.
  • On the top right you will find the “Poke Suggestions”
  • Beside each person is a “poke” button
  • Click “poke” and the suggestion will disappear and at the same time, the person will be notified that they have been poked by you.

Facebook poke suggestions never end

You Can’t Ever Poke Too Much

Let’s say you are at a friend’s page and decide to poke them. So you go to the dropdown menu and click poke.

Facebook poke as a re-poke

However, instead of receiving confirmation that you poked the person, a message states, “(Insert your friend’s name) has not responded to your last poke.”

Facebook prevents you from poking someone again until they have poked you back.

Facebook poke not responded yet

After Facebook gives you a couple poke suggestions, a message appears that states, “There are no more suggestions.”

Don’t be fooled!

When you refresh the page, there will be more poke suggestions. Every time you refresh the page, you will keep seeing more poke suggestions! There’s no end to the amount of poking you can do!

Facebook poke no more suggestions

So if you are feeling lonely or blue, poking is the best thing you can do for yourself because you will get poked back! Your Facebook page will be covered with pokes from the people that poked you and maybe even more from other people who are having a poking day to remember! I have so many pokes to reciprocate that I had to stop poking for awhile to rest and that’s a good thing!

Facebook pokes received after poking

Poking is one of the easiest ways to communicate. It is one word and one action that can range in meaning from you were being thought of sweetly, someone wants to be noticed by you, someone wishes they could poke their fist in your face or even that someone is feeling amorous. All of that is conveyed with just one word on Facebook!


The poke means so much and yet can mean nothing!

By the way, I know that I have created yet another list with something about sex on it, but honestly, I can’t help it! Maybe I’m not trying that hard to avoid it either. (wink)

Do you like to poke?

I do!


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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 18 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Skip_D November 18, 2012 at 4:05 am

I love poking… & I love imagining where I’m being poked by someone – & knowing where I might poke them back! I must admit that I find those ‘poke wars’ to be fun 😀

…& yeah, why avoid all those fun things! 😉


2 Sherry Riter November 18, 2012 at 9:02 am



3 Skip_D November 18, 2012 at 4:07 am

ohhhh, btw – as you can see above, I’m waiting for a poke! LOL!!!


4 Sherry Riter November 18, 2012 at 9:03 am

Double Poke! LOL


5 Robert Fuller November 18, 2012 at 9:06 am

Ok, after reading through the various points raised and being ticklish myself, I must admit that I am definitely in the pro-poking camp. Tickling, or poking, has always been that subtle gesture where you could say, “I was horsing around and having fun.” to “hey I’m really into you.” Great article Red. Entertaining and insightful.


6 Sherry Riter November 18, 2012 at 9:08 am

Thanks Robert! 😉


7 mom November 18, 2012 at 10:00 am

When I fist saw your title , I thought Oh no!!! Do your remember Robert Duvalls “Poke ” in his western saga? lol I am glad it was not that


8 Sherry Riter November 18, 2012 at 10:30 am

No, I don’t know what show you are talking about because:

1. I rarely remember a TV show/movie
2. I rarely watch TV shows/movies



9 Bev November 18, 2012 at 8:58 pm

The first time I saw the “poke” on Facebook, I thought of Robert Duvall too! Too funny! Sherry, this was a great idea for a post!


10 Sherry Riter November 19, 2012 at 1:54 am

Thanks Bev! I’ve got to watch this Robert Duvall everyone is talking about when they talk about the poke! LOL


11 Shelli November 18, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Thank you for poking me. That was an unexpected surprise. 🙂


12 Sherry Riter November 19, 2012 at 8:08 am

My pleasure!!! 😀


13 Joan November 29, 2012 at 6:00 am

Well, now I know what to do when I get poked! LOL Thanks for an enlightening post! 🙂


14 Sherry Riter November 29, 2012 at 11:25 am

You’re welcome!



15 Lisa Ladrido February 9, 2013 at 12:27 pm

Thank you for the *poke*! I always picture the Pillsbury Dough Boy when someone pokes me!


16 Sherry Riter February 9, 2013 at 12:40 pm

LOL I try to stay way ahead of the game with my poking! I think it lets everyone know that I know that I know you are still there and I am too!

Since this is a comment on my blog, I’m going to count it as a DOUBLE POKE on ya! LOL


17 Kenny Sellards February 15, 2015 at 1:54 pm

*poke* 🙂 <3


18 Sherry Riter February 15, 2015 at 4:45 pm

LOL Poke backatcha!


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