Memories Can Make Us And A Memory Can Break Us

by Sherry Riter in Lessons of Life,Self-Development  

“Nothing is ever really lost to us
as long as we remember it.”
~ L.M. Montgomery ~

rear view mirror rain memory


Our memories consist of the things we’ve learned and experienced. They make us who we are and affect how we act or feel. Without being able to remember the who, what, when and where throughout each day, we would be in a mess! All of our stored memories not only help us to function on a daily basis, they also direct our lives. We make choices based not only on the current circumstances, but also on the memories we have stored.

I went to see my therapist and shared my progress in this PTSD journey that I live with every day. I also told her that I was sad.

Just sad.

When there is a love lost, shattered dreams, pain suffered and our hopes are stalled, the memories all wrapped up in those things give us a legitimate reason to be sad. We need to process these emotions and memories in order to let them go into a place that we don’t have to think of them all the time or re-evaluate the emotions over and over. The memories won’t disappear, but the emotion packed in the memory will cease to control us when we deal with them properly.

So today, I’m dealing with my memories and I’m sad. It is only temporary, but it is part of the process of healing. While I’m sad, sorting through my memories and healing, these words floated into my head…

Light the corners of my mind
Misty watercolor memories
Of the way we were
Scattered pictures
Of the smiles we left behind
Smiles we gave to one another
For the way we were…”

Our memories can make us stronger, but if we let them overtake us by not facing or processing them, they can surely break us. There’s no shame in having to process painful memories and definitely no reason to apologize for being sad. It is a necessity and memories are the things that stand between me and my future happiness. After coming this far, I’m not about to stop now and that’s for sure.


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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 mom October 9, 2012 at 2:24 am

I am here Sherry, I know you think I am not. I have always marveled how the bad memories over time seem to disappear. I find that if we let go, they go. Love is a powerful healer. The more you let in your heart the greater the healing power. It is hard, never easy and you will always at times question yourself. That is the human part of you. Your life is before you, I know that you feel what life? Alyssa is leaving and I am alone. Alyssa will always come back and you have been alone for years and years. The Lord will open a window and the sweet wind of his sweet spirit will bring you great joy. I know this and I know you will succeed. good nite my child


2 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:38 pm

“Love is a powerful healer.” I totally agree.

“I know that you feel what life? Alyssa is leaving and I am alone.” Yeah, you can say that again.

“I know you will succeed.” Thank you, Mom. I hope you are right.


3 mom October 9, 2012 at 2:25 am

This lemonade is driving me crazy, I am now so thirsty and all I want is that lemonade!!!


4 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:38 pm

It is rather beautiful, isn’t it? LOL


5 Skip_D October 9, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Yeah, memories are one of life’s double-edged swords… it’s a good thing that a double edged sword comes with a haft!

Sadness is double-edged too, for that matter… it can be painful, or nostalgic… May all your sadness only give you nostalgia for things that were, or might have been…


6 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:39 pm

That is very beautifully written. Thank you.


7 Joan October 9, 2012 at 2:40 pm

Memories? I have a few. 🙂


8 Joan October 9, 2012 at 2:43 pm

Sorry you are experiencing all this sadness, Redhead Riter. 🙁


9 Joan October 9, 2012 at 2:43 pm

I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you.


10 Joan October 9, 2012 at 2:44 pm

Is it tomorrow yet? 🙂


11 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:41 pm

LOL You’re so funny!


12 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:40 pm

It was a better day! 😀


13 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:40 pm

Thank you, Joan. It’s just life right now.


14 Sherry Riter October 10, 2012 at 10:40 pm

Sing it girl! LOL


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