Faking It – A Deceptive Simulation

by Sherry Riter in Personality,Self-Development  

Let me give you the definition of the word “fake” so that we are on the same page.

Fake as an adjective:
Having a false or misleading appearance; fraudulent.

Fake as a noun:
One that is not authentic or genuine; a sham.

Fake as an intransitive verb:
To engage in feigning, simulation, or other deceptive activity.

So look at that gorgeous picture I created for this post. Do you think that is me, The Redhead Riter?


Are you sure?

Well, who do you think is in the picture?

Oh! The Grinch?!

How can you tell it is the Grinch? I mean look at all that red hair and the big heart. The Grinch didn’t have those things.

You think the Grinch is faking being The Redhead Riter?

Hmmm…..I think you are correct.

No one is The Redhead Riter except for The Redhead Riter. It is the same with you. No one else is exactly like you and no one can fake being you. I’m an original and so are you.


There have been times that I’ve faked being me. Here’s a few examples:

I was sad that I couldn’t go on a field trip with Alyssa in elementary school because I had to work, so all day long I faked my smile. I had to fake it because that is what I constantly told the people who worked the front desk at my hotel. I can hear myself now, “The customers do not want to see the Grinch behind the desk when they are tired and want to check in, so fake a smile and make them feel welcome even if you don’t feel it.”

Then there were the multiple Sunday’s when I went to church and appeared happy even though I knew God had me blacklisted. I was really his redheaded stepchild and that is why my life was in crumbles while everyone else lived in Heaven on earth.

Actually, I’m not good at faking it which is apparent on my blog. As I’ve gotten older, I don’t feel the need to fake anything really. I am who I am. People can love me, like me or hate me, but I’m still going to be just me.

I’ve also concluded that being just me is a good thing! I don’t want to be anyone else. I may joke and say I wish I had such-and-such’s boobs or such-and-such’s singing ability, but if I had to give up one of my most favorite personal traits it wouldn’t be worth the trade.

I must say that my attitude has come a long way. It took me a long time to become the person I am today. No one else on the whole planet is exactly like me. That’s rather phenomenal if you really think about it!

My advice is that you don’t fake being someone or something that you are not. That you don’t try to keep up with the Jones so that you will have the appearance of having a lifestyle that you cannot afford. What you have and who you are is enough because you are enough.

Improve on who you are, so that you would be the person that you would choose to be your own best friend.

Be real.

Be you.

If you’ve been fake, stop faking it!

Life is so much nicer when your own personality is free to become the person you are meant to be. Yeah, that’s deep, but if you want to laugh just look at that silly picture of the Grinch trying to be The Redhead Riter.

Nope. The Grinch can’t be me and I can’t be the Grinch.

I’m glad the Grinch didn’t fake you out and that you knew me well enough to know a deceptive simulation when you saw him.


“Lead the life that’s yours
instead of faking someone else’s.”
~Sandy Nathan

The Redhead Riter

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Skip_D January 3, 2012 at 11:09 pm

You're an original, unique, the irreplaceable, genuine article – you! …and such a delight! Wonderful post!


2 NanayGin S.E. January 4, 2012 at 12:12 am

Well said Red and totally agreed! I think it's so much harder faking it than being true to yourself.


3 katlupe January 4, 2012 at 8:48 am

It has always been hard for me to fake how I feel or what I think. Sometimes being that way has gotten me into trouble. But that is just the way I am!


4 Teressa Ryan January 4, 2012 at 4:16 pm

Thanks. Enjoyed your post today RR. Guess we are all on that same journey to discover who we really are.


5 Mama P January 4, 2012 at 6:19 pm

I'm in my mid 20's and I have found that as I am getting older, and more mature in life, I am less able to actually fake things, It has made some things in life very complicated but I feel like life is to short to go through it faking how I feel. Then again, I think some situations require faking it, even for a bit. Such as faking happiness at work to make sure you don't come across as a bad employee.


6 Katherines Corner January 4, 2012 at 7:19 pm

no faking it! I love this post xo


7 Annie January 4, 2012 at 8:20 pm

Great post- I am finding that one of the biggest positives about getting older is not faking anything anymore lol.

Accepting who we truly are is very freeing!


8 Dave Keller January 4, 2012 at 8:21 pm

I agree whole heartily. It is all part of being genuine and living with integrity.


9 Joan January 5, 2012 at 1:12 pm

That cartoon of you was HILARIOUS! You fake anything? No way! You, Redhead Riter, are the real thing – beautiful, talented, gifted, kind, loving and a superb writer, (or should I say "riter"). And I might add that there is definitely only one of you! :o)


10 Doreen Lombardo-Campisi January 7, 2012 at 7:34 pm

Never felt the need to fake it thankfully. I am who I am and am proud. Who doesn't like it, oh well. I don't think there's anything I hate more than a fake and a phony.


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