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Orange You Healthy


juicy orange


After washing my hands in the restroom today, I reached for the paper towel to dry my hands. Instead of throwing it in the trashcan, I used it to grab the door handle and pull it open.

I'm a germaphobic. I hate germs and stay away from them at all costs.

Why?

I avoid germs because when I get sick, I REALLY GET SICK.


That's what happened yesterday. I must have picked up a twenty-four hour germ that made me feel like King Kong was ripping out my intestines and stomach. So today, my usual disdain for germs was heightened even more since I'm still sore from the agony suffered over the weekend.

What is the secret to staying healthy?


Maybe you rode in the elevator today and tonight you have the sniffles which will turn into a full blown cold by tomorrow. Your friend who stood beside you was exposed to the same germs and will still be totally healthy when the sun rises. What makes the difference? Is there a secret to staying healthy?


The immune system either fends off the germs or lets them bring us down. When the immune system is already low functioning and is then compromised, it will collapse. This secret weapon can become a huge gap for the enemy - germs. Just think of the immune system as the James Bond of the body. It finds the bad guys and kills them.

What keeps the immune system healthy?


In order to stay healthy, extra attention needs to be spent on the immune system. There are some things we can do to keep it in balance and better able to fight the germs that are on everything.

  • Reduce stress
  • Get plenty of sleep to allow cells to repair
  • Participate in consistent sex. Isn't it great that something so fun is also so great for you? Yes, it can be very exciting.
  • Overall workout - walking will really do more for reducing stress and overall mobility than you can imagine.
  • Listen to music often (a lot of studies on this one proves that it reduces stress and increases the creative parts of the brain which leads to a boost in immunity)
  • Cut out refined and processed foods (alcohol, sugar, flour products) because it prevents the proper absorption of vitamin C.
  • Ensure you are getting a balance of minerals and vitamins - It is worth the research to ensure that you are giving your body just exactly what it needs.

What you can do to when you catch a cold?


Besides the usual medications that can ease the symptoms of a cold, there are many other things you can do to help strengthen your body during the fight. Remember, James Bond needs the strongest gadgets!

  • Add extra vitamin C - Foods rich in vitamin C include oranges, grapefruit, tangerine, papaya, mango, kiwi, tomato, broccoli, potato, dark leafy greens and bell peppers to name a few.
  • Elderberry - Research is saying that it blocks the flu virus, hastens recovery, reduces inflammation and is full of antioxidants.
  • Zinc - Foods high in zinc include nuts, lean red meat, poultry, beans and fortified cereal.
  • Echinacea - Strengthens the body and gives the immune system a boost.
  • Chicken noodle soup or broths with plenty of garlic, ginger and spicy heat to not only help the body feel more comfortable, but also to promote healing
  • Mushrooms - White button mushrooms boost the white blood cells which fight germs, but Shitake and Reishi are high in beta-glucans which have the ability to modulate the immune system.
  • Vaporize - Healing fragrances can help sooth inflamed tissues and help to prevent drying soft tissues. A mixture of eucalyptus, peppermint, thyme, lemon, ginger, lavender, rosemary and the standard mint.
  • Warmth - Keep the body warm while outside by using gloves, scarves, coats and socks. While at home, take a hot bath and stay toasty under blankets. The heat prevents viral replication which is why low grade fevers are a good thing!
  • Gargle - Salt is such a great mineral. Not only is it great tasting, but if added to warm water for a gargle, it can fight germs and ease symptom once you are sick.
Did you know you had so much power over your immune system?

Orange you glad that I shared all these tips with you today?

You knew I couldn't resist that play on words.




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Copyright On A Photo



A watermarked photograph

Should I Copyright The Photos On My Blog?

All the information about reasons and rules for copyrighting your blog holds true for photos on your website as well.

Here are three standard rules for photo copyrights:
  1. Include the copyright symbol © which can be obtained by using the ALT key and 0169 on the keyboard key pad. If you do not have a key pad on your computer keyboard, & copy ; without any of the spaces or & # 169 ; also without any spaces between the symbols will produce the copyright symbol which is the letter "c" with a circle around it.
  2. Include the year or the full date of the photo's publication.
  3. After that, include your name, pseudo name or blog title.
Where you place the copyright is purely up to you.


How To Put A Copyright Symbol On A Photograph

There are many programs that enable you to add the copyright to a photograph.


Watermark Programs To Buy

Adobe Photoshop - http://www.adobe.com/products/photoshop/family/
TechSmith SnagIt - http://www.techsmith.com/snagit/
Digimarc - https://www.digimarc.com/
PlumAmazing - http://www.plumamazing.com/win/iwatermark/
Picture Watermark - http://www.picturewatermark.com/
Visual Watermark - http://www.visualwatermark.com/
Watermarker - http://watermarker.com/
WinWatermark - http://winwatermark.com/
WaterMark Factory - http://www.watermarkfactory.com/


Free Watermark Programs

Picture Shark - http://www.picture-shark.com
PicMarkr - http://picmarkr.com/
WaterMark - http://www.brothersoft.com/watermark-99161.html
WaterMarkz - http://www.watermarkz.net/
WaterMark Generator - http://www.signgenerator.org/watermark.asp
ArcLab - http://www.arclab.com/
AoAoPhoto - http://www.aoaophoto.com/
TSR Watermarker - http://www.watermark-image.com/
DropWaterMark - http://www.dropwatermark.com/

Although it isn't necessary to watermark your photographs, if someone uses them, it is nice to at least get advertising because of the watermark.

Woo Us To Your Blog

The last "Woo Us To Your Blog" post was about Creating A Privacy Policy to inform your readers of your blog's information privacy policies. Do you remember the message and have you created on yet with the easy generator?

As always, attached is the weekly Linky to enter either the main URL to your site or add each post you publish throughout the week. You don't have to do anything special, just drop your link in and get a little extra exposure to your site.

Until next week's wooing post, have fun copyrighting your photos!







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Diabetic Flowers





I vividly remember the day that I was diagnosed with diabetes and the hodgepodge of emotions that shot through my body like a searing hot volcanic eruption. Everything from rage, anger, sadness, depression, agitation and fear coursed through heart and mind.

I wanted to run out of the office and scream unceasingly in the street. Instead I sat staring at the doctor and eventually cried.

Another disease felt like another life sentence or punishment.



For the next two years, I continued to eat exactly like I had always eaten - lots of sugar and white carbohydrates that convert to sugar.

Delicious!

Then one Sunday afternoon, we went to have dinner with Mom who was serving my favorite meal...spaghetti with garlic bread.

When I sat down at the table, there was a niggling thought in my head that said, "You shouldn't have all that pasta and you know it."

I shoved it over one of the cliffs in my mind where it spiraled to the bottom, sank to the bottom of the ocean and drowned.

Mom served me a plate piled high with fat spaghetti noodles, lots of meat sauce and a huge piece of garlic bread.

Each bite was better than the last.

When Mom got up to start serving seconds, I gladly passed her my plate for more.

After the meal was over, I sat on the couch and shortly thereafter because of all the sugar in my body, I had an insulin reaction and passed out.

Completely.

When I awoke, I obviously didn't feel very healthy and my whole family was quite angry that I had pushed my body over the edge.

I don't do that any more.

Certain foods are excluded or limited in my diet now. Sugar, jelly, jam, bread, all white flour products, rice, pasta and potatoes.

To prove that I really don't eat that stuff all the time, I decided to show you the the kind of potatoes that can be found in my kitchen.



See.

I told you.

Just because I purchase them doesn't mean that I eat them.



Yep, I've been good, but I still think they are kind of pretty.




A wise man should consider that health
is the greatest of human blessings,
and learn how by his own thought
to derive benefit from his illnesses.


~Hippocrates (460 BC - 377 BC)~










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Fender's Silent Strings



Fender Guitar and Strings

The world is all gates,
all opportunities,
strings of tension
waiting to be struck.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson~


Stop.


Shhh.


Listen.


What do you hear?


The washing machine swooshing,


the drone of kids screaming,


airplanes flying overhead,


the television blasting,


vehicles driving past,


or cows mooing?


When peace is what you're seeking, all those sounds end up under one category - noise.

Cultivating inner peace requires a reduction of stress and the best way to start that process is to give yourself time to be alone with your thoughts. Focusing your mind within to explore the essence of self, goals, dreams, health, worry, anger, resentment, relationships, and everything that makes up your world.

Nothing can be explored completely when there is noise blocking your thoughts and dividing your attention.

Remove the noise and give yourself time to enjoy silence.

You don't like it silent? Every night you look forward to a peaceful night's sleep filled with none other than silent oblivion don't you?

Yeah, that's what I thought - you love sleeping!

I get it...you don't like it silent so that you can hear your thoughts!

Well, that is exactly why you need to have quiet time to heal and rejuvenate the mind, body and soul. Constant noise is not conducive to introspection. Actually, it produces negative stress which can produce:
  • heart attacks/strokes
  • decreased blood circulation
  • high blood pressure
  • rapid heartbeat
  • coronary artery disease
  • susceptibility to illness
  • arthritis
  • diabetes
  • back pain
  • neck pain
  • chronic pain
  • hives
  • hair loss
  • sleeping problems
  • headaches
  • constipation
  • irritable bowel syndrome
  • pre-menstrual symptoms
  • less sexual desire
  • difficulty before/during/after pregnancy
  • aggression
  • headaches
  • body aches
  • nightmares
  • moodiness
  • tiredness/exhaustion
  • low self-esteem
  • inability to focus
  • tension
  • irritability
  • loneliness
  • depression
  • anxiety
Obviously, peace and quiet isn't just hype.

Your mind will thank you.

Your body will thank you.

Your soul will thank you.

Go ahead and try it.

Shhhhh...

Be still.

For just a little while each day, make it a point to let silence fill your senses and release the strings of tension that pluck at your inner peace.






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Do Not Drive, Operate Machinery or...


There's something beautiful about the way people appear when they are sleeping.

Don't you think so too?

I'm a people watcher. It doesn't matter where I am or what they are doing, I enjoy watching every day people while they do every day things. I think it all goes back to when I was a little girl.

Two year olds are short and I was no exception to the rule. Many nights I started out in my own bedroom, but would awaken shortly thereafter with a nightmare. Clad in my cotton nightgown, I would silently walk into my parent's room on cold little feet. Since I was so short, I could barely see the top of the mattress on their bed. Both Mom and Dad always seemed to sleep on their sides, so I could see their faces without any problem. Many nights I would stand next to the bed and watch them sleep.

Dad slept with his mouth and eyes slightly open, but didn't snore. Mom was totally silent and her hair always seemed to be perfect. I would go from one side of the bed to the other just watching them. The main objective was to get in the bed and sleep the rest of the night cuddled in between them, but there usually wasn't a rush to get there unless I was scared.

After my sister was born, I was obsessed with "taking care of her." Unfortunately for me, she slept fourteen hours a day, every day and insisted on being in her crib. That didn't deter me, however, because Mom would let me just sit in the crib and watch her sleep.

Obviously, not much has changed.

When Alyssa was a baby, I held her all the time...literally. So when she took a nap, it was in my arms and I was usually staring at her. I loved looking at her long eyelashes and little puckered lips. I dreamed of what her life and personality would be like when she grew up.

This morning Alyssa woke up with a terrible kink in her neck. All day she struggled with the pain which gave her a headache and made her feel nauseated. When I received this text at work earlier, I knew we were going to be busy...

    "I need to go to Patient First after work because my kink is giving me searing pains."

Since she is still under eighteen, I knew that I would have to venture into the germ zone and be surrounded by sick people! Being the dutiful mother, we were in the office almost immediately after I got home from work.

The doctor asked, "Did you hurt your neck while exercising, exerting yourself, or by doing unusual lifting or anything physical to pull your muscles?"

"No," Alyssa responded.

"Are you stressed?"

Alyssa said, "No."

With a slight smile, the doctor said, "Since you didn't do anything physical to cause the pain, nothing in your neck is torn. However, people get kinks in their neck because stress gets stored in those muscles. Obviously, you must have stress you are trying to suppress."

I nearly laughed out loud. Three cheers for telling her like it is, Doc!

Alyssa smiled.

He proceeded to talk about how inflamed the muscles are because all day long she has been fighting with the pain. The more she fought it, the more the muscles spasmed. After the appointment, armed with an anti-inflammatory and muscle relaxer, Alyssa drove us back home.

The last thing the doctor said was, "This medication will make you drowsy and dizzy, so do not drive, operate machinery or perform any hazardous activity.

I don't think we have to worry about that because Alyssa is going to become Sleeping Beauty in just a few minutes and I will thoroughly enjoy watching the transformation.

Alyssa

Good ni-i-i-i-ight!




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PTSD and Slap Yourself


You may not think you need to read this post, but you do because in this case, ignorance is not bliss.



"Appearances often are deceiving."
~Aesop~




What is in the photo above?


Is it obvious to you or are you having a hard time figuring it out?


You do know some things about whatever is in the photo, right?


Let's see....looks black in some places and brown in others.


Anything else?


Can you tell if it is close up or far away...


Large or small...


Dangerous or safe?


It is hard to really know, isn't it?


Here is another photo of the same thing, but this time it is clear and the object is distinguishable.




Now you know everything about what you see in the photo, right?!


Did you just say, "Yes!"


If you did, you're wrong and you did not read about making pop judgments the last time I posted a pretty tree in the night...or is that the wee hours of the morning?


Do you know if it is hot, warm or cold outside?


Is there snow on the ground, barren dirt, grass, a mountain or maybe a cornfield?


When we blog, I think most people tell the truth about themselves and their lives. Of course, information such as our home address, telephone number and the name of our child's school are left out for the safety of our family.

This isn't a big revelation to anyone, so what is my point?

Do you write about the way you really feel or is it candy coated?

Okay, well that's blogging and I understand that some people candy coat everything they write about in their blogs. I guess, "To each their own," but what about life?

When I was the General Manager of a hotel, I used to tell the staff, "Smile! If you don't feel like smiling, smile anyway and fake it!"

Do you smile anyway and fake it every day and in every circumstance of your life?

I don't.

Maybe I should, but at this point, not only don't I fake it, but I can't and don't want to fake it.

I am me and that's all that I am and all I can be.

Today was a very hard day for me. The world pushed in and everything that I can't control suffocated the little bit of happiness that I had found the past couple weeks.

It is so apparent that not only has my world changed, but I truly am suffering with PTSD.

PTSD is an acronym for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. I'm sure you have heard the term thrown around when people talk about soldiers coming back from war. Well, it is more than a soldier's affliction. If we break it down, it is a condition that affects a person after a terrifying or traumatic incident has been witnessed or experienced.

Normal people experience a horrible incident and afterwards might feel anger, fear, shock, nervousness, and/or guilt. A person with PTSD can not shake these feelings and instead the emotions increase in intensity. .

It makes it hard or impossible to:
  • sleep
  • stay awake
  • hold a rational thought for longer than a few seconds
  • carry on a conversation
  • remember
  • think
  • cope
Obviously it wreaks havoc on trying to live a normal life.

My life has not been normal.

I've tried to pretend it doesn't exist, pray it away, get angry about it, fake an opposite emotion when it threatened to overtake me and a multitude of other things that didn't work. Today, I had to give into it. I had extreme stress and unhappiness presented into my life which made me unable to cope with already whirling thoughts in my head.

When I awoke this morning, the moments of Alyssa dying kept repeating in my head like a terrible movie. I dreaded the day the moment I opened my eyes. By the time evening came, I was quite literally ready to jump off the highest mountain or drown in the deepest ocean.

Today my life has been Hell.

I'm sharing this with you because out of all the thousands of people that read my blog, I'm sure someone else is suffering the same thing or will be afflicted with PTSD some time in their future. I hadn't ever read anything about the disorder before my life was turned upside down, so I was rather clueless as to what was happening to me. I don't want you to feel that way.

I feel like a winter tree that has watched every leaf fall from it's branches. I feel that I have lost a piece of myself forever.

Supposedly, it will get better. Everything I've read, says that it is a gradual and ongoing process of healing which never completely rids a person of all the symptoms of the dreaded PTSD. With therapy, PTSD sufferers learn to cope with the trauma and the feelings associated with it.

That prognosis is depressing in itself, but this is what I have learned so far:
  • There will be good days, bad days and worse days.
  • Added stress WILL bring on more symptoms so avoid as many stressful people and situations as possible.
  • There's no way you can help yourself out of this condition. You need the help of a therapist.
  • It is best to tell your family and friends. Those that care about you will seek to lessen your stress and brighten your day.
  • Some people don't and won't ever care about you or your condition. Avoid them like the plague.
  • Laugh as often and fully as possible.
  • Realize that you are not the same person and therefore, do not have the same expectations of yourself because it will cause undo stress.
  • Loud noises can elevate the symptoms.
  • Unexpected movements can scare you. For instance, I opened the bathroom door and someone else was coming into the bathroom at the same time I was leaving it. Instead of us just saying, "Hey!" her sudden appearance scared me terribly. I screamed and that scared her so she screamed. It sounds funny now, but at the time, my heart was beating so fast, I thought I would have a heart attack.
  • You will continually feel like you want to die - that dying is the answer. Well, dying naturally might be the answer, but don't kill yourself. If you start feeling like you want to do something that drastic, call your therapist or a trusted friend/family member.
That was your first lesson in the horrible life of a PTSD sufferer.

So the next time you think, "He has an easy life," or "She never has anything bad to overcome," slap yourself on the back of the head for being so judgmental and critical. If you know someone is suffering and you stress them out more, slap yourself again a little bit harder. Life is not easy for anyone because everyone is suffering in one way or another. Some people, however, have it harder at times, so have compassion and give them a break because you never know when the shoe might be on the other foot.



"Three things cannot
be long hidden:
the sun,
the moon,
and the truth."

~Buddha~








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Redhead Riter CAN Cook


I'm the only one awake. Why does it happen all the time? I'll tell you exactly why and how it all got started.

Cooking is a skill that requires work - more for some than others. At the ripe old age of twelve, I received my first of many shocking lessons that common sense is required to exist in this world.

I didn't used to have common sense. No, you can not ask my mother if I have it now.

Anyway, Mom had created her great macaroni and cheese meal together in a square Corning ware dish and covered it with a piece of plastic wrap. She placed it lovingly in the refrigerator while informing my sister and I that we were going to have it for dinner the next night.

We all prayed, kissed each other goodnight and went to bed.


The next afternoon, as was the ritual, I made the required phone call to let Mom know that my sister and I were safe at home after a fun day at school. Mom was quick to remind me to put the macaroni and cheese in the oven at the appointed time. We eventually said our "I love you's" and ended the call.

Several hours later, I followed Mom's directions which were:
    "Take the macaroni and cheese out of the refrigerator and put it in the 350 degree oven."
After doing so, I'm sure my sister and I continued to watch our favorite shows which were "Match Game" and "Tattle Tales." Eventually Mom arrived home from work which meant we could eat the delicious meal that was torturing us with it's wonderful aroma.

Mom leaned down and pulled the macaroni and cheese out of the oven. Since this was really my first "cooking" experience alone, I just knew she was going to lavish me with accolades. Instead, she stood staring at it for a long time and then looking straight at me with a flabbergasted look on her face, Mom said, "Did you take the plastic wrap off the macaroni and cheese before you put it in the oven?"

"No," I said innocently. "You didn't tell me to take it off. You just said to take it out of the refrigerator and put it in the oven. That's what I did!"

"Well I thought you had enough common sense to take off the plastic wrap!" Mom exclaimed in complete bewilderment.

Needless to say, Mom didn't make the "common sense assumption" mistake too often after that incident.

Fast forward about thirty-six years.

Put a little of this soft dog food with gravy, that hard dog food, some tuna fish and a tiny bit of cheddar cheese in a bowl. Warm slightly. Serve immediately.

After snarfing it down in record time, Bella climbed on the couch and immediately went sound asleep.

Bella sleeping with a full tummy

Obviously, I can cook quite satisfyingly.




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Judge Thinks He's A Comedian


Judge's gavel

After you get your Learner's Permit to drive an automobile in the State of Virginia, there are still a few things that must be done before you can legally obtain a driver's license. First, there is a lovely driver's education course to take, a set number of hours to drive while supervised and then THE test at the Department of Motor Vehicles.

After that, it's all done.

Wrong.

Many months must pass and eventually a letter from the county is sent requesting the driver and his/her parent(s) for a special presentation given by a judge. This is a requirement by the state of Virginia. Actually, it is a law that everyone under the age of 21 must attend a presentation given by a judge before obtaining the permanent driver's license. Alyssa and I vaguely remember this process. Well, we remembered months ago, but had long since forgotten the part where we had to go see the judge.

This is what happened.

My phone rings at work.

Ring. Ring.

After my usual long greeting, I hear Alyssa's voice.

"Mom, tonight is that judge thing," she said all panicky.

I immediately try to recall some show that might be coming on the television with a judge.

"What judge thing?" I asked her.

"That judge thing so that I can get my real license!"

Slowly the long forgotten memory of a "judge thing" came to my mind as Alyssa jabbered on with all the details.

"Okay, I will meet you at home and we will drive together."

The call ended and I tried to plan how I would make everything fit in one evening.

Fast forward.

Alyssa and I are sitting side by side after being herded into a large auditorium with 350 students and 350 parents, two police officers and a judge. The handsome judge was saying, "Driving a car is a privilege. Vehicles are dangerous weapons and until the age of 18, your parents can legally take possession of your license."

With each factual threat, a large number of parents turn or jerk their heads to look at their child. I was thinking, "If you feel that THIS speech by the judge validates your parental authority, you've already lost your power and you lack a strong relationship with you child." I didn't turn my head to look at Alyssa. I knew that she knew the right things to do in a car and that her life and other lives depended on her driving safely.

The judge was still speaking, so I tried to focus on his words. "I'm going to call your names one by one to come down and get your license. Come down this aisle and leave through that door" he said pointing to his right.

I turned to Alyssa and said, "I bet you're the last!" and we both laugh.

The judge starts calling names - randomly.

Alyssa points out the people she knows from school.

I talk about beautiful hair, ugly shirts, bad hair cuts and the lack of handsome men.

We laugh.

I'm starving.

The judge keeps calling names.

Alyssa and I are silent with interspersed outbreaks of laughter.

Parents and students alike do not use the correct aisles as directed. We both say, "Stupid people" almost simultaneously.

The judge keeps calling names.

"You jinxed me," Alyssa said, "and I'm going to be last."

"No way! That just can't happen to us because I'm starving!"

The judge is still calling names of students to come to the front.

It seems like every name ever created has been called. I'm so tired of listening the drone of never ending names.

I turned around and saw about fifty people left in this huge room. Alyssa and I look at each other in disbelief.

Finally, NEXT TO LAST, the judge calls Alyssa's name to come up front and get her permanent license.

I cheer! Why not? The room was empty and it was late! I could not believe it.

The judge said, "You've won a prize."

Oh really?

With a smirky grin he said, "It will be easy to get out of the parking lot because everyone else is gone."


Smarty pants judge.





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Rockin' Friends - Friendly Traits



Friendship

"If friends were flowers,
I'd pick you."


Friendship does not always work out the way we plan. Actually, sometimes in the back of our minds, we know that the people we choose as friends do not have the traits we value.

I posted the question, "What are the most important traits in a FRIEND?" in my community. I feel quite strongly about this subject because of a very sad experience in my past which I won't share at this time, but will eventually. The question was answered by the members and they felt that a some of the traits a friend should have include:
  • Being Respectful - to hold in esteem or honor; to show regard or consideration for
  • Honest - honorable in principles, intentions, and actions; upright and fair
  • Will Listen - to give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing
  • Caring - to be concerned or have a special preference
  • Loyal - faithful to one's sovereign, government, or state; faithful to one's oath, commitments, or obligations
  • Shared Interests - something that concerns, involves, draws the attention of, or arouses the curiosity of a person
  • Understanding - a state of cooperative or mutually tolerant relations between people
  • Sense of Humor - a genuine sense of fun and the comic, impersonal, or gently personal
How do you measure up against this list?

Do you expect these things from your friends?

Being a friend requires effort and a willingness to think of someone else before yourself. Sounds a little like the advice given about marriage and parenting doesn't it?


Rockin' Friends Spotlight of the Week

This is the weekly post where I spotlight my Rockin' Friends who are the Top Nine active participants and loyal followers in my community! If you want to be mentioned here next week, then all it takes is to come in and start chatting with everyone in my community.

With a big thank you for their participation and friendship, here are the Rockin' Friends this week in order of most participation:

This week the special spotlight is shining on PJ of PJ's Prayer Line. PJ's "About Me" is as follows:

"I have three passions in my life; the love for God and hunger for Him, the love for my husband, and the love for life. While my blog is eclectic, and I may talk about different things, such as our vacations, it is mostly geared toward getting God's Word out.

When I started this blog, I told God this is for HIM. I want to help people to realize there is more to God than sitting on a pew on Sunday morning. I want to help people understand that God is a "lifestyle. You need Him and the knowledge of Him just like you need food and exercise.

Please come and join me on my quest for knowledge of HIM, through the Devotionals, Bible Quizzes, and Inspirational Stories."

You don't have to even read PJ's blog to know that it is centered around God. All you have to do is look at her header and the phrase in the corner that states:
"As for me and my blog, we will serve the Lord." I think that just about says it all.

PJ had a birthday last Thursday, so be sure to tell her "Happy Birthday!" So here are a few things that I read at PJ's blog.

In Lord, Teach Us To Pray, PJ breaks down the Lord's Prayer for easier understanding.

As much as I hate to admit it, I know that A Delay Is Not A Denial . Sometimes it just means that the timing isn't right, but since I'm human, I usually want what I want, when I want it!

I enjoyed PJ's interpretation of the pictures she chose in Things To Remember.

One of my favorite stories in the Bible is about Jesus and The Woman at the Well. It also reminds me that life long ago was not easy and they did not have all the modern conveniences that we now enjoy. Of course, I know I would give them all up just to sit and talk with Jesus for an hour.

A post that is "so PJ" is I Think I Finally Made It! PJ has a habit of having long thoughts that jump from here to there. It is actually our little joke. I think if she could type as fast as she thinks, it would measure 450wpm. Anyway, I also enjoyed reading Putting Things In Perspective especially the part about "putting God on the back burner."

I'm so glad that I've been able to get to know PJ and that she has been a very good friend to me since the day we met online. I can say that she has all the attributes of a friend that I mentioned earlier plus more. Knowing PJ is truly an honor and a blessing. I don't think anyone prays for me more than my Mom and PJ for which I am forever grateful. Thank you PJ for being my friend. Be sure to add PJ's Prayer Line to your blogroll, but also come over and chat with PJ in my community.

For everyone mentioned in the top nine this week, feel free to grab the Rockin' Friend badge below and thank you for your participation!!


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Until the spotlight next week...Happy Chatting Rockin' Friends!

Kiss your family, hug your friends and don't forget to be the friend you would like to have around.





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Create a Privacy Policy



PRIVATE


Do you have advertisements on your blog or website? Do you use Google Adsense?

Yes?

If you have these advertisements, you need to also have a privacy policy in place. Google actually insists that you have one or you could end up banned from every using Google Adsense again for as long as you live. That's a long time. To learn about the details visit Google Advertising Cookie and Privacy Policies and learn about the DoubleClick DART cookies that are gathered on sites that use this advertising method.


What should a Privacy Policy include?

  • Introduce your site
  • Stipulate how information is collected from visitors under the age of 18
  • Explain what information is being collected
  • Clearly state how the collected information collected
  • Where is the collected information stored?
  • How long is the collected information stored?
  • Provide contact information
Does that sound complicated? Well, I thought it did too.



Get a Free Privacy Policy

I used Free Privacy.com to help me with my own privacy policy for The Redhead Riter blog.

The site walks you through the process set by step. It was a quick and easy process. When I was finished, I copied and pasted it into a page on my blog and included a link in my footer leading to the privacy policy.

Really, it was painless.



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Happy Birthday Mom! You Are So Beautiful



My Mother, Teresa
(Lookout point at the Shenandoah Valley)

I've always known that my mother was a special woman. Perfect? No, but she doesn't have to be perfect in order to be loved. I've also thought that Mom was beautiful not only physically, but inside her heart. Mom loves the Lord and her family. Everything she does revolves around one or the other while she strives to be her own best person.

You know what?

Mom is a great person with a beautiful heart filled with love and compassion.

I have billions of memories filled with Mom as does my sister, niece and daughter. She has been there for all of us at one time or another in different capacities loving us as we grew. Seeing Mom with Brittany and Alyssa makes my heart feel so full of happiness because I can see a part of her in each of them for which I am thankful.

I have always loved you, Mom.

One small story...

I distinctly remember laying across the front seat of the car with my feet in Dad's lap and my head in Mom's. It was the weekend and we were taking the ritualistic two hour drive to my grandparents. The sun was shining really brightly and they both were talking.

They thought I was asleep.

Actually, I had been asleep and was just barely awake. It is so hard to wake up with the warm sun beating down and the hum of a moving car.

With my eyes still closed and listening to their talking, I thought about how much I loved my parents. I could feel Mom softly playing with the curls on my head. She always twirled her own hair between her fingers abstractedly. I found this habit intriguing and somewhat of an enigma. In this hazy, sleep filled thinking, I felt so much love for her.

Thankfully, I can remember being very, very young. As a matter of fact, I can remember being two years old which is how old I think I was in the car that day. My parents were very young - around 20 years old. Like I said, they were very young with dark hair and smooth, unwrinkled skin. We all grew up together in many ways and I am so grateful for such wonderful memories.

On January 23, Mom was born into this world. It is truly a blessing to my sister and I that we are the people that can call her Mom. I am also very thankful that she has loved her grandchildren and has made an effort to always be in their lives.



My Niece, Brittany and my Mother, Teresa



My Daughter, Alyssa and my Mother, Teresa
Love the green gum in you mouth Mom (hee hee)




A Sonnet for My Incomparable Mother

I often contemplate my childhood, Mom.
I am a mother now, and so I know
Hard work is mixed together with the fun;
You learned that when you raised me long ago.

I think of all the things you gave to me:
Sacrifice, devotion, love and tears,
Your heart, your mind, your energy and soul--
All these you spent on me throughout the years.

You loved me with a never-failing love
You gave me strength and sweet security,
And then you did the hardest thing of all:
You let me separate and set me free.

Every day, I try my best to be
A mother like the mom you were to me.

By Joanna Fuchs


Because I can't help but think about you when I hear this Mom, I am dedicating your favorite song by your favorite singer to you. As a side note to everyone else, Mom actually has the mannerisms and moves the same way Snow White does in the video and her beautiful voice can always be heard singing the wrong words to a song (wink). Mom even had the same hairstyle as Snow White when she was in 8th grade.

"I'm Wishing" that you have a Happy Birthday Mom!


No written word could ever express the depth of my love and thankfulness for you Mom. Thank you for being a wonderful daughter, sister, mother and grandmother. We all love you dearly and forever.




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Why You Should Pumice Your Hideous Heels



Dry, cracked, rough, hideous heels
I wish to thank my unwilling foot model


I'm obsessive about many things and have just learned to accept this behavior in myself and others. Sometimes it's easy to live with and other times it's not. I'm going to tell you about a time it's not. As a matter of fact, this is one of my pet peeves.

I can't stand feet that have unpumiced, dry, flaky, cracked, hard heels.

Did you just get a visual?

Grossed you out didn't it?

Hopefully you didn't look down at your own feet and gag.

Don't worry, I'm going to help you first and then make you laugh.

You'll be okay, I promise.

How and why do feet and heels get so rough?


Feet are naturally dry and some people who are predisposed to dry skin (also known as xerosis) have even dryer feet. As we walk, the pressure causes the edge of the heel to squish out which often causes fissures or cracks in the skin.

Imagine it like this:
  • You have a chocolate truffle (You know I couldn't go a day without thinking of chocolate!)
  • You set a glass on it
  • The pressure mashes it which causes it to squish out towards the sides a bit
  • You put ice in the glass
  • Then you add something to drink in the glass
  • The pressure from the added weight causes cracks to form on the sides of the candy as it is being squished even further out
That's the same thing that happens to your heels!

What causes heels to crack?
  • Walking/running (This is a good reason not to exercise! Sorry, I couldn't help myself with that one.)
  • Standing for a long time on hard flooring
  • Shoes that are open in the back because they allow your foot to squish outward like a chocolate truffle
  • Having a little extra weight increases pressure on a foot that was made to support less weight
  • Medical conditions such as diabetes and thyroid disease

How to get rid of rough skin on feet and heels!


If your feet look hopeless, do yourself a favor and go to a nail salon. Walk up to the counter and say, "I need a pedicure." They will guide you over to a comfortable chair that has built in massagers. After you sit down, a tub at the end of the chair will be filled with warm water.

Ahhhhhhhh...feel the bubbly, warm water as it flows around your foot and between your toes....

You'll put your feet in the tub of water and let them soak for a few minutes after which the technician will pumice, massage and then lotion your feet and calves. When that is finished, the technician will even paint your toenails!!!

So that is where you should start because I don't want you to get frustrated with your concrete heels. Gag!

To keep your heels feeling soft as a baby's bootie and desirable, there are several things you can do. Just remember, if your feet start being taken over by dry skin, go back to the salon. Never, ever, ever let them get superdee dooperdee hard again.

A few tips for keeping feet sexy:
  • Apply moisturizer to feet twice a day. Lotion. Lotion. Lotion.
  • Wear properly fitting shoes with adequate padding.
  • Lose the extra pounds (Yeah, I know it's hard, but you'll feel better too if you do it)
  • Keep a pumice stone in the shower. Before getting out, pumice feet to remove excess skin.
  • Don't use a callous remover or razor to remove excess dry skin. This method of dry skin removal can lead to cuts and infection. It is better to remove the skin gently. If you want to peel something, go buy a banana or potato, but keep your foot away from those heavy duty, bladed skin removers.
  • Put Vaseline on your feet and cover with socks once a week while sleeping. Ladies this does not look sexy unless you are wearing your spouses shirt, so by all means borrow his shirt!!
  • Get foot massages with lotion. When your feet are massaged, it increases circulation. The added lotion is also great and aids in the ease of rubbing and the enjoyment of being rubbed.

Why you should pumice your hideous heels


Brace yourself.

  • Rough heels will destroy a pair of fishnet hose really fast. What ladies?! You don't have a pair of fishnet hose?? We will definitely have to talk about that later. (Shaking my head in dismay and thinking to myself, "Aren't they reading my Marriage posts?")
  • Rough skin on the heels will pick/snag the sheets as you slide into bed causing runners in the satin material. What do you mean you don't have satin sheets? You've got to have at least one set of satin sheets! Ummm, have you ever listened to Barry White or Kenny G between satin sheets? Okay, we will discuss this when we talk about why you must own fishnet hose.
  • You do not want to appear on the internet with super calloused heels. Really! If you are walking through the store someone might take a picture of your ugly, rough heels while you're wearing flip flops. Worse yet - If you are single, the person of your dreams might walk right past you and those hideous heels. Those heels can be scary - very scary.
  • Your spouse will not want to rub or kiss your feet. You have a phobia of feet? I'm so sorry because you are really missing out in my opinion. Feet feel good and that's all I'm going to say about it now.
  • Rough feet will grow animal fur. Well, they don't exactly grow it, but it will look as if fur is growing on them. Let me explain...You're stretched out in the recliner. The dog or cat brushes against your feet as it is walking past. Your feet are as rough as the fur brush, so it brushes the animal's coat. Loose fur is removed from the pet's coat and is now stuck between the picky cracks of your feet. You have furry feet!
  • Rough feet cause automobile wrecks. While laying back in the passenger seat of the automobile, you take off your shoes and stretch your feet out and rest them on the dashboard. Cars driving past are so appalled by your rough heels that their passing glance turns into a stare. This causes them to lose attention to their driving and either hit the vehicle in front of their vehicle or to veer off the road and crash.
  • Hideous heels will destroy hardwood floors. Put quite simply, rough heels are like sandpaper and they will wear the finish off of beautiful hardwood floors.
  • Rough heels are hideous! Not cute hideous like Shrek. Ugly hideous! Okay, so I said it. They are hideous heels when the skin is rough, dry and cracking. Remember how Smokey the Bear used to say, "Only you can prevent forest fires"? Well, "Only you can prevent hideous heels."
Now look down. How do you feet and heels look to you? Rough? Oh no! Get rid of hose hideous heels!!!







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The Big Event On Saturday



The beginning of the year had me committing to a vow to myself. This year is the year of cleaning! I am getting all my "things" cleaned out and organized. It all starts with the big event on Saturday.

"What event?" you wonder.

As you know this year wasn't the best one in my life and getting ready for the holidays was rough. However, I still put up the celebratory decorations and tree which is still lit tonight.

On Saturday, all the decorations...

Ornament M&M


and the Christmas tree...

Tree M&M

are going to be boxed up and put away leaving simple decor that is very easy to clean.

Ahhhhhhh....

Nice!


Excuse me now. I am going to eat the last three M&M's while no one is looking and no one is around to stop me!



Don't wreck a sublime
chocolate experience
by feeling guilty.

~Lora Brody~




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Why You Should Love



"You got to chase a dream,
one that's all your own
Before it slips away
When you're flyin' high,
take my heart along"
"When You Come Back Down" by Nickel Creek




It begins with a dream.

So you start living your own dream.

You find love while dreaming.

So you love.

You love with all your heart.

Then you lose or find your love was never returned.

Pain fills your being.

Your heart breaks.

If feels like failure and rejection.

You vow to never love again.


Have you been there? You hurt so badly that you don't think you ever want to try again to find real love. The risk of more pain is too great, so you close yourself up. It feels safe.

What Is The Meaning Of Love?


Love is both a "noun" and a "verb" meaning that it is a "thing" and an "action."

Love as a noun: a profoundly tender, passionate affection/emotion for another person associated with a warm feeling of personal attachment or deep affection

Love as a verb: to have, need or require a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person; to cherish

Love is not passive.

How Does Love Look?


Loving others is a very unselfish act because we put the needs and desires of another before our own. We often dig deep into ourselves and do things that seem impossible or are just unpleasant such as the following to name just a few:
  • Lift a car to release someone under it after a crash
  • Rescue someone from a burning building
  • Stay up all night with a child that has the flu
  • Clean the house, cook meals, wash-dry-fold-iron laundry, etc.
  • Take care of a dying or disabled parent, spouse or child
  • Drive an old car, so that your spouse or children can have cars too
  • Repair the car, change the oil and clean the inside
  • Go to a job you hate so that you can provide for the family

Falling in love initially is quite physical, but when the hormones calm down, there has to be "love work" in order to have a lasting relationship. Love between parent and child is another type of relationship that begins with the parent doing everything for a baby that can't do anything for himself. Although the "love work" doesn't feel like a sacrifice because of the happiness a child brings to the family, it still requires you to give up time and energy to another person.

Why Is Love Worth It?


While giving so much of yourself to other people and in the process loving them and showing love to them, you become a better person because you develop:
  • Unselfishness
  • Compassion
  • Tolerance
  • Patience
  • Forgiveness
  • Creativity
The person you love carries a little bit of your heart with them where ever they go and it can bring them comfort, reassurance, peace and courage. Even if the relationship ends, the journey educated and cultivated your better self.

Don't ever regret loving someone.

Take your dreams and wrap them with love. Circumstance and time will change not only the dreams, but also the love. You will change! Know that the process of change will happen and enjoy the love and the moments while you're in them.

Dream.

Love.

Dream of love and be open to accepting the love back into your life.

Love will make you a better person and dreams will keep you flying high.





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