It is natural, so don’t blush. I’m talking about making love, having sex, “knowing” one another, being intimate, rolling in the hay and as Marvin Gaye would say, getting it on.
When lost in the moment of a sweat-and-rumpled-sheets-love-making experience, one thing probably escapes your mind – getting pregnant and having a baby. If you haven’t taken the time to think about pregnancy before actively participating in a sexual encounter, then you might just end up with a crying, laughing, eating, pooping, burping, screaming baby in nine months.
After nearly floating to Heaven during my one and only childbirth experience, I was told that more pregnancies were not in my future and that I should make sure that it didn’t happen. That wasn’t thrilling news since I actually wanted twelve children.
Don’t faint. I really did want twelve children. I mean seriously, who wouldn’t want twelve children like the sweet child I was able to birth.
See? That’s why I wanted twelve children. If it had been possible, I would now have twelve children and the name of my blog might be The Ragged Redhead Riter.
Anyway, the time to think about birth control or the lack thereof is before your naked lover is whispering in your ear. The things that most people consider before adding another member to the family are:
- Finances for the next eighteen years minimum
- Stay-at-home or go back to work
- Medical insurance
- Life insurance
- Housing space
- Family Leave policies at work
- The strength of the relationship with your spouse
- If you’re ready to change habits…alcohol, illegal drugs, smoking
- The mother’s health
- Understanding risks for certain problems or diseases that run in your family
If you don’t decide on a method of birth control AND you don’t want a baby, then abstinence is your only answer. Oh, you don’t like that answer? Me either! So think about birth control with your spouse or you may end up having a child who writes a blog called The Redhead Riter. Right, Mom?
Now you know why I only had one child and that Mom and Dad never thought about birth control before enjoying an experience of wild abandon. Now it is time for you to share some truth….How and when do/did you decide your family is/was complete? Join the conversation and be entered to WIN the designer handbag of your choice (Up to a $500value) from Essure!