Being Humpty Dumpty And Having Power

by Sherry Riter in Rockin' Friend,Woo Us To Your Blog

For the last month, it has been necessary to walk backwards, think about my life, and become immersed in the process of healing so that I could take steps forward again. During this time, I’ve been reminded of a childhood nursery rhyme that was first published in 1803, called “Humpty Dumpty”. I think it is most fitting today.

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the king’s horses and all the king’s men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again.

Just as the childhood nursery rhyme states, “all the king’s horses and all the king’s men couldn’t put Humpty Dumpty together again,” the only person that can put me back together again is me.

Honestly, that has been a raw deal on many levels.

If I had to make a comparison as to how incapacitated and sick I felt, it would be like having the flu, throwing up, high temperature, broken arm, sprained ankle, kidney stones, migraine headache, eye infection, ingrown toenail, kidney infection, whiplash, toothache, scratched knee, sinus infection, pneumonia, gall stones, stuffy nose, cold sore and a perforated eardrum all at the same time.

Obviously, that’s a bit sick. It is also the sickest that I have ever been in my life.

I’m at the point now where I feel no guilt or shame that I wasn’t able to “fix it” during the past year. Is there really a time limit on trauma and fear? Just because you may have conquered your suffering in record time and only with the help of God or totally on your own, doesn’t mean that I am lesser of a person because I needed more assistance.

Usually, I am filled with guilt for everything that I am unable to do perfectly, so it is absolutely amazing that I do not feel “bad” that I haven’t been functioning up to par. Maybe that is a sign that I am on the road to an even healthier existence than I have ever had before in my life.

However, we still have to go back to poor Humpty Dumpty. He was truly broken into pieces and no one could make him whole again. Humpty Dumpty needed to reach over with his injured arm and start gluing his shell back together. Since the rhyme abruptly ends, we do not know the fate of the giant egg.

Humpty Dumpty had “all the king’s horses and all the king’s men” giving him the needed assistance. Not everyone is not that lucky or blessed. Some people do not have family, while others do not have friends that are there to lend support during terrible tragedies. Supposedly, even more people actually have the family and friends who could support them, but those people are emotionally unable or unwilling to do so.

It all boils down to this…

“This life is yours.
Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well.
Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly.
Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature.
Take the power to control your own life.
No one else can do it for you.
Take the power to make your life happy.”
~Susan Polis Schutz~

If you need help, reach out and keep reaching until someone helps or listens. That may seem hard to do and if I’m honest, I find it nearly impossible. Seems crazy doesn’t it? I write on this blog day after day and interact with thousands of people online and hundreds face-to-face, but I could only find the strength within me to ask very few for assistance. Laying your life and heart out for all to see is risking rejection. So if that is like you, I understand.

As Susan Polis Schutz said, “No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy.” Her words echo in my whole being today.

I have power.

We all have the power to “be there” for our our self and each other – not to do it for them, but to stand as a support. If you are Christian, isn’t that the whole basis of life? As I recall, Matthew 22:37-39 reads:

    37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.

    38 This is the first and great commandment.

    39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Yeah, I was right. It boldly states that we are to love our neighbor as much as we love our self. That calls for unselfish sacrifice and obviously, you will encounter many people who are unwilling to give that much of themselves away. Don’t let that fact deter you from being and doing the right thing for others. You never know if you are the last person they are going to try and reach out to in order to save themselves. You can make a difference to yourself and to others.

Don’t under estimate the power of you.



Rockin' Friends Spotlight of the Week

Now, the time we have all been waiting for…(drum roll) This is the weekly post where I spotlight my Rockin’ Friends who are the Top Nine active participants and loyal followers in my community! If you want to be mentioned here next week, then all it takes is to come in and start chatting with everyone in my community.

Below are a few discussions going on in my community :

With a big, heartfelt thank you for their participation and friendship, here are the Rockin’ Friends this week in order of most participation.


I’m so glad that I’ve been able to become friends with these wonderful people who are so active in my community. I encourage you to add their blogs to your blogroll, but also come over and chat with us in my community.

For everyone mentioned in the top nine this week, feel free to grab the Rockin’ Friend badge below and thank you for your participation!!

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Until next week…Kiss your family, hug your friends and don’t forget to be the friend you would like to have around.

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 Stéfan September 26, 2011 at 9:55 am

There is no time limit on trauma and fear – and length of time required to conquer suffering is not a measure of anything except perhaps the devotion to truly help oneself. Don't forget that many people never work through their hurdles but simply pretend to live on. They show the world a happy smile, but inside of them, no smile ever exists.

Working on oneself is a worthy process.

Have a wonderful week RHR.

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2 Anonymous September 26, 2011 at 9:55 am

There is no time limit on trauma and fear – and length of time required to conquer suffering is not a measure of anything except perhaps the devotion to truly help oneself. Don't forget that many people never work through their hurdles but simply pretend to live on. They show the world a happy smile, but inside of them, no smile ever exists.

Working on oneself is a worthy process.

Have a wonderful week RHR.

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3 Teresa Wilkinson 1984 September 26, 2011 at 3:30 pm

Your moving ahead so brilliantly. Take it at your own pace, your right the journey on the other side will not be your old self, but a better and improved self. Aware of who she is, her limits, and how to say in a very loving way that is you. "No".

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4 Joan September 26, 2011 at 4:24 pm

Redhead Riter, a heartfelt and profound post so eloquently written that it will touch the hearts of anyone who reads it.

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5 shari lynne September 26, 2011 at 6:47 pm

Hi Redheaded Writer,
I too have had many years of healing and had to accept that there is just no perfect way. Great analogy with humpty dumpty:) You are awesome and thank you for sharing your heart. I have 27 years in recovery and wrote an article called "you can look back, but don't stare!" that you may enjoy reading.
Blessings to you!
Shari

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6 My Meddling Mind September 26, 2011 at 7:30 pm

Undeniably an amazing post full of honesty, heart and soul. Thank you so much for sharing you feelings and thoughts, you are helping so many in the process of healing.

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7 The Zany Housewife September 26, 2011 at 11:56 pm

Oh Red…I've missed you so much!! And crap on a cracker…I'm gone for a month or two and look what happens!!

I'm so sorry you have been through all of that. I love your honesty, as always. And I hope that things improve…

And you couldn't be more right about reaching out for help. I just recently did that…and it was tough for me to do. I think I hit that point of realizing that I couldn't handle it all and asking for help does not make me weak.

Hugs from your other daughter 🙂

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8 Bev September 27, 2011 at 11:40 pm

It is hard to give in and ask for help, especially when you are the fixer by nature. You are beautiful inside and out. I thank God for your healing to be swift. In the meantime, I am thinking thoughts of snow for you too!

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