Surfing some more.
Commenting over and over again.
Then suddenly, I was reassured that having red hair was meant to be…
Comments don’t lie.
I thought it was rather funny which is why I saved it, but things like this happen to me all the time.
Back in the day when ignorance was blissful, I went to college. I was doing fine living at home, but Mom insisted that I “go away so that I could meet eligible men and get married.”
I was so lonely.
Really, I was miserable.
In those days, long distance costs were as much as two house payments and a tractor. Of course, the cell phone didn’t exist either. Yeah, I was raised in the dinosaur era.
Anyway, when I just couldn’t stand being home sick one more minute, I would sit and stare at the phone so that Mom would call me. Most of the time it was in the wee hours of the morning which meant that I would have to wake Mom up from a sound sleep by just thinking loud. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it works for us.
On one of those lonely nights at about 2:00 a.m., I sat staring at the phone willing my mother, who was a thousand miles away, to wake up.
After a few minutes, my phone rang.
My mother’s groggy voice on the other end said, “You just woke me up from a sound sleep. Is everything okay?”
I was thrilled that she picked up my “vibes,” but I sure felt stupid for waking her up after she answered. I mean really, I was twenty years old, not five!
My point is not that I have any special powers, however, I have a very strong love for my mother and vice versa. We are “in tune” with one another and just “know” things about each other without being told.
This didn’t happen overnight.
It took time. Not just a quantity of time, but also quality time. We have paid attention to each other and listened in order to know each other. As time has passed, those things have simply become a subconscious part of our relationship.
A relationship that is treasured and filled with love.
There’s only one way to know each other that well…
You must make a sincere and concerted effort in the good times and the bad. This is true for any relationship not just parent-child. I think that five of the most important characteristics in obtaining this type of relationship is the desire to truly know the person, honesty, willing to listen, unselfishness and love.
Do I think it is worth it?
I love you Mom.
No, it isn’t Mother’s Day or your birthday, but I thought a surprise post just for you might brighten your day. I know you are having it tough, so hang in there. Many people love and care for you. How can we help it? You are an amazing woman!
The daughter from whom there is no escape (wink),
The Redhead Riter