We learn from very early in our childhood that there is a definite difference between men and women. I don’t believe we really realize how vast those differences are until we are older and then some women, well, they never quite get it which is why they nag. That is my opinion, of course.
Because I want my daughter to always remember that she was conceived by two people in love, I am going to talk about her father (my ex-husband) as it pertains to the HF – also known as the Hot Factor which could also be called the Sexy Factor. I’m sure he won’t mind a bit.
When I met Alyssa’s father, Evan, we were both very young. I was a studious, conservative, naive young woman and he was an older, well-traveled, very tanned, muscled “man” with a mustache, a little scar next to his eye and thick, curly, dark hair. He reminds me of the rugged actor named Tom Selleck. Anyway, I was mesmerized by his brawn and strength which was amplified because of my pale, frail, feminine appearance. We were total opposites like night and day.
I thought Evan was “hot” in every sense of the word as did many other women of all ages which was evidenced every time we went shopping, to church or school. Women stared and he was totally oblivious.
Alyssa seems to think that her parents have been “old” forever, so I have included a few pictures to remind her that her Dad was once young, perceived as “hot” and quite a catch by many.
What makes a man hot?
Let’s see…a flannel shirt in the middle of summer, leather pants in a 102 degree desert…No! Not that kind of hot!
The HF (Hot Factor) is different for every woman and it changes as we get older.
Maybe so and maybe not.
I have been and always will be a sucker for a tough, manly man wearing tight fitting jeans, a flannel shirt and rugged mountain boots. But then again, a dark business suit, white shirt and loosened silk tie is equally as appealing.
One time I read (no I don’t remember where, so you don’t have to believe me) that the majority of women found men in a pair of blue jeans and fitted white t-shirt was the sexiest look for men. Funny, huh?
As I have gotten older, I’ve found more things than just appearance make a man hot and high on the HF (Hot Factor) scale. Here are a few of those traits listed in no particular order:
- Confidence – When a man is confident, it is evident not only in his body language, but also his choices and actions
- Can play a musical instrument
- Humility – He can admit his own faults and makes no excuses for them
- Doesn’t talk incessantly
- Enjoys being a Father – A man who will change a diaper, read books, play Frisbee and teach his children to ride the bike
- Eye Contact – He looks at you in the eye when he’s listening and speaking
- Sense of Humor
- Has a great singing voice
- Doesn’t mind getting dirty because he is handy – He can fix the car, mow the lawn and grow a garden and all the while he is dripping with sweat
- Knows when to get clean and put his best foot forward
- Wears cologne, but not too much of it
- Sensitive to children, women, the elderly, people who are ill and anyone in need
- Doesn’t mind cleaning up the house and washing clothes
- Conversationalist – He is interesting to talk to and can carry on a topic appropriate conversation
- Dances well
Do I think one man will or can be all those things? Um…No! There is no such a thing as a perfect man just as there is not a perfect woman.
So ladies, but most importantly Alyssa – Do not search for the perfect man, but decide ahead of time the things that are the most important traits you want in a husband and don’t settle. I didn’t settle with your Dad even though I was blown away because he ranked high on the physical HF (Hot Factor) scale. I knew he was a good man and that was hot too.
I will say it again…Do not settle for someone just because they are the only person asking you out right now or the only guy you know your age or any other of the numberless reasons you can concoct in your head.
If you are going to get married for-ev-er and you want to be happy, choose your partner wisely. Don’t be so overwhelmed by their hotness that you abandon all rational thinking.
If you are already with your partner and it feels like it has been forever (just kidding), take the time to remember why you thought he was hot to begin with and rekindle those emotions. Your husband’s will thank me – uh – I mean, your husband’s will thank you.
Now it is your turn to spill your guts. What do you think makes a man hot? What do you find hot about your partner?
Disclaimer: My ex-husband did not threaten my life or pay me to write this post (laughing hysterically at my own joke!)