Tell The Truth Thursday – Wedding Day

by Sherry Riter in Memory,Tell The Truth Thursday

Tell The Truth Thursday

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The question this week is :

    Did you have a wonderful wedding day? Would you change anything? If you’re not married, describe your ideal wedding day.

Unfortunately, I have been divorced. I think the whole concept and meaning behind divorce is sad, but it happens and because of this, I have now been married twice.

At the young age of 21, I was married to Alyssa’s father. During the many months preceding the wedding, I made my wedding dress. Even with all the preparations, on the eve of my wedding day, we were still sewing on the lace appliques on the train. Funny to think of that now.

I felt beautiful, young and happy that day and a little fearful. We didn’t have a big wedding or reception. I don’t think either of us wanted to bother with a whole lot of details; we just wanted to get married and get on with life.

The pictures were not readily available today, but I found a few snapshots to prove that I actually wore the wedding dress I made for my first wedding. Obviously, the photos don’t do justice to a dress that took many hours and had over one hundred pieces of fabric to sew together.

pic 1 I love the point on my sleeve
pic 2 That is my sister hugging me with my hat veil
pic 3 At our wedding reception

Then I pulled out the dress which I still have at the top of my closet and took a few photos up close.

Little heart on my garter belt

The point on my sleeve that went across the back of my hand

Pearls and thick Italian lace all over the dress

A lot of hand sewing

I love the sheen of heavy bridal satin

Buttons went all the way down the back

The hem was lace all the way around and was sewn on by hand

A simple high collar with lace and pearls

Lace, lace and more lace

Pearls, pearls and more pearls with yards and yards of fabric

Twenty-one years later, I guess I still had the same attitude because my second wedding was at the Justice of the Peace. Not a big ceremony, no guests and no celebratory details to figure out.

Would I change anything?


I would definitely:

  • finish my college education before I got married the first time
  • wait until I was older the first time
  • wait until I knew my second husband better
  • include my family at the ceremony the second time
  • hire a photographer for the weddings
  • add sequins, jewels and more pearls to my dress
  • have extravagant shoes with six inch heels
  • ride in a limo with my family to a wonderful meal in a fancy restaurant after the wedding
  • have a honeymoon both times, once on the beach and once in the mountains

I guess with age, I have changed and would do things differently. That’s not such a big surprise.

“Love does not consist
of gazing at each other,
but in looking together
in the same direction.

~Antoine de Saint-Exupery~

Weddings can be such lovely celebrations!

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{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Avante Garde Parenting September 30, 2010 at 12:44 am

What a beautiful dress- you are talented in so many ways! I have a feeling you might be appalled at what I did with my wedding dress after my wedding…


2 Anonymous September 30, 2010 at 6:00 am

Oh Sherry, I forgot how beautiful it was!!!! I am so proud of you. I am so glad you still have it. I remember the picture hung in Dallas Studio for years of you. I am so glad I made you learn how to sew. I love you thanks for the memory.



3 Teresha@Marlie and Me September 30, 2010 at 6:02 am

the dress is stunning! is there anything you can't do?! 🙂


4 The Redhead Riter September 30, 2010 at 6:23 am

Thanks everyone.

I'm glad you made me learn to sew too Mom.

Yes, Teresha! There is something I can't do…

? sing and play the piano ?


5 Holly September 30, 2010 at 7:27 am

WOW!! What an amazing job you did on your gown!! Look at that fist experience as a necessary step for you to have your beautiful daughter.

My first was at a justice of peace on his town pass a couple days before he graduated basic training in San Antonio, TX… Pathetic, I know. The marriage was about as pathetic, as it was mostly one sided (ME) and trying to make him happy… *sigh* As much as I wish I hadn't fallen for his lies and given him so many chances, I wouldn't trade the 2 kids I had with him for anything. ;D

Since current Hubby's kids stalk my blog to have something to hold against me, I think I'll only post about my wedding to him. I really hate feeling like I can't be completely open… *sigh*.


6 Mike CJ September 30, 2010 at 8:08 am

I wouldn't change a thing about our wedding. It remains one of the very best and most memorable days of my life.

We went "All in" at a fabulous place and with 150 friends and family. Highlights included a surf machine, an amazing band, and a massive firework display at midnight.


7 katlupe September 30, 2010 at 10:38 am

What a beautiful dress! You are such a good seamstress.


8 Kristen September 30, 2010 at 12:12 pm

I absolutely love your dress! I wish that I had learned to really sew. I am lucky if I get a loose button sewn back on. 🙂

My husband and I got married when we were 23 and we have been married for twelve years. I wouldn't change a thing about my wedding..the right man, the right age and the wedding day was the most fun I have ever had in my life.


9 cinfulcinnamon September 30, 2010 at 2:37 pm

Trying to get my linky to load. So I can be part of the fun…And everyone is right, what a GORGEOUS dress.


10 Lori September 30, 2010 at 7:29 pm

What a lovely dress. It is simply beautiful.

I was married at the Justice of the Peace too. So many things I'd do different, but since I can't go back and change those things, I do what I can to make a difference. To me, sharing with my children some of the very things that are on your list is very important to me, because I know it will be very important to my children. Marriage is a huge step in life, a step that deserves support from those you love. I never got that support.

Thanks for such a beautiful and thought provoking post.


11 JANE E KIRN October 1, 2010 at 12:52 am

I think everyone would do things different had they known then what they learned now. We had a photographer, but he was in a hurry. A night wedding in 1968 on Valentine's Day. There are a few photos I really like, but others not so creative or what I call memorable. I still have my wedding dress 43 years later in the closet. Married to the same man. But nothing is ever easy, even being married a life time. The biggest change I would of made? Waiting until I was OLDER.


12 eof777 October 6, 2010 at 3:00 am

This was fun to write and you look fantatsic in your beautiful wedding gown.


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