Looking Forward Backward

by Sherry Riter in Attitude,Self-Development  

drive in the country

Driving through the country as I often do, helps to clear my mind so that I can concentrate on the basics of life.

In many ways, my personality can be aggravating to some people because I’m never satisfied with just being and doing nothing. I must have a goal in sight and a few more on the list at different stages of accomplishment in order to feel like a valuable human being.

Sometimes that’s good.

Other times it’s not so good.

Let’s discuss goals for a moment.

    Definition of goal: the end toward which effort is directed : aim

Instead of reading through that going 100 mph, take a moment to ponder the meaning.

The end toward which effort is directed.


Every day each of us has the freedom to choose how we spend our 1,440 minutes. There are those things that we “have to do” and those things which we “want to do.” The difference between the two choices is about as vast as the unique function of the mind of a man and a woman.

Goals motivate toward a particular end outcome or result. It takes energy, exertion, determination, labor, work and often a whole lot of sweat in order to achieve the endeavor.

A goal can come under the heading of “have to do” or “want to do.”

For instance…

    I want to bathe and wash my hair each day.

    I have to breathe to get oxygen to the cells of my body.

    I want to have an interesting blog.

    I have to eat food to survive.

Not everything in life is cut and dry. Upon awakening each morning, we start making unconscious choices which are called habits. These unthinking tasks often take up a huge amount of our day. In order to succeed at the goals that we set for ourselves, we must ensure that our habits do not get in the way.

“In the absence of
clearly-defined goals,
we become strangely loyal
to performing daily trivia
until ultimately
we become enslaved by it.”
~Robert Heinlein~

Some of our unconscious actions are motivated by our history. So a great place to begin with implementing a goal-oriented life is to resolve any issues we have with people or experiences in our past. Go through the pain of coping with heartaches and done-you-wrong situations. Keeping the obstacle in the mix is like having a huge mountain in the middle of a highway. Your course is impeded…sometimes permanently.

The other life events and learnings acquired can be the catalyst for motivating you towards success with your goals. I call this looking forward backward. Our lives are rich with knowledge that we have picked up. By effectively using the lessons learned in our past, we can victoriously achieve our goals easier and faster.

There are times that life can become overwhelming.

Nothing matters.

Everything becomes a blur.

drive in the country

Unfortunately, bad things happen to good people every day which is why tying up the loose ends of our past becomes so important. We simply do not have time to wallow in them. Get them out of the way and set your eyes looking ahead.

There are several steps that can be taken to ensure successful completion of the goals you set for yourself:

  • Set a specific goal ensuring that it realistic and attainable
  • Brainstorm towards acquiring the success and plan
  • Write the goal down
  • Believe in your talents and capabilities
  • Ignite the flame of desire in accomplishing the vision
  • Eliminate the negative people and increase the positive
  • Reveal the goal because often others can help you in ways not formerly known
  • Commit to the goal
  • Assert yourself
  • Work harder than the average person
  • Keep a check on your own attitude and control your emotions
  • Do it “your” way taking into account the failures of others
  • Stay focused
  • Refuse to fail or give up
  • Be patient and remember that “Rome wasn’t built in a day”
  • Take time to relax
  • Review and evaluate progress
  • Celebrate measurable milestones
  • Persevere with determination
  • Have courage and do not faint during the final hour
  • Don’t stop until success is attained

Remember that you can attain all you ever dreamed. Just carry the good part of your past with you to motivate your actions in the future towards the success you desire and deserve.

“Every success is built on
the ability to do better
than good enough.”

It’s been great chatting with you, but now I have to clear my mind by taking a long ride in the country.

drive in the country

drive in the country

drive in the country

drive in the country

drive in the country

Riding with the windows rolled down,
the radio off,
and my hair blowing in the wind,

The Redhead Riter


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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 Popcorn Served Daily September 1, 2010 at 3:47 am

Those are great points. I write everything down and reference them frequently. It seems to be working.

Now, if I could only get a ride down a countryside like that! Beautiful and freeing.

Take care,



2 teamcurtisfamily September 1, 2010 at 10:22 am

I love going for a long cruise, especially in the Country.

Would love your feedback on an article I typed that has some similarities.


"Looking forward backward," is a great philosophy, and so true.

Great Post,


3 Jules September 1, 2010 at 10:40 am

My deepest, loudest THANK YOU I can scream. I needed that. 😀
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow


4 MsBabyPlan September 1, 2010 at 1:00 pm

I am so glad I stopped by today.

I am going to set my goal and look ahead for it.

This is what my post was about today. I want to turn the page and move toward the end result = aim = goal.

Thanks for the post.


5 Teresha@Marlie and Me September 1, 2010 at 1:16 pm

poignant post, poignant pictures. I wanted to say a quick hello before going on vacation. I'll be catching up with you when I get back. take care!


6 Anonymous September 1, 2010 at 1:56 pm

Beautiful pictures and thoughts to ponder, thanks for sharing!



7 Madison September 1, 2010 at 3:05 pm

It is so important to have goals. I, for one, am not going to stop until I reach mine.

The pictures are beautiful, too!


8 Edlund September 2, 2010 at 3:17 pm

You're blog is really interesting….


9 Edlund September 2, 2010 at 3:17 pm

You're blog is really interesting….


10 Kaylen September 2, 2010 at 7:20 pm

This is a great, positive post!! I sometimes forget to just keep looking forward-I really need to!! It's easy to get bogged down with daily draining life tasks and miss out on the wonderment of life itself! We take it for granted too often.

Love the pics! Nothing is better than a quiet car driving through the countryside!


11 Amanda September 11, 2010 at 11:38 pm

Needed this today 🙂 Fabulous pics! I miss the countryside.


12 Alyssa September 12, 2010 at 7:20 am

I would still love your blog if you posted nothing but the beautiful photos I see on many of your posts. Thanks for going the extra mile!


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