Older women are much more sexual than younger women according to an article in the July issue of Personality and Individual Differences by University of Texas psychologist David Buss and three graduates listed as Judith Easton, Jaime Confer and Cari Goetz. The research discovered that women between the ages of 27 and 45 not only had more sex, but also more intense sexual fantasies than women from the ages of 18 through 26 years old.
What is the relevance of this information as it pertains to a married couple or intimate sexual relations between men and women? Men reach their sexual peak around 16 which lasts for several years. Men remain at a lower sexual level through at least their early 70’s while women’s sexual drive decreases after menopause.
Sounds like a cruel joke doesn’t it?
its’ the ability to be able to feel
so close to a person, so connected,
so comfortable that it’s almost
breathtaking to the point
you feel you can’t take it.
And at this moment you’re a part of them.”
There are a few things which I think are very important to remember.
- Sex begins in the mind. Fantasies are healthy.
- Two people in love find comfort and belonging as well as excitement in each other’s arms.
- Women require more time to become sexually aroused, however, as men age, they also need extra time.
- comfortable in her skin
- knows how to satisfy and be satisfied
- feels in control of her life
- has faced her insecurities and fears
- sexually empowered
All of these characteristics contribute to her sexual freedom and eagerness to have intimacy often, but being active sexually frequently doesn’t happen later in life. One of the reasons that women’s sexual drive decreases after menopause is because their partner is usually older and either has less desire to participate or too ill to continue an active sexual lifestyle. This does not have to happen. Women can be in control of their sexuality and there are many things that can be done to remain a sexual woman.
In a loose abstract, having sex is like eating potato chips. If you open the bag and and eat a chip, you can’t stop at just one. Ensuring that sex remains an integral part of the marriage aids in strengthening the relationship. It also contributes to better overall health. Age may require some adjustments to having a positive sexual experience, but it can still be fulfilling, exciting and strengthen the marriage bond.
Now there is scientific data that supports the importance of a lifetime filled with positive sexual experiences. No longer do you have to feel shy in expressing what you want and taking the lead when you want to participate in an intimate experience. Remember, sex starts in the mind and we all know how a woman’s mind works. Sex can be fun! The possibilities are limitless!
Do you feel more empowered?