using the same kind of thinking
we used when we created them.”
I know that this quote can apply to many things, but yesterday I found it quite applicable while I was in the kitchen. Arthritis is not my friend. It is my whiny aggravation.
The cupboards and refrigerator are filled with bottles and jars that come from the store tightly sealed. For this I am thankful because my food and condiments are fresh and safe to eat. However, opening the jars can be and is often a struggle.
First, I try to just open the jar with a simple turn which is precisely the way it was initially closed.
If that doesn’t work, I tap the edges of the lid with the handle of a butter knife.
Often that is followed by running the whole jar under water.
I once heard that hitting the bottom of the jar with the palm of the hand helps loosen the grip of the lid, so I even try that method.
Sometimes I have to resort to putting on the rubber gloves so that I can hold the jar tight and get a really good grip on the lid.
By this point, if the lid is still not off the jar, I am ready to run outside and slam it into the pavement. Obviously, it gets rather aggravating. I haven’t resorted to that yet, so I guess I do have some self-control.
My last resort is to ask Tom or Alyssa to open the jar. I think I should just save myself from this major aggravation and buy an electric jar opener.
This methodical step-by-step procedure is usually how I solve problems whether they are self-inflicted or just occurrences in the natural course of life. I mull it over, read self-help books, watch educational programs on the subject, pray, complain, cry and my last resort is to ask others for help. Eventually I find and accept a solution.
I think it hard asking for help and also accepting acts of compassion and kindness. I feel guilty that anyone has gone out of their way and sacrificed their time, talent or money for me. My mom comes into mind immediately when I think of people who have sacrificed for not only me, but also her grandchildren, son-in-laws, sisters, parents, and husband. Thanks Mom for all you do for everyone.
I know..this is something that I need to work on improving. I don’t want the people that I assist to feel guilty for my acts of kindness, so I should also be willing to accept without guilt services rendered to me.
What methods do you find are effective in solving problems? Is it hard for you to ask and receive service from others?