Pink or Blue?

by Sherry Riter in Health,Menopause,Pregnancy

Is it a girl or boy?

Maybe you’ve forgotten my wonder and worry over being pregnant.

I didn’t forget and in the back of my mind it continued to niggle me until I found out the answer.

I must admit that in private I entertained visions of babies. (my mother probably just fainted) You know that I read thousands of blogs and see so many beautiful babies, so do you really think that I can be totally unaffected by all those chubby cheeks, toothless smiles and cute clothes?

Thoughts such as, “Would it be a boy or girl? I already have a fantastically wonderful daughter, so maybe a boy this time around would be a fun switch. But girls and their frilly dresses are so fun! I would be happy with either…or both! Wouldn’t that be fantastic!” (my daughter is probably freaking out)

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“What would I do at my baby shower? Who would I invite?”

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“Would everyone think I was insane or would they be happy for me?” (the men just said “insane” and the women said “how wonderful!”)

The more I thought about it, the more I longed to be young and pregnant again, but wouldn’t mind being old and pregnant either. I started to hope that I was pregnant. (my husband has passed out now)

Having a baby is not something I take lightly. I thought about all the pros and cons, but in the end decided that I know it would be better for me physically if I wasn’t pregnant. That was such a hard thing to admit after blocking it mostly out of my mind for the last seventeen years. To find that the desire to continue the more “needy” type motherhood hadn’t disappeared wasn’t really a shock. I am very thankful for my daughter who is really a miracle, but “what if I could have one more” started to make me really wish again just like when I was twenty years old. I don’t think those emotions will ever die inside of me.

I did find it interesting how “behind the times” I was when it came to a few things such as pregnancy tests. My pregnancy post comment box and email was filled with advice about types of at home pregnancy tests. I guess it was proof, as one reader stated, that I do not watch much television because I had no idea I could find out so quickly if I was pregnant! The miracles of science never cease to amaze me!

The mind with all the rational analysis was completely opposite the heart’s ever longing desires for increased motherhood. However, it is sad to discover that the same hormones which go crazy when a woman gets pregnant also go crazy when she begins menopause. That is such a terrible realization. One marks the beginning of life and the other marks the beginning of the end. I don’t think I could have been much more depressed and it continues to linger as I sit here all alone with everyone sleeping.

My family will be most shocked at this posting because I did not share my feelings with anyone for fear of ridicule. With my husband out of work, it would be quite difficult financially while physically it would be dangerous given my history and current health and age. However, once I had the thought of a possible pregnancy in my head, I started getting secretly excited. I was calm, nonchalant and even played it down whenever someone mentioned it, but inside was a whirling tornado of emotions and thoughts.

Now that I know I’m not pregnant and that my journey to older age is looming steadily closer, I feel I deserve some kind of gift to begin my journey out of one era of my life and into another. I would have received gifts at a baby shower, so I can’t think of any reason why I shouldn’t get one now. My husband needs to make of note of my wish…I would like a pink diamond ring resembling one of the rings pictured below. Pink diamonds are rather expensive, so when you get hired for a job, please refer back to this post if you need a reminder.

I also want a matching pair of pink diamond stud earrings.
I don’t think that is too much to ask considering all that my body has been through for the last thirty four years and obviously will continue in its torment of my hormones. But most of all, it is a small token compared to a soft skinned, silky haired, powdered, lotioned, diapered, cooing, and smiling baby wrapped in a fuzzy blanket.

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Pammy pam April 27, 2010 at 12:20 am

wow. what a roller coaster of emotions. i love babies. cant have anymore so i work with them at a daycare facility.

you CERTAINLY deserve diamonds. and chocolate.

and a hug.


2 Angie April 27, 2010 at 1:20 am

So sorry! Thank God you have your wonderful daughter (I miscarried twice before my first child, so consider both my children miracles).

I am also edging into the beginning of the end and am adoring the ring second from the top!


3 Joan April 27, 2010 at 2:01 am

The pseudo-pregnancy symptoms hit me a few years ago too. My clock-work-like cycle went haywire and I was late, even skipped a month. I tested, negative, but I admit, I too "went there". It was sweetly wonderful imagining what sweet creature might possibly be.

I understand…


4 Ashley April 27, 2010 at 2:15 am

Well, this is one way to leave a hint for your husband!! Love it. Ha!

Yes, I'm sure you had a lot of emotions these past several weeks, and hope you are feeling more at peace now knowing what is really going on! Nothing a nice pink diamond can't make better!


5 Jamie April 27, 2010 at 2:42 am

I'm not help, because I've never been in your situation and I'm still in the begining of my journey, but I do send you bigs hugs and I agree with pammy you definitly deserve one of those pretty rings 😀

I love babies too <3


6 Dena E's Blog April 27, 2010 at 2:45 am

I just have to chime in and say ,,,why not all 3 of these rings plus the earings..
Heck,,why not a gorgeous necklace too. You know you deserve it Girlfriend…
I am clearly 3/4 of the way through my menopausal moments,,( Isn't that right LORD)?
Well, I am prayerful about it anyway..
Delightful post as always Red..
And ya never know just what God has in store,you could end up with baby in the warmer after all ;0)
Big (((HUGS))) Dena


7 One Love Mama April 27, 2010 at 3:07 am

My uterus aches I want to be pregnant so bad.
Have you thought about getting a puppy.. along with the diamonds of course!!


8 The Redhead Riter April 27, 2010 at 4:34 am

Well, I think I love you all! ?


9 Jennifer April 27, 2010 at 7:38 am

"(pink)Diamonds are a girls best friend." (cooed in my best Marilyn Monroe voice).


10 Oh Sew Good April 27, 2010 at 10:19 am

Oh no! Not the beginning of the end my friend, it's the beginning of a new beginning. Soon you will have grandchildren to hold (not soon soon but soon) and cuddle and they will all be amazed at the story you have to tell when they ask about your Pink Diamond ring. 🙂


11 Navyvet April 27, 2010 at 11:31 am

Tom caught me smelling baby powder in wal-mart yesterday, I was standing in the isle silently crying. A stranger, female came by and said I know exactly how you are feeling. It never goes away, your mom is 66. I love you



12 Teresha@Marlie and Me April 27, 2010 at 2:20 pm

Mother's Day IS right around the corner. I hope you get your pink diamond…you deserve it!


13 Kenya April 27, 2010 at 2:56 pm

You definitely deserve the pink diamonds!!


14 Big Mama Cass April 27, 2010 at 6:56 pm

I'm confused. You are 34?


15 Pink Haired Momma May 1, 2010 at 1:50 am

I have been wondering about you and hoping the best for YOYU would be the outcome. I appears everything has worked out to perfection. I am happy for you.

I too LOVE pink diamonds. They are quite expensive, we looked for my wedding band. But my BIL is a jewlery maker (uncle diamond as we call him). He promises to make me a pink diamond anniversary band someday!


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