Well, I just told you.
I lived most of my life in Texas and that is where my sweet daughter Alyssa was born. That is where I grew up, learned to drive, graduated, worked, bought my first home, and the list goes on. Obviously, there are a lot of memories associated with everything I looked at or touched.
That’s why I don’t live in Texas any more.
Too much pain knowing it all ended unhappily.
After the divorce, my family (Mom, sister, niece and daughter) moved to Virginia with me. Mom moved first, then a few months later I moved with Alyssa. My sister and niece followed shortly thereafter. We all love each other, but I guess you can tell.
It is a long trip from Texas to Virginia – 1,500 miles.
A very long trip.
I was even harder than just simple travel because a large portion of my life was ending. My ex-husband was nice enough to help me move by driving the U-Haul, but mentally I was a wreck.. Alyssa was with him during the long trip while I followed behind in my car.
Emotionally, that was a terrifying and heartbreaking trip. I stared at the back of the U-Haul with millions of thoughts going through my head.
“Maybe he will make the effort to change and ask me to marry him again.”
“There’s no way he is going to leave us.”
“Doesn’t he realize what he is giving up?”
“Why doesn’t he love me enough to make our marriage work?”
“I made mistakes and he made mistakes, but surely we can mend it.”
You can imagine the depths of depression.
I was emotionally lost behind the U-Haul.
During these harrowing thoughts, I kept driving.
I just stared at the picture on the back of the U-Haul and cried.
I cried lots of tears.
My heart ached and a piece of my soul died.
It got foggy.
I kept crying.
Then I heard my ex-husband say, “Do you see the green sign we just passed?”
“No, I didn’t pass a green sign.”
“Do you see the white sign now on your right?” he persisted.
“There isn’t any signs on my right,” I said, “Tap your brakes three times.”
The U-Haul ahead just kept going and the lights did not flash.
“I did it, but why did you ask me to do it?”
Now in a panic I said, “Pull over to the side of the road.”
The U-Haul ahead kept driving straight while my ex-husband said, “I’ve pulled over and stopped, but I don’t see you anywhere.”
I was physically lost behind a U-Haul.
In the end, I panicked and cried because I had been following the wrong U-Haul for thirty-five minutes. I was going the wrong direction altogether. Alyssa and her father waited for me to catch up after giving me many directions during numerous calls. Eventually I found them and we continued on our journey.
We reached our destination, unloaded the boxes and the story did not end “happily ever after” because Alyssa’s father left.
When Alyssa went to sleep that night, I remember sobbing until I couldn’t breathe. My body shook with racking sobs and I felt that I would never be happy again.
I know that many of you have shared this same pain whether through divorce, death or other experiences in life. But I survived the night and the next morning the sun came up to greet my big puffy eyes. If you’re reading this posting, you survived as well.
Those types of experiences change us…forever. I’m not the same girl that drove halfway across the country. I’m a better person in many ways. I’ve learned, progressed, and my broken heart healed…for the most part. The scars are there to remind me of lessons that I do not want to forget.
I was lost behind a U-Haul…
but I’m not lost any more.
begin to understand ourselves.”