It’s that time again to have some questions answered from a man’s point of view. Tom is excited about resuming his profession tomorrow and ready to get everything accomplished including this posting! Now that’s a change! His comments will be in BLUE:
Do you think people have become too cop happy these days? What happened to working out neighborly disputes between ourselves? I know times have changed, but have they changed that much? Am I missing something?“I can tell you are ready to answer those questions, so go ahead.”
“Last year a neighbor went too far. They had been noisy for as long as we knew them. On one occasion, my wife very politely asked for their courtesy to reduce what had become a public disturbance at all hours of the day or night. Her respectful request was met with abusive language and posturing from he and his wife.
I heard this foul conduct and exploded toward their home ready to defend my wife as necessary. He dismissed my demand with threatswhile his wife cheered him on. I was stopped short by my wife’s reminder of appropriate behavior. I am still surprised that I did not follow through with getting satisfaction.
On the next of many such annoying disturbances we simply called the police. As it turned out, that was the end of our combative contacts. They moved away shortly thereafter. I consider myself to be adept at negotiating for peaceful neighbor relations and in another similar circumstance, I may well achieve that result. However, this was clearly best handled by the police.
I must say, I was quite shocked and taken aback at our neighbor’s behavior, so the whole experience is rather foggy and best forgotten. I just wanted to go back home after having him curse so violently at me as his answer to my one reasonable request.
All I can say is I’m glad they moved because the unexpected vicious attack really scared me. I just want to forget it ever happened.
Have you ever had neighborly problems? If so, what happened and how did you handle it?
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