Men’s Meme – Husband’s Role

by Sherry Riter in Men's Meme

Testosterone Injection

The Men’s meme question answered by Tom is below and his comments will be in BLUE:

What top five responsibilities do you feel are important in fulfilling your role as a husband?

“How do you like that question?” I asked Tom.

I like that question. It is good.

1. Be available. Be quick to modify my schedule and drop my activities as needs be.

2. Be reliable. Say what you mean and walk your talk.

3. Be considerate. Pay attention and place your sweetheart’s needs ahead of your own. Common courtesy goes a long way to win the day.

4. Be industrious, profitable and enterprising. Remember, we are the hunter-gatherer. Do not faint.

5. Attend to the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of your wife and children.

I can’t believe I gave you this list. I know they are correct principles. Wish me luck.

Yeah, he should be worried now because I am going to refer back to this posting whenever I need validation. Of course, I didn’t choose this question for the reason of using it in the future when the need arose (hiding my crossed fingers behind my back).

I would like to comment on #4 specifically. I believe that as women we often forget that men need to feel like our hunter-gatherer. It is important to their ego and self-esteem to feel that they have the responsibility and ability to care for us. It is in their DNA and we should allow them to fulfill this role.

In the present day, it often takes two incomes to support a family, however, women can still help their husbands take care of them. I believe in being independent, but I don’t think that I have to do everything just because I can. I do not have anything to prove to anyone…most especially my husband. So if he wants to change the oil, wash the car, put air in the tires, fill the washer fluid, and buy the little stem covers for the tires, all I can say is “Go for it!”

I also feel that ultimately my husband has the responsibility for the family. We are his stewardship. I have my role and I do all that I can to make sure that everything flows from day-to-day, but Tom should fill all the gaps that I miss. Not only should he support me emotionally in all that I do, but physically Tom should stand beside me and help. I should have as much free time as Tom has for relaxing fun and he should help ensure that I do too.

Since we are also Christians, I feel that he should be the leader in spiritual matters such as having us pray together, attend church functions and read the written word of God. He is supposed to help his family learn of God and guide them back to Him in righteousness. That is my husband’s ultimate responsibility in my opinion.

Well, that got a little heavy. What do you feel is your husband’s main responsibilities in the family and to you?

“A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.”
~George Jean Nathan~

Husband's role in the family

This post was written by...

Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

1 PJ February 22, 2010 at 5:21 am

AWESOME! AWESOME! AWESOME! My hubby needs to take lessons. I think that your husband's answers had to come from his Christian ideology. My husband while "believing in God" knows the basic ideas such as the 10 Commandments and practices most of them, but unfortunately, his upbringing takes over on the rest such as he doesn't understand that honoring and "respecting" is the same thing. He's thoughtful in a lot of his actions like buying me candy and cokes( when I'm trying to diet, and not suppose to have them anyway,and stuff like that, but when he "opens his mouth" it discounts every "nice" thing he does. As I told you before he claims his mentor is Don Rickles, so you know what I mean when I talk about his mouth. Anyway, I didn't mean for this to turn into a book, originally just wanted to let you know I'm still kickin'.

Love ya Bunches!



2 I am Harriet February 22, 2010 at 5:06 pm

Hi there.
I'm stopping by to thank you for signing up to participate in Blog Love Commenting this month.
Thanks so much!


3 Judy Harper February 22, 2010 at 6:07 pm

You know, today it's rare to see women believe in this. But it is so true.


Leave a Comment

"How rare and wonderful is that flash of a moment
when we realize we have discovered a friend."

~William E. Rothschild~

Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts.
I respond back to all comments.


Previous post:

Next post: