Do You Ask For What You Really Want?

by Sherry Riter in Communication

A man walks into a restaurant with a full-grown ostrich behind him. The waitress asks them for their orders.

The man says, ‘A hamburger, fries and a coke,’ and turns to the ostrich, ‘What’s yours?’

‘I’ll have the same,’ says the ostrich.

A short time later the waitress returns with the order ‘That will be $9..40 please,’ and the man reaches into his pocket and pulls out the exact change for payment.

The next day, the man and the ostrich come again and the man says, ‘A hamburger, fries and a coke.’

The ostrich says, ‘I’ll have the same.’

Again the man reaches into his pocket and pays with exact change.

This becomes routine until the two enter again. ‘The usual?’ asks the waitress.

‘No, this is Friday night, so I will have a steak, baked potato and a salad,’ says the man.

‘Same,’ says the ostrich.

Shortly the waitress brings the order and says, ‘That will be $32.62.’

Once again the man pulls the exact change out of his pocket and places it on the table.

The waitress cannot hold back her curiosity any longer. ‘Excuse me, sir.. How do you manage to always come up with the exact change in your pocket every time?’

‘Well,’ says the man, ‘several years ago I was cleaning the attic and found an old lamp. When I rubbed it, a Genie appeared and offered me two wishes. My first wish was that if I ever had to pay for anything, I would just put my hand in my pocket and the right amount of money would always be there.’

‘That’s brilliant!’ says the waitress. ‘Most people would ask for a million dollars or something, but you’ll always be as rich as you want for as long as you live!’

‘That’s right. Whether it’s a gallon of milk or a Rolls Royce, the exact money is always there,’ says the man..

The waitress asks, ‘What’s with the ostrich?’

The man sighs, pauses and answers, ‘My second wish was for a tall chick with a big butt and long legs who agrees with everything I say….’


Priorities…something that takes precedence.

First, decide what really matters to you. Is your life leading you in that direction? Are your goals set with that final outcome or purpose in mind? Do you make a conscious effort to act and perform in such a manner as to get you to that goal of precedence?

If you have that under control, the second step is to ensure that you are effective in communicating your priorities. Are you getting an ostrich instead of a babe?

Our actions reflect our priorities very clearly. If we scream and curse at our companion, neglect our children, lie to our employer, cheat on our taxes, and gossip behind our friends backs, the message is very clear whether we are aware of it or not.

“Mom, isn’t this pretty?” she asks while holding up a blue shirt.
“Uh huh,” the mother replies without even looking up from her own rack of clothing.

Very simple. Very loud message.

The daughter sees and hears, “You are not important enough for me to take time to pay attention to you and your opinions do not matter to me.”

Is that the message you want to convey?

Be in the moment.

Everyone loves the movie The Bucket List with Jack Nicholson, but are we getting the real message?

The message means more than just stopping to smell the roses. You must get out of the car, lean down, sniff, and enjoy the fragrance that follows.

Stop and smell the roses

What do you do in your own life to ensure that you are in the moment?

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 Amanda December 9, 2009 at 3:52 am

That's a great story! (and has officially given me a new answer when I'm asked what I'd wish for!)


2 bluecottonmemory December 9, 2009 at 5:30 am

I read the joke to my husband. We both had a good laugh. I will admit, I am working hard to be in the moment – one of my sons wants me to be intensely in every moment. That's hard. Sometimes I need non-moments. However, you have told me I need to work harder to send the "you count more than anything" message (yes, I know I need hyphens, but that's just too hard right now):)

Hope you're doing well! You've been quiet lately!


3 Golden December 9, 2009 at 6:08 am

Funny story. I learned something valuable from it though. Thanks so much.

Lots of love,


4 Teresha@Marlie and Me December 9, 2009 at 12:54 pm

funny story, serious lesson…missed opportunities, blocked blessings, uncaptured moments all happen when we fail to pay attention.


5 Dame Nuisance December 9, 2009 at 2:58 pm

Loved the ostrich joke!

You ask probing questions that require serious reflection. I am much more in the moment now than I was fifteen or even ten years ago, but I still find myself too caught up in worrying about the future or stewing over the past to just be in the moment and, if not exactly enjoy where I am, at least be fully aware of where/who I am and how I feel right now.

Thanks for the head scratcher!


6 Laurie December 9, 2009 at 5:01 pm

I love the quote in your profile ….the one about setting yourself on fire!

I'm working on a new career direction, freelance writing, and that quote will help me through. Thank-you!

We don't live too far apart …I live in Chesapeake, down in Norfolk/Virginia Beach area. I'm glad I stumbled over here to Redhead Riter! (from SITS)


7 Kristin December 9, 2009 at 11:46 pm

My favorite way to be in the moment is to ignore the housework and just sit and have fun with my toddler!


8 Tracy December 10, 2009 at 12:47 am

Funny story.

It's good to live in the moment. Sometimes I do and others I don't; but it's always better when I do.


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