On the riverbank…
According to the Globe, the new gorilla below is shown at fourteen weeks old in 2005. The baby Western Lowland Gorilla born at the Franklin Park Zoo is held by it’s mother Kiki, 23. The sex of the baby had not been determined yet since Kiki, being such a good mother according to zoo officials, has kept them from getting close enough to determine the sex.
According to Irvin Frank of the St. Petersburg Times, August 23, 1962, the qualities of a good mother include:
- The mother is interested in, but not dependent upon, literature on raising her children.
- The mother has “very solid, good memories of her childhood.” She would not be the type of mother who had an unhappy childhood and tries to compensate by giving her child everything.
- The mother should have a capacity of talking to children in such a way that true communication takes place.
- A good mother can handle children of different ages.
- The good mother has no career ideas. She can work as long as the work does not become an end in itself and does not compete for the interest of the mother.
- A good mother will – if necessary – spank the child at the moment the child does something wrong.
Imagine if that was printed in a newspaper today. It makes me laugh to think of the phone calls, letters, and emails the paper would immediately receive.
What qualities should a mother have according to what we have decided in 2009?
- The ability to ?love? her children unconditionally.
- Will listen and listen and listen and listen and not judge.
- Is unselfish with her time, talents, resources and attention.
- Has an abundance of patience.
- Is confident in herself.
- Loves herself and has a great self-image. (Where have I heard this one before?!)
- Encourages and assists their child to set out on their own path regardless of the mother’s desires.
- Shows disapproval when she feels that the child has done something wrong and has punishments/redirections that match the mistakes.
- Stands up for her own beliefs and remains consistent in order to gain respect.
- Has a great sense of humor and doesn’t let the small stuff wreck her mood.
- Is not ashamed to ask for help from friends and family.
- Treats each child as an individual.
- Ignores the experts most of the time and does what is right for her own child. (I think I have scored 100% on this one.)
- Has responsibility that enables the child to live in a safe and happy environment.
- Sets limits and sticks to them so that the child will have the peace that comes with knowing consistent boundaries.
- She nurtures herself so that she has the physical and mental ability to take care of the child.
- Compassionate. Empathetic. Sympathetic. Understanding.
- Knows the whereabouts of her child.
- Ability to budget the income and money.
- Is involved with their school and friends…knows their friends.
- Has a sense of playfulness. She is fun and can be silly and ridiculous sometimes.
- A motivator. The child’s number one fan and cheerleader.
- She is clear and concise. Lectures are left as punishment…HA! HA! (I have perfected this one!)
- Takes the time to teach the child.
- Is an honest woman.
- Speaks with a kind voice void of ridicule, shaming, or accusations and does not scream at the child.
- Involves the child in family decisions to show that the child’s opinion is valued and uses the opportunity to teach the child principles that she is trying to instill.
- She is always available and the child knows it.
- Respects the child.
- Stays “current” in styles, music, literature, events, etc.
- Provides service to others and gives the child opportunities to do the same.
- Pays attention to the child.
- Loves God and lives the type of life that reflects it.
I know that this doesn’t include everything and does include some things that you don’t agree with so feel free to comment and also to discuss in the BlogFrog Community here.