Flowers In My Soul’s Garden

by Sherry Riter in Family,Friend,Lessons of Life,Motivation

looking up into a flower garden

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy;
they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
~Marcel Proust~

flowers a

There are so many ways to show appreciation to family and friends. Everyone wants to feel wanted, needed and appreciated. The most important feeling we can convey is that we “get them.” We have made the effort to know who they are, what they like and what basically makes them tick. To know that someone appreciates the nuances of your personality that make you “you” says that they feel you are important enough to invest their time and effort. It is the greatest expression of appreciation.

  • Say “Thank You” – This seems like common sense, but often the courtesies of a new relationship are omitted. It doesn’t take much effort to show respect by using common courtesies.
  • Listen – Focus on the things the person is saying and don’t always make them wait to be heard between commercials, phone calls, songs, or tasks. If you are listening to a child, try to get at eye level with them as often as possible.
  • Spend Carefree Time With Them (see Carefree Timelessness)

flowers b

  • Verbal Expressions – Say what you feel! “I love you.” “You’re great.” “My day is always better when you’re around.” “I’m so glad you are in my life.” “I appreciate all the effort you make on my behalf.” There is something about hearing the words that really puts it deep in the heart.
  • Hugs (see Enigmatic Embrace)
  • Share Laughter – Life gets tough sometimes! A few moments of laughter always makes the day brighter.

flowers c

  • Share A Meal Together – Whether it is dinner together as a family or meeting friends at a restaurant, food goes far in bonding.
  • Celebrate Their Life – Show appreciation by remembering and celebrating their birthday, anniversary, job promotions, success at reaching a personal goal, etc.
  • Surprises – Even though I can’t bear waiting to open gifts (see My Confessions Of Sneaking A Peek) I love surprises! It really is an oxymoron that little things are huge! If you have to go on a business trip and you get to the hotel exhausted, open the suitcase, and tucked within your clothes you find a little love note, how great is it?! When someone goes on a business trip or vacation and brings you back a trinket, like a thimble (see What Do You Collect?), don’t you feel special?! I do! Little things really do mean a lot.

flowers d

  • Make An Effort To Know Them – Pay attention to not only the things they say, but the clothes they like to wear, the jewelry they enjoy, the food they prefer, the way they laugh or squint their eyes in the sunshine…get to really know them.
  • Share Compliments – Lavish kind words on those you appreciate. When you love or like someone, it isn’t hard to say kind words complimenting them. A sincere compliment makes everyone feel better.

Life is not for the faint of heart and no one is getting out of it alive, so why not help make everyone’s journey more pleasant? By buoying up each other, especially during hard times, life is happier.


“The human contribution is the essential ingredient.
It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live.”

~Ethel Percy Andrus~

I’m thankful to the gardeners who cultivate and share the flowers in my soul’s garden.

flower garden in the valley


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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Kimberly September 2, 2009 at 5:31 am

Such a good reminder.


2 Jeanette September 2, 2009 at 9:57 am

Thank you for the reminder! That first picture is so cool. What a wondeful blog you have.


3 Tammy Howard September 2, 2009 at 10:34 am

What a lovely way to start the day! Glad I came here early!


4 Suzanne September 2, 2009 at 11:56 am

This made my day! The pictures are gorgeous and your post was very true and well-said. Thank you…it's a keeper!


5 Navyvet September 2, 2009 at 4:16 pm

you are one of the beautiful flowers in the bouquet of my souls garden.



6 Mommy24cs September 2, 2009 at 5:58 pm

Beautiful post and beautiful pictures! I especially love the last one. The colors are amazing!


7 The Blonde Duck September 2, 2009 at 6:49 pm

I love flowers!


8 Scrappy Girl September 2, 2009 at 7:13 pm

Great ideas…I love tucking love notes in Dr. Hubby's pockets when I iron his clothes.


9 S3XinthePantry September 2, 2009 at 8:03 pm

This is a great post!

Thank you!


10 Helen McGinn September 2, 2009 at 11:21 pm

Aw, hon, this is great. And those pictures! I was having one of those kind of moments in my blog today too. Not like me at all… ;O)


11 santhy September 3, 2009 at 11:12 am



12 Jane In The Jungle September 4, 2009 at 3:22 am

These are great as are the pictures. And one thing I do is smile at people, just smile……


13 Vanya @ Endless Inspiration September 5, 2009 at 6:07 pm

thanks for all your sweet comments on my blog. The flowers are wonderful.

Best wishes


14 confused homemaker September 5, 2009 at 7:50 pm

Beautiful pictures, reminding me to take in the beauty of those around me. Family & friends whose beauty inspires me.


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