I Think I Have The Man Gene

by Sherry Riter in Humor,Women Stuff

I’m brutally honest.

No frou frou. No beating around the bush.

When you want to know my opinion, you get the whole truth.

I would say I am too honest, but I don’t believe there is such a thing.

If asked, I will give you my opinion – my honest opinion. People learn this about me soon. My mom and daughter appreciate this aspect of my personality. Men appreciate this quality, but women…well…

“My opinion” does not equal “what you want to hear”.

So if I leave a comment on a blog that says, “Cute template” or “I love your Etsy store” or “Your child is adorable”…I am being honest.

I live the “Law of Thumper” which says “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.”

With that being said, I do not initiate “the unpleasant opinion” unless asked directly.

Let me give you an example…Let’s pretend that you go shopping for hours, try on close to a hundred dresses, then finally decide to buy the fuchsia one with a large belt and this frou frou thing on the bottom right edge. I see you shortly thereafter and the first words that pass your lips is “Don’t you love my dress?”

Here’s the moment.

Don’t forget, you KNOW me. You KNOW I am going to be honest and I KNOW you KNOW.

I say the same thing I always say…”Do you want me to be honest?”

THAT should be a warning. You don’t heed it.


Well, you were forewarned, but I am a nice person too so my answer is “No, not really.”

“No!? Why?!”

Why do you push the issue? Do you really want my opinion? Oh heavens! I am one little person on this big planet so surely my opinion can not matter that much. Besides, YOU like the dress and isn’t that all that matters?

“Honestly, the belt is too big, the dress is too tight and that frou frou thing looks like something my grandmother wore on her hat.”

“It does not! I like this dress!”

Now you want to argue about it. I don’t like arguing. You are not going to change my mind. Besides, YOU like the dress. To keep peace, I say nothing.

“Did you hear me?” you ask.

I know how men feel. I think I have the man gene. No wonder women drive them crazy. Can you hear two men get together and argue about whether the large picture of a John Deere tractor ironed on the front of their t-shirt was “kewl” or not?

Nooooooooooooooooo! That is why I say women drive men nuts. When we push men, like my friend with her frou frou, tacky, large, indescribable thingie stuck on the bottom of her fuchsia dress did with me, they think we are idiots.

“Yes, I heard you. I do not prefer that dress over the really cute green one you wore Thursday with those to-die-for-heels.” I try to get her mind off the negative and give her a really good positive compliment. Does she take the bait?

“That green dress is one of my favs! You really don’t like this one? Should I take it back?”

Why do you ask me THAT question? I wouldn’t have left the store with it, so why would I think you should keep it?

“If you like it, then keep it. Does it make you feel happy?”

“Not any more. You think I should take it back because it is ugly. Fine then! I spent hours looking for this dress! I gotta go. See you later.”

Oh, great. You’re ticked off because I don’t like your hideous dress. I’m honest. Did you really expect less of me? I guess if I were a man and you were my wife I would be sleeping on the couch tonight.

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

{ 28 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Alicia July 24, 2009 at 7:10 am

lol….i love it! i'm the same way… sometimes people say i'm negative, but only because it's not what they want to hear! i can't help being honest! that story is hilarious!!


2 Night Owl Mama July 24, 2009 at 7:37 am

LOL luv the post so Truthful and nO I wouldn't give anything less either good for you 🙂

I nominated YOU 🙂

stopping by from the sits to Stalk you today…ooops I mean say hello


3 Equidae July 24, 2009 at 10:12 am

lol that is sooooo true! i love honesty but then when i ask my hubby's opinion on clothes or anything i usually never take his opinion LOL which makes him really angry hehe…..oh yes women are complicated beyond comrehension of themselves!


4 Tammy Howard July 24, 2009 at 11:28 am

"Does it make you feel happy?"
"Not anymore."

Oh man. Classic.


5 MommaYoung July 24, 2009 at 12:19 pm

Loving Thumper… Thanks for your honesty, it is refreshing…


6 Karen July 24, 2009 at 12:31 pm

Hello! I'm stopping by from SITS this fine (and very early) morning!

I am right there with you. I hate when people ask for the opinion they know I'm going to give when it's the exact opposite of what they want to hear. Why do girls do that??

What's sad is that I know I do it to other people, too!


7 Amanda @ Serenity Now July 24, 2009 at 12:46 pm

Good for you for being honest!!! I am good at encouraging people, but if I can't think of a nice comment, I just don't say anything…this happens sometimes with the SITS featured people…I just say "Happy SITS Day" or something lame. 😉


8 Stephanie July 24, 2009 at 1:11 pm

lolol! I love this!

Stopping by from SITS!


9 Teresha and Damon July 24, 2009 at 1:33 pm

LOL! I am the same way. I follow the "Law of Thumper" (adding that phrase to my vernacular) and the Code of The Original GW (George Washington)-I cannot tell a lie. So when people ask me what I think…don't expect anything less than the honest truth. I don't sugarcoat either.


p.s. how do you make those little hearts in your comments?


10 Lee July 24, 2009 at 1:59 pm

No wonder I like you so much! #1 on SITS today…I hate you and I envy you!!


11 Peterson Family July 24, 2009 at 2:18 pm

I'm the same way! When people ask my opinion, I always say "Do you REALLY want to hear my opinion? I don't sugarcoat it…" and sometimes they retract wanting to know exactly what I think.

My mom and grandmother were brutally honest and I am too. Just carrying on that family tradition!


12 dddiva July 24, 2009 at 3:37 pm

Hahahahaha me too, me too.

Stopping by from The Mommy Files- I'm not going to BlogHer this year either. Maybe next year.
I'm going to vote now, good luck!
Stop by and tell me how fabulous I am. Lie if you have to. 😛 Hahahahaha I am teasing. If you can't tell your friends they need deodorant they aren't your friends. 😉


13 Robbie S. Redmon, LPC July 24, 2009 at 4:10 pm

You are too funny! Congrats on being #1 at SITS! Stop by, I posted excerpt#22 of A Sharing of Marital Secrets today!


14 Mod Podge Amy July 24, 2009 at 4:35 pm

I'm just like ya! I enjoyed reading this. Blog <3 back to you!!!


15 Kimi July 24, 2009 at 4:41 pm

Oh you have got to love honesty. My hubby is this way. He will not sugar coat. If you ask "Do these jeans make me look fat" you'd dang sure better be ready to hear the truth, lol.


16 PictureGirl July 24, 2009 at 4:56 pm

Your posts make me smile.

I always want people to be honest with me when I ask their opinion.

Me, if you ask my opinion, I'm too worried about hurting your feelings so I'm not so honest.


17 Kelly's Ideas July 24, 2009 at 5:22 pm

Very funny – cuz it's so true! Enjoyed your posts – will come back.


18 blueviolet July 24, 2009 at 5:44 pm

LOL, that's too funny! I appreciate that kind of honesty (depending on how it's delivered) 😉


19 Badass Geek July 24, 2009 at 6:13 pm

Hey, I always say, "If the truth hurts, take Advil."

Good stuff.


20 Jeanette July 24, 2009 at 7:48 pm

The Man Gene…so true…I've got it too. Great Blog!


21 Sarah July 25, 2009 at 12:51 am

LOL – you are totally right. If you don't want an opinion it's not fair to ask for one.


22 Dee July 25, 2009 at 1:20 am

My husband is brutally honest so yah you've got the man gene. No frou frou here.

OK you got me to click the award thingy.


23 Navyvet July 25, 2009 at 2:47 am

Women dress for women. Men dress for themselves (usually..at least I do). I am so happy to have the MAN gene! LOL


24 Kimberly July 25, 2009 at 5:00 am

Love the law of thumper!


25 lvlc July 25, 2009 at 5:28 pm

Honestly! You are hilarious! lol 🙂


26 Tami (Pixeltrash) July 26, 2009 at 2:07 am

I figure if someone bought the dress, she must really like it. So, I would probably try not to hurt her feelings. I guess I don't have that man gene! LOL! I'd say something like, "It isn't my favorite color, but it is very YOU." LOL!


27 Tami (Pixeltrash) July 26, 2009 at 2:07 am

Oh… and I forgot… Happy SITS Sharefest!


28 Kelly July 27, 2009 at 2:26 am

Love it! I'm kinda the same way… I believe in complete and total honesty, but I hate telling someone what I know they don't want to hear. So many times I will just nod and smile and go mute… and I love your blog. That's me being honest 🙂


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