How To Live Your Dreams

by Sherry Riter in Lessons of Life

Dreams do NOT come true. We have been programmed to believe that getting what we want requires a miracle and miracles don’t happen to us.


Let’s approach this a little differently.

If I had told you a few years ago that a commercial plane filled with people can land on water, not crash and explode, and no one die or be seriously hurt, would you have believed me? Probably not because SO MANY things would have to be done just right in order for that to be a reality. Basically, it would take a miracle.

Obviously, miracles happen in the Hudson River.

Pictured below is of a vibrant 16 year old cheerleader, competitive gymnast, and an excellent student. Well, she is a miracle too. Samantha Scholl is a double-heart transplant survivor.

Obviously, miracles happen for Samantha Scholl.

You CAN have your dreams come true!

Everywhere people offer negativism. It can be overcome! Here are some of the reasons that you may believe that you are unable to live your dreams and solutions to overcome them.

  • I am scared that I will FAIL!
  • This is a whopper! Fear holds us back from trying to do the best things in life because we can not “see” success. People who are dieting often put a picture of a thin person (1 or 2) on the refrigerator door to help inspire them to lose weight. That is a visual reminder that success CAN happen! It removes the thought of failure from our minds. So post a picture or a motivational thought somewhere you see it…screensaver, bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, on top the television. When you get that scary feeling of possible failure creep into your mind, BE THE BOSS! Kick it out! Think positive SUCCESSFUL thoughts! We can do what we think we can do! Did you catch that word “think”…control your thoughts.

  • Everyone tells me it is impossible.
  • So what! You are not “everybody” and if they don’t have your vision, don’t talk to them about it. Tell them that you like them, love them, and/or respect them, but that you do not wish to discuss your future plans with them. The end. They don’t get a say so…YOU can not succeed if you believe the negative thoughts of those that you love and are closest to you. Find positive people who will encourage you towards success. Seek mentors, groups and others who are on the same path that you are running down.

  • You can not have the attitude of Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind, “I’ll think about it tomorrow.” Procrastination kills the deal. Do it NOW! Run and don’t look back!

  • I have other commitments for my energy, time and money.
  • Duh! There is a time and place for everything. Learning to prioritize and rearrange schedules can be tough, but NOT impossible. All dreams do not require money from the first second of inception. Take it one day or one week at a time and add as you go. Tighten your belt, so to speak, in other areas to afford the “extra” for this project. If you want to live your dream, the dream has to also be a passionate commitment.

  • I don’t know where to start because I don’t have a plan.
  • Brainstorm and write it all down any way you can get it onto paper. Neatness, sentence structure and spelling doesn’t matter right now. When you are finished with your multiple pages of thoughts, put them into a neat and orderly outline of events. Under each event or step that is necessary to get to the end goal and dream, list all the relevant thoughts of what is needed to succeed at each step. Seek out the knowledge of your mentors and other people who have succeeded in fulfilling their dreams. This is a process. Just like you can’t eat an elephant in one bite or climb Mount Everest in a day, you can not reach your ultimate dream in an afternoon. It is really important to remember at this point to ENJOY THE PROCESS. Don’t get so boggled down in the minutia that you forget that this is your dream and dreams are supposed to be something that adds to your happiness.

  • I get overwhelmed with every day life and my dream begins to feel like an impossibility.
  • In order to be successful at acquiring and living your dream, there must be a constant passion bubbling inside of you. Have you seen the commercial of the bowl of Cream of Wheat hovering over the child’s head as he leaves for school? He ate the warm, nutritious cereal and it is supposed to be satisfying his hunger and nutrition needs while it lingers with him until lunch. Cute commercial and relevant in my explanation. Your passion must hover over your head throughout the day. It must be a constant thought in the back of your mind. It has to remain a picture in your mind. You have written down your dream and plotted the steps. Now you need to write the story of your dream. How would the perfect scenario go? Elaborate with a whole bunch of adjectives. Write a living story that is filled with passionate inspiration. When it is finished, read it at least once a day. This story is going to become your reality. Reading it will rekindle the passion and excitement of your dream. The “end” is going to be wonderful, but the “trip” should be equally as fantastic.

“A dream is a wish your heart makes.”

“Even miracles take a little time.”
~The Fairy Godmother in Cinderella~

“All of our dreams can come true
— if we have the courage to pursue them.”
~Walt Disney!

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Sherry Riter is also known as The Redhead Riter. Sherry is witty, intelligent and addictive as she writes about cooking, family, marriage, failures, blogging tips, art, humor, inspiration, travel, PTSD and aging. Her goal is to inspire, motivate, educate and to make her audience laugh. Sherry embraces being a redhead and helps others to see the redhead point of view…"In some eras redheads were worshipped while others thought us witches. Personally, I like the former and think every day is 'Love a redhead day!'" She can also be found on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, Linkedin, tweeting as @TheRedheadRiter and you can subscribe to her free blog feed.

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1 parentingBYdummies July 13, 2009 at 10:45 am

Very inspiring! And, I'm all about Cinderella so if she's endorsing I'm believing! thanks for stopping by my place. I love SITS:)


2 Heather July 13, 2009 at 11:27 am

Thanks for checking out my blog!

This is great advice! I recently decided that I wanted to lose weight and I had to go through all of these steps. Although all of my friends were very supportive and never told me it was impossible.

Like with anything in life, people have to remember to be patient. Thing just don't change immediately (well, sometimes they do but most of the time they don't).


3 Lee July 13, 2009 at 1:13 pm

Your posts are so inspirational! I love to read your blog! Thanks for starting my days off well!!


4 Scrappy Girl July 13, 2009 at 5:38 pm

Wonderful thoughts…the pic of those people coming off that plane is amazing!


5 Melissa B. July 13, 2009 at 7:05 pm

I always tell my kids…you can't lose if you don't try! Thanks for a thought-provoking post…


6 Debbie in Nashville July 13, 2009 at 8:07 pm

Your posts are always so inspiring and they really brighten up my day! Thanks for the wonderful thoughts and inspiration.


7 carma July 13, 2009 at 8:38 pm

Bravo! I am guilty of a lot of these excuses myself…


8 Tammy Howard July 13, 2009 at 9:44 pm

What a wonderful, positive post!


9 Alicia July 13, 2009 at 9:51 pm

oh so true! and i love the disney references!! all i need to know about life i learned from cinderella =)


10 cgw @ accidentally, kle July 13, 2009 at 10:33 pm

great post! i'm going to bookmark this 🙂 x


11 Yaya July 13, 2009 at 10:39 pm

Okay, you just made me think way too much, but in a good way. You know, I have these high hopes of having a baby. But I get overwhelmed, a lot, mostly at work. Yet my job isn't hard or anything, I'm a nanny. But after I read the last bit I realized I get overwhelmed working because everywhere I take the kids there are pregnant women and it's like a smack in the face. Hmmm….perhaps I need a different job.


12 I am Harriet July 13, 2009 at 11:00 pm

Hi there.
I'm just checking to see how the comment challenge is going for you this month.

that was an amazing post!
Happy Commenting!


13 Lisa Petrarca July 13, 2009 at 11:08 pm

Your Blog is AWESOME! the post was perfect…like I was meant to read it! I have been struggling with continuing to write a book that I have started.

It's my passion, my dream, BUT yes always the BUT…fear, self doubt and constant procrastination always creep in.

Thanks for the motivation I needed today and for stopping by my Blog!


14 Lady Di July 13, 2009 at 11:31 pm

Very inspirational post. My nemesis is procrastination. It gets me every time!! Thanks for stopping by at Mama Drama.


15 Multiple personalities.. July 14, 2009 at 12:04 am

These are some mighty inspiring words! I agree with you, miracles do happen and dreams do come true, they just usually happen when we least expect it, or when we're not paying attention. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog today! It was lovely 'meeting' you!


16 Amanda @ Serenity Now July 14, 2009 at 3:40 am

I loved this post! 🙂 Thank you so much for the visit today…I may just have to do a reveal of the black and white board this week–check back in. 🙂


17 Darcel July 14, 2009 at 3:41 am

Great post! I got chills reading it. My daughter loves Cinderella. She dresses like her and everything.
I want her to always have a dream in her heart.

Thank you for reminding me to stay on the path to my dream.


18 Colleen July 14, 2009 at 6:17 am

Such a great post! Thanks!


19 Kathryn July 15, 2009 at 4:48 am

This is very inspiring! Definitely something to think about!


20 Absolutely Positive March 18, 2010 at 6:54 pm

I LOVED this post! It is a nice breath of fresh air to read such uplifting, postive and encouraging words! Thanks!!




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